I just found out my friend has died - due to cancer

by Victoria Coe
(Norwich, UK)

My Friend and I met a few years back prob, about 1997 time. I worked at a Chemist and this girl called Lisa came in looking for cosmetics for her scared face due to a car accident previously.
I offered to help her out, and Lisa came to my house and we had much fun, doing makeovers.

Ever since then we were very close, used to see each other all the time.We both were in serious relationships at the time and made time for girls nights out and other nice things.

I moved away and stayed in contact with Lisa, and saw each other now and then for a catch up.
Time never interfered with our friendship, at all.

A few years later~
I got a phone call from Lisa's mum, telling me that lisa has liver cancer and was in hopsital having an op.
I was so distressed, I went straight over to visit her.
I spent some time with her and she showed me her huge scar.
I shared her birthday party with her that September.
I remember she was saying that her head kept hurting her and that she was going to hospital fr check ups but they were clear.

I got married a few years later of which Lisa shared our day with us.

After this, time went by and I was struggling with PostNatal Depression after a new baby.
I remember Lisa calling me at home and she told me I was her best mate, I asked her why she never comes to see me anymore..she always had a reason.
It just seemed like it was always me doing the trips to visit her.
I got upset and said to her that if she was my best friend, she wouldn't have to ask my babies names.
Lisa got upset back at me.
That was the last time we spoke. I then removed her from Facebook.

It's strange because, I was driving through her town a few weeks ago and was thinking should I pop in to see how she is...I never did.

The last contact with Lisa was about 2 years ago now. I had a call last night from my ex's mum, she knew we were friends and had seen her death in the local paper.

Lisa's funeral is this week and I am scared.

I called the funeral place and asked to see her, they said I couldn't, only family.
Probably the best thing.I know Cancer isn't nice to the human body.

I will miss my friend forever and have lots of nice memories.I felt my hand get touched last night, after waking at about 4am, I am sure it was Lisa telling me she is okay.

Don't leave it until it's too late to say sorry.

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