I did it

by Jen
(N Ireland)

Only me again,

Sorry to get in touch again so soon but.........
Its now ten oclock in n ireland and i have got thro another big day.

My brother took me out to a local pub to watch ireland play south africa and much as we lost i had a lovely evening, my second night out in two years and i really enjoyed myself.

There is a world out there and its happening whether we like it or not, its there and we must make an effort to be part of it. I want to be a part of this living world and i will be. i really will.............

I will be .........please


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Nov 11, 2010
I did it
by: Mari

I am happy that you had fun Jen. In fact you know you can be happy again, but you need to take those steps day by day. We lost a part of our lives and now we have to learn to have enjoy life again. You are doing good, Jen. Enjoying yourself is good for you.

We all have our own way of dealing with grief. From the time I lost my husband I have remained active in church and worked hard here at the complex as assistant manager. I have a baby shower coming up for my grandaughter being held at the church, a walkathon and a volunteer activity passing out foods at one of the Pastors properties. Also my daughter is coming from LA with my grandsons for Thanksgiving, my birthday Nov 20th and a memorial service for my husband on my birthday. Also we will feed the homeless a thanksgiving dinner at church.

Any way I can give something of myself and time I am filled and it really helps.

This month is a mixture of joy and sorrow. The anniversary will be sad. My sweetheart gone for a year. But a great grandbaby will be wonderful, my first, a little girl.

It is still hard and I miss him. I miss the hugs and little things he would say.
But every day I say,''Thank you Lord for everything and for my years with my husband.''

Nov 08, 2010
did it
by: Anonymous

Having a good time...what great news. You did it indeed. So happy for you. Jeanne

Nov 07, 2010
The new place
by: heragain

Yes you will step by step it is the life that you carve out for yourself. I know that you want to change things to get out of this avalanche of loneliness. But it is hard, I know as I too try it is territory that shy or outgoing would be uncomfortable with. Sticking with what we know the comfort zone. And I feel so cowardly doing so. Knowing that things do not change if the actions remain the same. Recognising the sloth like slow movement towards the new.

I know that you want to believe, want to progress but capitalize your i's and push that self esteem out there even if it is faking it initially. Eventually you will become comfortable with the new self you become. You want and deserve it.

the word below was sunray just a peek of optimism so that we know what we are traveling toward

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