I Lost my husband when he lost control of our plane

by Susan

I lost my husband Nov 5, 2012. I still can't believe I am writing those words. We loved each other and had planned on growing old together. I feel like time has stopped since he died. I can hardly get out of my bedroom and I just cry as the smell of him slowly fades away. I miss him every minute.
We built our airplane together and spent over a year on the project. We had a small airstrip made on our property and he loved flying out of his backyard and going for a little ride. He always flew over and waved goodbye as he let me know all was well and he was heading out for the morning. He was gone about an hour and I heard him come in and looked out the window and saw he had landed and I went out to hear about his trip and put the plane away.. He took off again before I could make it to him and he made an approach from a different direction than normal and for some reason decided to abort the landing and lost control of the plane and it stalled and dropped into tree tops where he died. I saw the accident and it plys over and over in my mind and wonder what happened. I loved him so much. We were together 21 years. He was the love of my life and my true soul mate.
Susan in Texas

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Feb 21, 2013
I lost my husband on the same day
by: Kathy

Susan, I lost my husband of 35 years on Nov 5 also. He had mesothelioma and was 59 yrs old, like myself. He was diagnosed 3 years ago and with trips to NYC to Sloan and back, he finally had had enough. We have 3 children, 2 girls married and on their own and my 19 yr old son still home with me. My daughter gave birth to our 2nd granddaughter 2 weeks after his death. I feel the same, just don't know how to go on, I retired to take care of him. We were supposed to be having fun and traveling. He was worried about me, what I would do after he was gone and I told him not to worry, I'd be fine, but I'm not. I don't know what to do and cry all the time, I still think he is here, I still can't believe it. I am trying to carry on, but just want to be home to cry. I don't know what I am going to do. Keep in touch.

Dec 30, 2012
I Lost my husband when he lost control of our plane
by: Doreen U.K.

Susan I am sorry for your loss of your husband suddenly. A sudden death is difficult when grieving this loss. I am in the same place as you. Husband died 8 months ago from an incurable cancer. We were married 44yrs. My husband was due to retire within 3yrs. and had to come our of work for Chemotherapy. He suffered a slow painful death for over 3yrs. He spent mostly 6 days a week working sometimes 7 days a week for 47yrs. I didn't see much of him due to working long hours all over the country and the world. The time has gone so quickly. I don't know where the last 44yrs. of marriage went.
I am still not able to function on full power. I escape into watching T.V. I can't get motivated to do much at all. I just do the basic work. my whole Body aches with Grief.
I can't think of the future. There is None without my husband here with me. Life is now one BIG DISRUPTION. It will take us a long time to be able to process our loss and move on with our lives as best as we can.

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