I lost my best friend and the family key.

by Bonnie

I lost my mother September 10, 2009. She went into respiratory failure the evening of September 2, 2009. She fought for life in intensive care for 8 days before losing her battle.

My mom had been suffering for several years before being diagnosed the week of her death. She was diagnosed with ALS or Lou Gehrig's Disease. She was willing to do anything to fight until she became too weak in the end.

My dad has not dealt with the loss of my mom in a safe manner. He never used to drink, but every evening he goes out to the bar (walking). He gets drunk, comes home and does it again the next night. I wish I knew how to help him deal with his grief. I know he is hurting, but we all are hurting. He is hurting us even more by his actions.

I would love to know how to approach talking to him without making him feel threatened. My parents were married for 36 years. I know he is lost without her.

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Dec 14, 2010
You must be Strong
by: Judith

Please go to your Father and tell him you know he is hurting and that you know he lost his his wife and love. Also tell him you are hurting too for her loss as your Mother but that you know she would be so very sad to know he is handling her passing in drinking and ruining his health. Tell him gently that after the drinking is done the pain will be there for him to deal with and it must be done soberly. One can not put off grief. You all went through a lot caring for her.

Tell him you are to go through this together and you will help see him through and by all means tell him about this site for him to come to and express what he is feeling and we will be supportive too.

I know of this grief as my husband passed on Sept. 14, 2010 from Parkinson's complications. Only 3 months ago today. Today is very hard for me as I attempt to decorate the table
for Christmas.

Dec 14, 2010
It sucks
by: Mami I love you

I lost my mom on 10/17/10 and I know exactly where your at and I feel for you. My parents were married 56 years and he is living in planet denial. I don't know what to say to him or approach him. He has taken his anger out on me, so for now I've chosen to let him be and try to take care of me. I know it's a hard decision, but try and grieve for your mom and put yourself together the best you can. Take 1 minute at a time and trust that God is on our side and will guide us through this.

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