I lost my father and my nephew in a 3 month period

My father was diagnosed with terminal cancer and was living with me at the time. I attempted to be his caregiver and worked full time. I could no longer care for him and made the decision along with my sisters to move him to a care facility. In the process of accepting that difficult task my nephew, 30 years old in great health died of an aorta aneurysm.

I feel numb most of the time. I loved my dad and he was so sick. My nephew was not and I cry when ever I discuss either of them. Sometimes I question why both at the same time.

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May 24, 2014
I lost my father and my nephew in a 3 month period.
by: Doreen UK

The timing of two deaths so close is so crushing because you never get the chance to grieve each loss before another one decends upon us.
I lost my husband to terminal lung cancer 2yrs. ago. I nursed him for 3yrs.39days with the worst cancer pain ever. It was a very tough and painful journey. I can understand how you feel. My husband had MESOTHELIOMA. He worked with asbestos and his cancer took 40yrs. to develop from a young man in his 20's who went to work for his family not knowing he cut a deadly substance that would one day kill him. He died before retirement. I am sorry for your loss.
To lose a nephew so young is such a painful loss because he was so young. I lost my nephew at age 30yrs. and not a day goes by when I don't wonder how life could have been for him. My sister's husband had an aneurysm in the hospital and he was one of the lucky ones to live through this. It was such a tough recovery for him. This is one disease that is a silent killer. One can die before they even get to the operating theatre. Few recover from this disease. I have 3 Adult children and often worry about such diseases claiming their young lives. To live with this type of life sentence is hard. Much can be done to detect early aneurysms but due to lack of funding/resources many go undiagnosed and perhaps your nephew didn't know he had an aneurysm. I am so sorry for all the sorrow and grief your family are having to go through now.

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