I cared fr Mum for ten years, but she cared for me more.

by Jillian

I lost my beloved mum Sadie five weeks ago and being her carer for ten years (since my father died)had a very close bond. Since I now realise the strengh she gave me. I have had two operations in the last year to improve my vision and she gave courage to my brother who has a serious heart disease - all with her emotional help and support.
I miss her so much. She had a beautiful singing voice and composed her own songs. I thought that was normal and at school use to get teased when I boasted of her talent.

Through her illnesses, heart disease and lung problems she never complained. She just accepted. I promised her I would never let her go in the hospital or have a catheter.
The doctor called an ambulance when her breathing was laboured and she did need a catheter. After picking up two hospital bugs she stayed in hospital for months. She did come back to me for three weeks but sadly deteriorated and died in the local hospice.

I miss her terribly and was so sorry she suffered so much. I long to give her a cuddle and tell her I love her.
Her only daughter Jillian.

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Jul 06, 2012
I cared for mum for 10yrs but she cared for me more.
by: Doreen England

Jillian I am sorry for the loss of your Mum. You cared for her for 10 years which is a long time. It is when caring for someone that you develop an even more special Loving Bond. I found this out caring for my husband for over 3yrs. and who died 8 weeks ago from lung cancer. As a mother I know that we just do love our children and are natural caregivers asking nothing in return. So even if your Mum cared for you more. This was her calling in life. It was a lovely experience for you to be able to care for her when she needed this. It is very difficult nowadays to having a relative in care. It is not only expensive but the authorities even try to take a portion of your home as payment for these services.
You say that at school you got teased when you spoke proudly of your mother having such a beautiful voice. My children had difficulites with speaking of their successes. I have found that many people are not so quick to celebrate the successes of someone else. Unless they are mature of course. Another's success makes some individuals feel inferior. I told my children not to be so quick to share their successes unless they know the person is going to celebrate with them. otherwise they could be hurt. My children are always happy for another's success but this is not always respected.

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