I lost my Darling Brendon

by vicky bassett
(brisbane aust)

Our son was riding his motor bike and was only three minutes from home when a driver of a car pulled out without giving way, my son lived for 8 days on life support then he died. He always
wanted to help people so we donated his organs in his death
he saved 5 mens lives for christmas, I miss him so much the
pain is unbearable I don't know how to go on from here I just want him back

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Mar 31, 2013
Brendon 28 years
by: Anonymous

My son Brendon turned 28 years old yesterday 31/03/1985 he was killed by a driver failing to give way, my son was on his motor bike he had only had it for 3 weeks, the pain does not go away and I miss him more each day, he died on the 4/12/2011 love you forever my darling boy

Mar 06, 2012
my darling son Brendon
by: Vicky

It has been 3 months now since you left us our darling boy, people and they just keep going as if nothing has happened when my world stopped the day you had you accident. Friends we thought we had have now left us because we are not happy enough for their social life and have not moved on fast enough for them. They were the ones you did'nt really like, so you were right they are not nice people they just think of themselves. I have been trying to get back to work but each time I go I have panic attacks so then I have more time off. I just don't know how to not think about you every minute of the day, your face is imprinted on my brain, I have a fear of people forgetting you. You were such a kind and young at heart person the world has lost one of the best but most of all so have we. I will love you forever my darling boy Brendon

Jan 29, 2012
darling brendon
by: vicky

Its now been 2 months since you left us and life is not getting any easier, I seem to just miss you more and more each day, people tell you to dry your tears and move on, how can you sit by your hospital bed for 8 days and watch you die then wait 31 hours until they come and take you away to remove your organs, how do you get that picture out of your mind, you have all the memories of you sitting here at home with us, all the building you have done to the house for us, all your tools around the house, your car in the driveway, God I wish you had never taken my boy from me the pain is so bad, you can think of nothing but the one you have lost, how long until I start to feel any sort of normal life again. People that have not lost a child have no idea of the pain and telling you to move on only makes you want to scream you will never get over the loss of a child.

Jan 08, 2012
darling Brendon
by: vicky

life is still so hard without you, i keep waiting for you to come home but you don't come back, I look at your photo all day to try and get closer to you but it is not the same, the world seems so dark now, your friends are missing you so much they find it hard to come over here so we are left alone, each day I get up and do the same thing over and over again, life will never change for me now,I have nothing to look forward too any longer, your dad is so sad al the time and just sits, he doesn't talk and I worry about him, your passing has changed our life so much it will never be the same again I will love you forever and ever mum

Jan 03, 2012
Darling brendon
by: Vicky

It has been 1 month now since you left us, dad seems so sad all of the time, I just think of you day and night, I know you would want us to keep living but it is so hard without you, if only you could give me a sign to let me know that you are happy where you are, I can,t go back to work yet it's to hard to face people, we love you so much it's so lonely without you, when I think of living the rest of my life never seeing you again I just panic love you mum

Jan 02, 2012
I feel your pain
by: Trudi

I feel for you so much, my heart goes out to you. My son was killed just 7 weeks ago. He was on his motorbike 3 minutes away from his friends house when a deer ran in front of him. He left the road and went into a forest and was killed instantly. Like you I feel I know not where to turn. My life is changed,my family changed we will never ever be the same. I, like you, just want him back - I want him to just walk back in the house, or drive up the drive. Life is very very hard. Please stay positive as I am trying to stay - for our boys. Wishing you a new year of love and hope
Trudi Higgins

Dec 25, 2011
Darling Brendon
by: Vicky

merry christmas my darling Brendon life is so hard without you love you always mum and dad

Dec 20, 2011
you are not alone
by: Anonymous

I had no understanding what grief was, till I wore it.
You will smile again, I know it. I keep pictures everywhere of my little boy. Nobody says a word to me, nobody would dare.
That is how I do it. Every morning I say good morning sweetheart, and I smile.
It's okay, whatever you do to make things right for you, is all okay.
That is what I learned from this site.
I'm not nuts, I'm grieving. It's a roller coaster that we cannot get off of, but we can learn to do all the things we need to do, while on it.
I will pray for all the parents I have read about since being here. I will pray that God help us walk this hard broken road.
It helps to know we are not alone.

Dec 19, 2011
motobike accident
by: Anonymous

my son also was killed on his motorbike in October, the grief is totally unbearable, it is like my whole world has gone black, the air is black, the sun is black, the walls of my house are black, food is black, I eat to survive for my daughter's sake. I cannot believe in God, but I do believe in afterlife, if there was a God my beautiful son would still be here, I saw a medium last week and she managed to convince me with what she said that he is still here, it doesnt help my grief but it does help me pull myself together. I am so sorry for your loss, I know exactly how you are feeling and I think that is what makes it hard, people say "I know what you are going through" - nobody does! except maybe another mum in the same situation. I am dreading xmas, but keep reminding myself it is only 1 day and we will get through it, I have put a tree up in his room and it made me feel better, I have planted 23 trees in the garden in memory of my son which will blossom on his birthday, one for each year of his life - I dont want trees I want my child, but I have to keep doing little things to keep me busy. I will think of you at xmas and hopefully you will think of me too, they will be here with us, we just cant see them. xxx

Dec 18, 2011
Just hold on
by: Anonymous

I lost my son unexpectedly too. He was a loving man, getting married to a wonderful lady and the happiest I had ever seen him. You need to be strong and take one moment at a time. I know how you feel. There are days when I just want to curl up and die. But my son would be so upset with me if I gave up on life. He loved life and lived everyday with joy and happiness. It has been almost eight months and it is still just as painful and the day he left us. I will say that some days are eaiser than others. You need to be good to yourself and know that this is going to be the toughest thing you will every live through, but your son would want you to go on and do the best you can to find one moment of joy each day, even if it is just for a second. Stay strong and do the best you can to get through each day. I am told that some day the pain will ease. I know it is hard to imagine, but I have to believe that I will someday be able to focus on the good memories and release the bad ones. Take care and know that you are not alone.

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