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I am mad at Hospice

I didn't know what was going on until it was way too late. My dad had bone cancer. There was no cure. He was up and talking until Hospice came on the scene. We thought Hospice was going to just take care of him until he naturally passed away. I had always heard such good things about Hospice. Well, my dad came home from the hospital on Friday and went into a coma on Sunday.
He died that next Friday. Well, I didn't figure it out until months later when I was doing research online. I couldn't understand how he could have been so alert, then go into a coma
3 days later. Well, he was euthanized by hospice. The put him into a morphine induced coma and kept increasing the dose, withholding food and water until he died. I AM VERY ANGRY!

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So sorry
by: Anonymous

I couldn't agree with you more. Your story sounds just like mine with my mom. I'm so sorry.
I wouldn't send my dying dog to hospice.
Take care,
Kim

Mom killed by hospice and facility nurse
by: Anonymous

My mother passed away on November 27, 2011. In the time Mom was in assisted living the nurses just wanted to blame residents' behaviors on the elusive "pain" and put the residents on opiates to dope them into an easy to manage zombie state. She nearly killed Mom in July by going behind our backs to get the doctor to put her on routine hydrocodone and then methadone via the hospice. I got both of those meds discontinued but we nearly lost Mom and lost many quality months with her.

The facility nurse and a nurse practitioner had months previously placed Mom on Seroquel against the FDA's black box warning that it and other anti-psychotics are not to given to the elderly. Then neither of them monitored her blood sugar levels. And, neither did the hospice claiming that their patient's bill of rights states that the patient understands the hospice will not be seeking a cure but patient comfort. Mom was on hospice for breast cancer so how did taking her off of Seroquel translate into seeking a cure for cancer? I kept trying to tell hospice that there needed to be some changes to Mom's medications but all they wanted to do was increase the use of Ativan and add morphine (Roxanol). I think my mother was developing Seroquel anger and diabetes leading to ketosis and then ketoacidosis from the Seroquel, she had a distinctive odor that occurs in the presence of ketosis but they refused to check her for diabetes.

I was caught in the middle between the my dad who was trusting whatever the "experts" recommended, the facility nurse who just wanted to sedate the residents for her convenience and the hospice who refused to change the medication orders given by any other physicians and kept pressing to increase the amount of morphine and Ativan she was being given.

The day after Thanksgiving Mom wasn't doing well. I called the hospice in. I asked what support I would be given and was told "you are on your own". I was left alone to sit with my mother while she sat up and cried out, "what is going on with me?" I despise the hospice and the facility nurse for the abusive and uncaring way they treated my mother and me. I think hospice stands for Help Old Sick People Into Cadaverhood Early. Hospice is legalized euthanasia and murder of the sick. I will never again look to hospice nor trust anyone that suggests using hospice. In my opinion, hospice has strayed from what the founder sought to now being federal government provided euthanasia via our tax dollars.

So sorry
by: Anonymous

I read each and every post as I have any responses forwarded to my email. I am very sorry and feel each and every one of your pain. I have been there and even though I lost my mom in June, it feels just like yesterday. I sincerely hope you are all able to find some kind of peace. I am still unfortunately waiting for mine to come. Take care.

Hospital refused to treat my husband's pneumonia because he had terminal brain cancer
by: Queenie

My husband had terminal brain cancer but was responding well to treatment. Very well. He had extreme family issues (financial and personal- that didn't involve me) He was depressed and lost his appetite. His Dr put him on Prozac and set up Palliative care who then put him on Hospice. Palliative care and Hospice were made aware of the family matters by his kids and they saw a side of a him that he wasn't able to defend. He developed pneumonia but the hospice nurse didn't offer antibiotics even though he had refused to sign a DNR. They didn't seem to 'like' him and when he later asked to go to the hospital, it took a day+ for them to get him there. The admitting Dr in ICU stated 'he's going to DIE anyway!' when I insisted my husband wanted treatment. He had refused to sign the DNR for 2 social workers, the palliative care and hospice nurses at home. During the family meeting with the staff to outline treatment, we were told they would not treat the pneumonia and he died the next day. We were told they don't practice physician assisted suicide during that meeting. He was murdered.

Family tragedy
by: Anonymous

My friend's 84 yr old mom had COPD was put in morphine induced coma and was starved to death dehydrated was euthasized by hospice clinic/house too and died the same way in FL. Went in on a wednesday eve with DNR and died the following Sunday. Her daughter, my friend, could not ask any medical questions to medical staff about her mom's condition, treatment because the other daughter, primary caregiver had a power of attorney (that was later discovered) barring her sister and her son (patient's grandson, her only grandchild)from all knowledge of their mother. Both daughters are co-executors of deceased mom will and daughter with power of attorney (signed 9/2011)states is cutting her sister and nephew out of their mom's valid Last Will and Testament executed 2004. Their mom just passed on Jan 9/2012, funeral was Jan 12/2012. The sister with POA stated she paid for funeral with her own money and refused to let her sister take part in arrangements. My friend has hired legal counsel and has began Will probate process without sister who is suspected of hiding or stealing all their mom's money, real property, life insurance, and has retained legal counsel to investigate all circumstances surrounding her mom's death. My friend is not only dealing with the sad loss of her dear mom, but the very hurtful way she and her family were treated by hospice and her sister is shocking. Please someone help us bring peace to this family.

Morphine overdose
by: Anonymous

My dad was working on friday, up on a ladder! Dead by monday. Bladder cancer was advanced, and on saturday he went to hospital because of inevitable reaction to radiation (which it turns out was palliative, even though they lied and told him he'd soon be out playing golf). He wanted to go home. On sunday, he ate dinner, had some ice cream, and hospice showed up. He had incredible lung capacity (professional singer, could swim underwater for 3+ minutes) - but hospice had my sister give him morphine EVERY HOUR by mouth. His breathing became shallow, he couldn't talk, etc. I made it there from out of state just an hour before he died. Before I drove to see him, talked with the doctor, who said 2 to 4 weeks left, no hurry to see him! That was the doctor who had treated him at the hospital a day before he died! Why did I hurry home? Because my brother-in-law worked in a job related to hospital actuarial services, and he said the average length of time a hospice bed is at someone's home is THREE days! So based on that, my dad would survive hospital 2-4 days only, and it was more like 30 hours.

I lost my mom recently.
by: Anonymous

My mom had alzheimer's disease. I made a mistake and trusted hospice. Now that my mom passed away I kick myself for letting her get hospice. I am very heart broke by the loss of my mom. I called hospice asking for help because,my mom had trouble breathing and was making a strange sound as she tired to breath. They took their time getting here. I kept calling them begging for help for my mom but,they say their nurse is on the other side of the city. When the nurse finally got there she did nothing to save my mom's life. She labored to breath but,the nurse did not help my mom. She passed away and I feel so alone.

Thou shall not kill
by: Anonymous

After interviewing a few hospices, we have come to the conclusion that if it is legal to kill innocent babies by abortion then it is certainly legal to kill older people through hospice. Please don't fall for their "we will care for your loved ones as if they are our own, comfort care crap. Yeah they will be comfortable alright. In a casket. Once patients are over/under medicated, starved, dehydrated and GOD knows whatever else, hospice knows family members will believe he/she was terminally ill anyway so there will be no questions or suspicions. Hospice was talking funerals arrangements on their first visit and even had not only the nerve but the gall to leave a booklet titled " Gone From My Sight. They rush to prepare you because death is hastened through them. What's even worse is that they will talk YOU and FAMILY into adminstering morphine etc. to your loved one by saying let's work together as a family or we will do this together and they offer to keep their deadly toxins in your refrigerator! GOD is the only one who can give life therefore HE is the only one who should take it away. HE will judge those who play GOD with other people lives and when the time comes, it will not be pretty! Woe to them!!!

Have some pity
by: Anonymous

I only hope that if and when I'm terminally ill, and in pain - and there is no hope of recovery - that someone has the good sense and kindness to put me in a hospice and let me go peacefully and quickly. Going through this with my beloved father-in-law now, and I only pray that the end comes quickly and mercifully.

so sad
by: Anonymous

I am so sorry to hear about everything your Grams had to go through. Everything I just read brought back horrible memories for me. Hospice does exactly what you said. "She has cancer so she's dying. She needs morphine. She's in pain." Every time she moved or even didn't move they wanted to give her pain meds. It wasn't for her comfort, it was to slow down her breathing and eventually kill her. "She's dying anyway" is their motto. It makes me sick that this is legal and going on every single day. I miss my Mom horrible every single day.

Hospice...NOT what they say they are!
by: Anonymous

My one and only time ever having to deal with hospice or anything like it...I WILL recomend to NOBODY! Because of everything I have witnessed over the last 3 months I now know what they do and believe the only reason this goes on is job security for medical profession. My 93 yr old grandmother who WAS as healthy as any 50 yr old is dying because they can't see past there noses on their faces. They think "94" mmmh "94, well thats pretty old, yap she's gonna die soon anyways, so this is what we're gonna do". THey're going to dope her up and ease her pain.
My Grams' parents and grandparents and parents before them all lived well into their nineties and 100's, she'd never taken pills for ANYTHING her entire life, now thanks to Hospice place she's been overdosed with methadone, morphine, lorazepam, and a couple of others. Turned her into looney tunes, confused her and for the last four days had her hooked up to a pain pump that kept her from being able to eat, drink and talk. They had a nurse (1 of 3) for the first 24 hrs after hooking her up to pump, for "monitoring"...12 hrs after at 8 am when I stood at her bedside my grams was so doped up as well as not seeing well at all now ,she tried to speak, but couldn't and she was moving her arms around (her sights bad) from her confusion and the nurse immediatly grabs the pain machine to give her yet another dose! When I told her to take her hands off of it, that she's not in pain..I offended her! I'm not even bold enough to even try to "interpret what my grams was saying and i've been by her side for 4 mo's, this so-called nurse that had been there for maybe 4 hrs is 100% certain that her flailing her arms and trying to talk meant "shes in pain"! That was Monday nite..this is FRiday..we had the pump stopped...why?? you ask..? Cuz those 4 days she couldn't drink eat or talk...and this is what they wanted all along. Are these people for real? Do they ALL have a GOD complex? My grams has a 20 yr old hip replacement, a year and half ago she had a small boil like thing on inside of her leg, a doc back then said it was an "ingrown hair" so he removed it. In late Oct. she went back to hospitol..CTscan showed an infection coming from old hip. So she gets new hip and a couple of IV's (antibiotics) , a week later she's coming home with "hospice" because the doc called them in on it. Now she's dying. A perfectly healthy 93 yr old, all screwed up because of this hospice crap! She had lived with this infection for going on 2 yrs...not knowing about it, just in alot of pain. So after she gets hip replaced ,after the infection being treated she's going to die? How is this possible? I know now! It's this doc and the nurses from the "hospice" place thats killing her. Remember "oh well she's 93" "she's dying" thats their motto! I reccomend hospice to NOONE!

Systematic Death
by: Al Rucker

My father was under palliative care under Hospice and his nurse said he needed to be admitted to get antibiotics for his bed sores. Prior to him leaving home he was laughing, eating great...strong as a ox though he was bedridden from a stroke in 2009. No sooner than him getting admitted he was given morphine I found out because of the pain from the sores. I along with two others had informed my fathers actions when he is turned or touched and that it was not pain. He was like a zombie....then I was told they had cut the dosage down. I thought maybe they were doing some invasive procedures, come to find out they were doing no more than what was being done at home. During this time and after the fact found out the was getting no fluids or food. So they were told not to give him any more meds...ok...so when I talked with the doctor she tells me he has less than six months to live...this was on a Monday...early Tuesday morning they gave him another dose of morphine...when I found I I requested he be released immediately....then the doctor said 2 weeks or less. The hold time they had this smile. Prior to going in he was on no meds or oxygen so the old thing of his age...he is 95. Bottom line I have him at home and he ate very well, I just hope and pray he gets back where he was. The Hospice House in Statesville, NC, looks so beautiful the danger is when one enters and they come across as being so caring......its a slow death trap and the passion is FAKE!!!!......

Unsure as to the end of my dad's life.
by: Anonymous

Reading all these comments have made me feel that something is wrong. I was in the same position after loosing my dad in October 2011.
He was diagnosed with a brain tumor and given months to live. We could see he was deteriorating but it was only when he visited the hospice for the day, to give my mum a break, when they stated they would keep him in as he was extremely poorly. On the evening of the next day when i visited, he was quite irritated and wanted to get out of bed, the nurse stated he had been given some morphine and would be best to leave him where he was. I was annoyed and knew my dad wanted a smoke so took no notice, if my dad wanted a smoke he would have one. I wheeled him outside and help him smoke his last rollup. After this he told us to go home he didn't seem his self. The next day dad was half conscious calling out my mum and his brother's name. He wanted to get up but when we tried he was weak. This irritated my dad and he began to lash out, straight away they gave him something to relax him, but this was the sign of no return. Every time my dad started to come around they would up his intravenous injection. I queried several times as to what was happening as he seemed ok the day before. I'm still unsure if it was for the best or not!! The night before he died they came to turn him which I was told afterwards they should have left him. They even changed his sheets knowing he had hours to live. I will never forget the painful look on my dad's face when they did this, I'm sure they do this to quicken the process. I hope I'm wrong.

its happening right now
by: Anonymous

Going through this right now. Demanded they resume his feedings. They've been starving him for 3 full days. No water either. Jerold me he was hungry Saturday its now Monday. Too much morphine as well. Talking to a doctor and an attorney tonight then most likely removing him from hospice house tomorrow morning and will take him to the hospital. They are assisting dying making him die is not what I signed up with hospice for.

Hospice Home killed my mom in less than 4 hrs
by: Anonymous

I took my mom to a hospice home because she had terminal cancer and the dr. said she only had a few weeks to live. She was alert and fine the evening I took her in, which was one month ago. I asked if I could leave after a couple of hours to go eat and the nurse said "fine, take your time, I will watch her and have a student nurse sit with her." When I got back from eating my mom died 10 minutes later. They had pumped her so full of morphine and 2 other drugs that her body could not take it. They gave her over 5 times the amount of morphine that she had been getting. So they basically killed her with medicines because the nurse said mom kept trying to get out of bed and was being "too noisy". Now they won't even call me back to answer my questions. Has anyone had any luck suing over this type of over medicating of morphine? I feel like calling an attorney. I never even had a chance to tell my mom goodbye. I know I let her down but I didn't know the damn hospice home would kill her in less than 4 hours!!!!

WOW -
by: Anonymous

We just experienced similar situation w/my father-in-law! He has emphysema & is just starting to not be able to do things for himself, but wishes to remain home as long as possible. Hospice was recommended as they will come as little or often as you like & he could stay home & do what he could. Told they are caring, compassionate people & would be there til the end. Apparently his end wasn't going to be soon enough for them! Immediately they started giving him morphine. He was not in any pain. Told it would 'help' his breathing. He became constipated, lost his appetite. They would have known that would happen & should have had him on something to help w/the constipation & for us to prepare different meals. They increased the dose within 2 weeks. Had him on liquid & pills!! Over the weekend he became so loopy, he wasn't making any sense. One of his sons stayed w/him Saturday. He called me Sunday & the 1st thing I told him was quit taking that bleeping morphine! I didn't like the idea of them coming in, not even getting to know him, his medical history or anything & the 1st thing they do is get him on morphine?? By Monday we had him completely off it & he has slowly made progress to feeling better & getting his appetite back, but this was still a huge setback in his overall health. He didn't know if he was on foot or horseback! Yes, his disease is terminal. But he should be allowed to die in Gods time. These people took a man that was sharp, still fairly independent for his state & wasn't given a short time to live - we just thought this would help him... make life easier for the time he had left. I can't imagine the guilt we would have if he wasn't able to call & wasn't checked on even one day longer. From this experience & what I have read here,I would not recommend hospice care to anyone. This is too common what they do to people & not what we thought it was all about...

Don't let a love one go to a hospice house
by: hospicecustomer

When my wife enter a hospice house for pain management, she could converse, walk short distances with a walker, bath herself with a wash cloth, fed herself, sit up, watch TV, sit in a chair, look at a newspaper, etc. With a little help, she could take care of her basic needs. A few hours after entering a hospice house, hospice managed to turn her into a bedridden zombie that could no longer do any of these things. Of coarse they blamed this rapid, almost instantaneous, decline on her. Hospice claimed that it was completely innocent of this immediate decline. Hospice fed her almost nothing and gave her little to drink. Actually, they almost immediately put her in a condition where she could not eat and could only occasionally drink small amounts. After I complained, hospice reduced the medication, so now my wife can tell someone that she is thirsty, hungry, or in pain. She began to eat and drink more and do some minor things for herself. Unfortunately, hospice had weaken her so much that she remained an invalid. Over time, hospice kept increasing medication until she returned to a zombie state. Based on my observations and comments that some of the people made around here, I have come to the conclusion that hospice?s mission is not so much to ease the passage to death as it is to hasten the passage. Hospice?s policy seems to be to get the patient to the morgue as quickly as possible. It seems to be practicing a form of covert euthanasia. If this observation is false, then why does hospice allow patients to become extremely dehydrated? I am convinced that hospice has taken days if not weeks off my wife's life.

They did nothing at all
by: Anonymous

My Mom came home a few weeks ago and when I called the first time at around 10pm to talk about a concern I had about the blood in her urn and she did nothing but tell me it was ok so the next time I called at 2am and said she is doing worst and she still has blood and she is uncomfortable and I need help she said stop looking at her and go to sleep I would like to say to all the nurses that take a job like this better have good people skills and companions for the people.

She is gone now but they will not here the last of me and if I were you guys to let it go.

hospice car
by: Anonymous

WE HAVE ALLOWED THE LEGAL MURDER OF LITTLE BABIES FOR YEARS DONT YOU KNOW THE OLD FOLKS ARE NOW ON THE HIT LIST IT A CRYING SHAME I JUST LOST MY MOM AT THE HOSPICE HOUSE NOT MUCH FEEDING TAKEN OFF ALL VITAL MEDS BUT PUMP THE MORPHINE IN I FEEL LIKE I MIGHT HAVE TRUSTED THE WRONG PEOPLE OR SHOULD HAVE WATCH CLOSER IM FEELING LIKE I LET MY MOTHER DOWN SOMETHINGS TERRIBLE WRONG. IF THIS NOTE PROLONGS ONE HOSPICE CARE PATIENT LIFE I WILL BE GRATEFUL UNFORTUNATELY ITS TO LATE FOR MY MOM AND I ALMOST FEEL LIKE I KILLED HER FOR ALLOWING THIS

hospice is dangerous to use
by: Anonymous

my husband passed away a month ago. I will just make this short.He was a 2 yr lg cancer survivor but caught pneumonia and had copd. He never had any pain and never took a pain pill.He went to the er with a cut on his hand and the er doc thought he should stay overnight for intervenous antibiotics.
They bombarded him with fluids and antibiotics.He went in on a Sat. and by Fri nxt week he was home on hospice which I thought they would rehab him. Instead they made and stay in bed and gave him morphine and no food. Instead of building him up they made him die from no food or drink and plenty of pain meds even though he never had any pain. They also could not say if the cancer had come back and I don't believe it did.I hate myself for letting this happen.
My 2 daughters were also recruited to help with the care. I can't believe this is legal. They are playing doctor and killing people

Hospice is a lie and a scam
by: Crista

My mother had Alzheimer's, but we still shared many happy times. Her doctor had said she was doing great. She started vomiting and having trouble breathing...I made a huge mistake, I called 911, they took her to the hospital where they said she had a growth in her esophagus that had spread to her stomach (not noticed at their own hospital two months earlier?). They said she was not a good candidate for surgery, chemo or PEG tubes...that she would more than likely die as a result of operation, suffer due to chemo and the prognosis was not good. The best thing to do was Hospice. Catholic Hospice seemed so nice. The aid said she would be another daughter to my mother...I was feeding her every two hours, liquid and puree and she did not aspirate or vomit once. She was happy she smiled. I'd kiss her and she would kiss me. Then she became constipated, I told them; they said to wait...then when mom was obviously terribly uncomfortable the nurse and doctor said a disimpaction was the best treatment, I thought they knew what was best. I held my mom as they did it, she cried and screamed but was conscious. I told her she would be better soon. That's what the nurse and aid told me. The nurse said she had to give her the tip of a dropper of Roxanol that my mom was suffering. I stupidly agreed. Mom went into this catatonic like state...this was on Thursday, she died on Sunday. I will never forgive myself for trusting them. The nurses and doctors all tell you it is the body which is preparing to die...the system shuts down...my mom wanted to get up just a few days before...she was sitting at the bed, had been sitting in her rocking chair the week before...Oh and these angels of mercy, who were so "kind"...once my mother died, did not come to speak to me...no explanations...no condolences. I was sent a "form" condolence card. If you are thinking of placing your loved one in Hospice, make certain you realize they have no scruples. They lie to your face and then just walk away as if nothing had happened. Now hospice won't let me see my mother's hospice records. They say I need a court order or a subpoena. If you want your loved one to die without a chance...then by all means, sign them up. If you want your loved one to at least have an opportunity to recover do not trust them to Hospice. These people approach you at the hospital as if they are angels. They are not angels. They are very good actors and actresses. They care nothing for anyone's well being. My mother was an extraordinary human being. Her great flaw was to believe in me and trust me...I let her down. I believed and trusted people I ought never have allowed near her...in my ignorance, fear, and desperation...I made the biggest mistake of my life...it cost my mother her life and me the only person I had in this world.

Hospice is legalized murder!
by: Anonymous

They get furious if you don't have a DNR. They get furious if you take your loved one to the ER. They get furious if you so much as question anything they say. I am so sick of hospice right now. All they want is to make my mother comatose so that she has no say and is no bother to them. They get paid either way but the less they have to do, the better. They all make me sick, including the oh so sweet social workers. There is only one goal for hospice...death! And the sooner the better! No dignity for the patient, nothing. Remember one thing...you know your loved one better than they ever could. Keep fighting. Get rid of hospice if you have to. They are SUPPOSED to be there to help. Unfortunately, that's not always the case.

Bad Practices
by: Anonymous

My mother died 1/21/11 in hospice care. The story is the same as many others I have read on this site. They were brought in to manage her pain. The gave her higher and higher doses of morphine and with held food and water. I watched her die and I now feel guilty for not doing more to stop it. She had a DNR, but it didn't direct anyone to deny her food and water. I too was told she would aspirate it. Funny, she didn't aspirate the liquid morphine that they put in her mouth. I am sad beyond belief and very disillusioned. At first I was grateful when hospice entered the picture, now I regret it.

my dad
by: Anonymous

my dad has just passed away in a hospice.
I thought he was going to have his pain relief managed but instead i now am in the mind that a hospice is a legal form of assisted suicide.
Not once did we see a doctor or nurse with anything but a ruler to measure the morphine in the syringe driver.

When i asked a nurse how she could do the job she replied "its so rewarding" which i found hard to understand as very few patients walked out alive.
I am so angry.

Hospice ended my mothers life
by: Anonymous

MY MOTHER HAD A HEART ATTACK AND WAS TAKEN TO THE HOSPITAL AND PUT ON LIFE SUPPORT. TESTS WERE PERFORMED AND THE DOCTORS SAID SHE WAS BRAIN DEAD WITH NO CHANCES OF RECOVERY EVEN THOUGH SHE LOOKED LIFELESS SHE RESPONDED ON COMMAND. MY MOTHER WAS REMOVED FROM LIFE SUPPORT AND PUT INTO PALLIATIVE CARE. HOSPICE CAME IN AND GAVE HER INJECTIONS OF MORPHINE REMOVED HER FROM FLUIDS FOOD AND SO ON. MY MOTHERS VITAL SIGNS WERE GREAT. SHE SURVIVED NINE DAYS OF THIS TORTURE AND PASSED AWAY. I AM SO MAD AT HOSPICE FOR ENDING MY MOTHERS LIFE IN SUCH A INHUMANE WAY. I ONLY WISH WE COULD STOP THEM FROM TORTURING OTHER LOVE ONES WHOM ARE SUFFERING....I ASK MY SELF QUITE OFTEN, WHERE DO WE GO FROM HERE...

I do not trust hospice
by: Anonymous

My dad has been in hospice for 10 days today. He had been on life support and only me and one of my sisters thought he would breathe on his own. Two more days and he will be breathing on his own for 2 weeks. The hospice doctor said he couldn't have a feeding tube, because his body wasn't processing it. We then tried to give him applesauce and he actually drank an ounce of a chocolate shake today. Then after we left, the hospice doctor said he couldn't have anymore cause he aspirated. Wouldn't you aspirate when you were swallowing not after? I believe my mom has ill feelings towards him cause of things that happened in their past. I think she is basing her decisions on this. Is there anything my sister and I can do to take charge of him? He did not have a POA, the docs are just taking her word cause she is the wife. She has also "ordered" the doctors not to talk to my sister and I unless she can hear what we say. Does this seem right? Please help as my dad doesn't have much time left. Last night he told the nurse he didn't want the medicine, but they don't listen to him. Don't they have to? My mom keeps him so doped up that he isn't sure what is going on at times, but sometimes he has clear moments. Thanks. Septembermuse

Mother
by: Anonymous

I found my mother dead when I came home. Hospice visited that same day and failed to switch her to a new oxygen tank. She ran out of oxygen and passed away. I can't possibly convey to you how much agony this give me.

My dad is on hospice .
by: Anonymous

I feel everyones pain. I'm living proof that Hospice is just there to watch you die and get paid for it. Yes they are nice. But at what point do you say, Do you every stop to think helping does Not always mean letting someone die without a fight. I have asked my dad time and time again are you in pain. I have no trouble giving him something for pain. But every time I call because we have been through this a few years back. They just tell me you are doing a good JOB and give him something for pain or to make him sleep . He does want to sleep and not that they have told me it is best he sleeps so I can.

What crazy crap is this. I want someone to help him not kill him.... If one more person tells me I need something. I going to scream as loud as I can at them. It is My Dad that I want something Done for. He needs his stomach drained from the fluid and they are just watching him get big till he POPS. Why? Does not anyone care about him Besides ME!

They killed my Father-n-law
by: Shari

My father in law had breathing problems and fell and broke his hip. The family needed help and no one had the money to pay for a nurse so hospice was called to see if they could help with him. I sat in the hospice home watching my father in law be euthanized. My husbands mother and sister and father were all addicted to prescription drugs. Xanax, pain killers and even Phenergan, just to get their fix. So they were all for giving his dad morphine in heavy doses. I know that as a healthy adult to be given morphine in such heavy doses would probably have killed me. I have no doubt that he was euthanized by hospice nurses and that my husbands family was too ignorant to realize they were killing him.

its not fair
by: Maria

I totally agree w/you! I care less for hospice and their lies. I watched my dad struggle for 5 mos surviving all kinds of madness from the hospital. Dialysis and installed a trach and no where in Texas accepting him so i had no choice but to get those freaks.

At first they told me that he would become their father and blah blah but it took him one week and when he was gone not even a note! I watched them dope him up and little by little his eyes just closed, to never open again. My daddy has been gone only a week and it feels so good to know I'm not the only one who feels this way! some how u have given me comfort knowing I'm not alone w/ this wild emotion of anger towards them. I'm so sorry for ur loss!

Hospice is Misunderstood
by: Anonymous

I too had always heard good things about hospice, an absolute misleading group. I lost my father 24 days ago. He wanted to get up and visit with me on Friday and by Sunday he was in a coma state thanks to hospice--they induced the morphine and made us totally stop offering him water or any type of food, then he passed away by Tuesday.

Even if he had a DNR I don't agree with their methods; it seems to me it's a method of lethal injection and I'm still in shock that it is legal. Had I had control over them providing the service, if that's what it's suppose to be called, I would of thrown them out of the house.

The public should be more informed of their methods.

I feel your anger with them and sorry about your loss.

Hospice and DNR
by: Anonymous

My husband passed away on 21 Jan 2010 at home. He had pancreatic cancer that spread to his vital organs, lungs and brain stem. From the time they diagnosed him to the day he died was 8 months 3 days. My husband not only had a living will, he had a dnr and a directive that he had to die at home. Hospice was called in during the last 5 days of his illness. My husbands dnr was so specific that they could not give him food intravenously, via feeding tubes and he could not have oxygen. Two days before my husband died, he had two mini strokes. Hospice made him as comfortable as possible.

Hospice has to follow the guidelines of the patient. If there is a dnr, they must follow it exactly. Much like you, my son was very upset with hospice and how they were handling my husbands case. I finally showed him the legal documents that his father had drawn up at the lawyers, specifically spelling out his wishes. Once my son realized that this is what his father wanted, he was better able to handle and deal with the situation. I suggest that you check with your mother and hospice to see if there was a dnr and if so, what the directive stated.

I am sorry for your loss and I know how hurt and sad you are.

DNR
by: Anonymous

My Father died 1/20/09 and had a DNR Do Not Resitate. When he had a stroke, I had to watch him...for a week, basically starve to death. No intravenous feeding, nothing. It was horrible, but his wish was for his life not to be prolonged artifically. I am so sorry for the pain that you're going through. But perhaps, just perhaps he had a DNR. HH

So sorry for your loss
by: Anonymous

I am so sorry for your loss. I have heard nothing but good concerning Hospices around the country and our hospice here is a wonderful caring place. My husband of 46 years has been a Hospice patient since Thanksgiving 2009 and the love and care he is receiving there is exceedingly good. Unlike your father, my husband's pain is being well controlled and his health has actually improved since being there as they are so much more able to give him the care he needs than I am at home. There is good and bad in everything and I am sorry your experience has been so bad. My thoughts and prayers are with you in your sad loss.

MAD AT HOSPICE
by: Anonymous

Bless your heart. I sympathize with your pain.
May you find peace and closure to such a terrible
hurt and the loss of your dad.

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