I have only slipped into the next room.

by Janet


I thought I would share this with all who are traveling this long difficult journey. May it give you comfort.

I have only slipped into the next room. I am I, you are you. Whatever we were to each other, that we still are. Call me by my old familiar name,
Speak to me in the easy way you always did. Put no difference in your tone, wear no air of solemnity or sorrow.

Play, smile, think of me, and pray for me. Laugh as we always laughed at the jokes we shared together. Let my name be ever the household name that it always was. Let it be spoken without effect, without a trace of shadow on it.

Life means all that it ever meant. It is the same that it ever was, there is unbroken continuity. Why should I be out of mind because I am out of sight. I am waiting for you, somewhere very near-just around the corner....

All is well

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Nov 25, 2012
Comfort
by: Cindy

Thank you!

Apr 11, 2012
He came into my life, and showed me what it feels like to be happy and loved:)
by: Anonymous

My fiance of 6 years passed away Jan. 25th, 2010.
He was 47 years old, and we had a 7 month old daughter together. He died of liver failure, after a long, painful, exhausting battle of three years. I had found him at his worst, and helped him recover from drug and alcohol abuse.
He was clean while with me, able to free himself from the demons that had held him imprisoned so many years. He would always tell me, "You saved my life". I never knew exactly what that meant to him. I learned after 3 yrs that he had been diagnosed with end stage liver failure a couple years before we had begun dating, and he never showed up for any appointments or treatments. I knew it had to be denial and deep drug abuse. He quit it all with me, and he went on to live 7 years longer than the single year the doctors gave him for a life expectancy. During this time, he conceived a beautiful little girl, and had 4 good healthy years before he got sick. That is a disease I would never wish on my worst enemy! Constant downward spiral, with hospital trips, and EMS trips becoming more and more common. I was signed up to be his living donor. He never complained, always was my rock, before and even during his illness. In fact, the pants he went to the hospital in, I got back, still had the quarters and a dryer sheet in the pocket from him helping me do laundry the night before he was taken by ambulance. He had a sudden, and massive bleed, without any warning, unlike all the other times he had internal bleeding. He was such a wonderful man, with a quirky sense of humor, an extraordinary ability to make people laugh, and a heart of gold. I had a rough life, and he showed me how it felt to be loved, and feel important. For the first time, I thought everything was going to be better. I think we both knew how sick he was, but death was never the topic. I guess, I was in my own denial. I had this baby knowing he may not be here. I know he must have struggled every time he looked at her to hide his pain and sadness, knowing he may not make it to her first birthday. It has been hell for me to continue without him, but his child holds such a beautiful reflection of his spirit in her smile, eyes, hair, and just her personality. I am seeing him in her more as she grows, and am so greatful I had her, and he let me enjoy my pregnancy, never discussing the impending doom, nor missing a single pre natal visit. The only time he came close to talking about dying, was asking me to "please promise you will always tell her I love her?. I am keeping that promise. She will know him, and what a special man she had for a father. I would not be able to get through this without her, and I still have my moments every day. I am not interested in dating,etc. It is complete hell, but in our daughter, he lives on. Maybe that is why he supported having a child with me. The things we will never know...My deepest empathy to you all on here. You are not alone:p

Apr 01, 2012
Missing My Dan Most Everyday
by: Anonymous

Thank you so much for this. I will read it regularly. I lost my dear Love Oct. 23, 2011. I feel so lonely without him, and wonder if there will ever be anyone I want to sit and just be with, so comfortably, so happy, and without anything else. I know I time heals all wounds. I just wish I could hug him again. I wish I could look into his eyes and smile again.

Mar 26, 2012
Feeling of comfort
by: Anonymous

I have a copy of this in my wallet, I carry it everywhere with me.
When ever I feel a melt down coming on I always get it out and read it over and over.
These words always give me comfort.
It's been 5 months since losing my partner and everyday is a struggle to go on, but these beautiful words help me immensely.
Thank you for posting.

Mar 26, 2012
I remember
by: Sandy A

Thank you for these words. It is so true. I hope others read this and please remember to mention the people we lost - for they are still with us in a sense. I want people to say my sons name and talk about him - but sadly they dont. God Bless You.

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