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I lost my best friend

by Cindy
(China)

Last October, my husband suddenly left me and my kids. It was a shock to me and everyone! Our marriage was not perfect but it was not to the point of break-up, at least as i saw it. He had been feeling lost ever since his Dad died in 2005. I wanted to help him but he refused. He did not want to open up about his thoughts & feelings. He kept saying he needed space so I left him alone to have his space.

Now he left and filed for divorce, and is suing me for half of my property. I cannot believe this is happening to me! This is not the man I married. The man I married was kind, loving, caring, generous, funny. Why would he give up 24 years of marriage and 4 beautiful children?

I do not understand. I feel mad but I also feel sad and lonely because I lost my best friend in the world. We met at church and I was so happy because I told him he was my first truly catholic friend. we connected on a spiritual level and I thought that nothing can ever break us apart if we were connected so deeply in our Faith.

In fact, the song for our wedding was Seek ye first the Kingdom of God and all these things shall be added unto you. I kept my faith but along the way he lost his. I miss him so much. I miss his face, his smile, his kiss, his hugs, his laughter, his jokes, his stories. Together with my kids, he was my joy - we connected deeper than any other person I have ever connected with before.

Now I have lost him. I wish I did not lose him. I wish I could have done something to help him but I tried and he did not want my help. When he left, he told me he did not love me anymore. I don't believe it. I love him and will always love him. He is my best friend.

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by: Anonymous

I have not a religious person, but I am a spiritual person. When my husband of 28 yrs all of a sudden decided to leave me and destroy a family and all the years of happy memories, I completely lost myself. My spiritual belief is lost and I feel spirits that have guided me all my life have abandoned me. My spiritual side of me is completely out of balance.

To heal I need to find balance in this realm. It sounds like you still do have your religious and spiritual beliefs and you need to keep holding on to that. I do believe that if you have that in balance, your healing journey will move along and you will have support in all you believe.

I totally understand the grief that comes with someone you love and had a spiritual connection with throws that out of balance. God is with you and will help to give you guidance and eventually, peace. For myself I think it will take longer. Take care.
I can relate
by: Liz

I can truly relate to your comments. I lost my best friend and husband of 17 yrs. He left me this January. We have been separated since January and now it seems we may be ending up in divorce. We have three beautiful children together as well. I also met him at church. He has decided that he wants nothing to do with the church any longer. I know that God watches over me and he is with me through this difficult time. I pray he will give you comfort and the strength you need to get through this and move on. SO glad I found this website.

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