I am missing, and will miss you everday Dad.

by Pete
(South Africa)

My Dad passed away very unexpectedly recently due to an aneurism. I am working in Korea at the moment and I feel guilty and cheated that I wasn't there to spend time with him before this happened.

I feel as though I will never be able to get back to "normal", my father was my confidant and my sage. If I had a problem I knew that I could go to him for advice and what he would tell me was the right way to handle the situation. He was so wise and loved all of us so unconditionally.

It just hurts so much...

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Oct 09, 2012
I am missing, and will you everyday Dad.
by: Doreen U.K.

Pete I am sorry for your loss of your father to an aneurysm. My sister's husband had an aneurysm and he is lucky to be alive as speed is needed dealing with this and some people don't make it to the operating theatre.
You were in Korea because you had a job to do. Parents raise their children to be independent and go on with their lives like they did. Grief causes the guilt to kick in. Just don't hold onto Guilt let it go. As we grow older we gain wisdom. You will also gain wisdom when you are older and can be as caring as your dad was. WE all live busy lives and wished we could spend more time with each other. But such is life DIFFICULT. More demands are made on our time. It feels like you will never get over this loss. but it will take time. Grief happens. It is a slow process. You will come through this. Hold onto HOPE.

Oct 08, 2012
Dealing with your loss
by: John

Dear Pete I have just lost my dear Dad and do understand the grief you feel.It is particularly difficult for you because you are so physically far away. I think this can increase the hurt. My advice to you is to think about how your Dad would want you to feel in relation to his death. He would expect you to grieve for him, but would not want you to allow that grief to upset your life in such a way that you felt hopeless and lost. He would want you to stabilise and try to be strong at some point. It is difficult - I hope these words help

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