I lost my love and my friend!

by Beverly
(omaha Nebraska )

My husband whom I loved very much die in a tragic accident. We had been married almost three years and they were the craziest years of m life. We loved to dream the same dream and we fought like cats and dogs. But we made up like most lover's in love do. I miss him madly and cry every day because I miss my love so much.
It has only been one week and I am missing him like crazy. I know the heartbreak will go away at some point but what I wouldn't do to have him back. People say it was his time but it wasn't. He was a young 57 and we had a lifetime yet to live. I blame God. Not my husband. I know I have to find peace with my loss and move forward. How does one do that? Time will tell what happens when the dust settles. I hope I can live again without him while never forgetting the tremendous love we shared. The fun we had. The dreams we shared and the life we were suppose to have together.

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Mar 04, 2013
I lost my love and my friend!
by: Louisa Okoro

Dear Beverly,

I feel your pain. 10 years, 10 months exactly today, I am still broken, dejected, confused, at the the passage of my daughter Alero at age 22. The pain still rips my heart apart to this day, I am weeping as I type this message. One thing is sure, God gives us the strenght to carry on, His shoulders to lean on and He brings beautiful things to our lives everyday. May you find greater joy in your life. For all those on this website my prayer is with you always.

Mar 02, 2013
I lost my love and my friend!
by: Doreen U.K.

Beverley Life is so very cruel. I am sorry for your loss of your husband so early in your marriage. My husband was 65yrs. and I feel he died too young 10 months ago from a deadly cancer that ripped through him and our family for 3yrs.39days of unbearable suffering from this disease. I was married 44yrs. but most of these years my husband was working almost 7 days a week all over the country of England and the world. He was due to retire and then he dies. So here I am doing Life alone. IT HURTS!. I know how you feel and what you are going through. We still have to do our own journey and it isn't easy. I prayed for Healing from God and my husband Died. I was Angry with God for a long time. BUT. God is our creator. He gave life and He takes it away so I still have to Honour God and His ways and Lean on Him FOREVER. I walked with God all my life. I walk with Him till I die. It is God who is going to get us through our Grief and daily pick us up. God knows we have to dwell on the earth and it is a hard road of grief when we lose our life partner. All those special times gone and nothing to look forward to with the one we loved in our old age. I claim God's promise of eternal life where I HOPE to be re-united with my husband again. This HOPE keeps me going each day otherwise life would be on going misery. Life will get better in Time. But don't hurry your grief. It can't be rushed. Grief is a journey as is life and we have no CHOICE to go on. ONE DAY AT A TIME. May the Comfort and Love of God surround you and bring you the strength and Relief you need from this Pain and Loss.

Mar 01, 2013
I Lost my love and friend
by: Pat J.Green Bay,WI

Dear Beverly,
We do go on, but our life is forever changed.
The 27th of February it was 21 months since my husbands death. He died from a massive heart attack, sitting on the side of the bed, the day after our 46th wedding anniversary. I miss everything about him. We all would give anything to have them back. This life is a lonely one, even with many around us. We all feel empty, incomplete.
My husband was my lover and my best friend. I was with him since the age of 15. We always said we grew up together. I am learning to go on without him physically, but I will always carry him in my heart. I will always love him just as much in death as when he was alive. We never really get over their death, we learn to go on without them.
I joined a grief support group through my church and developed a friendship with three other widows. We do things together and are always there for each other. We never knew each other until we joined that group. It helps the loneliness and if we didn't do things together, we would be alot lonelier. We all have families, but our children are all adults with families of their own. We know our children will always be there for us, but our lives have completely changed since the death of our husbands.
People may say things get easier and better. I really think acceptance is a better way of putting it.
Take it one day at a time. Shed tears and grieve as long as you need to. Everyones grief is different, according to the relationship we had with our spouses. It is amazing, but we do learn to go on without them, but they are always with us spiritually.
Take care of yourself and be good to yourself. If there are days when you don't want to do anything, don't. All of us on this site feel your pain. We are there or have been there. We do survive!

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