by Kristy
(Sacramento, ca)

My dear Mom was only 52 when she feel ill and Kaiser doctors told her she had the flu. A month later she was in the ER.....they said she has stage 4 ovarian cancer.......my life has not been the same since. I'm only 34 and I have NO momma.......no, my Mom lost her battle after 2 surgeries, lots of chemo, lots of pain, fluid in her lungs, cancer moved to her brain, through out her tummy and organs...... OMG! WHY! I will never understand why my hard working, single mom battled this! On October 1, 2011 my brother and I took my Mom for a walk at 7pm. We got Mom in the wheel chair, comfy with blankets, her beanie, socks, and oxygen tank. And off we were down the block.....that was the last thing we did together. Mom fell asleep around 9:30pm. Woke, around 4ish, with extreme pain. Called hospice, increased pain meds, called hospice again, nurse came out.... She said Mom had maybe two week left. Per third call, gave another pain med dose. Mom never woke again. Her breathing changed, she had 3 loud noises that came from her stomach. She was gone by 8:30am...... Mom was getting sicker by the day....I know her body was ready. But, god, do I miss her so much!! My dear Grandma (my Moms Mom.) died on 06/17/11..... She started telling family Mom would not make it to Christmas 2011. Grandma said she did not want to be here when her baby girl died. On the 13th of June we called for an ambulance for my grandma. On Friday, June 17 we took her off life support and my Dear Grandma died. I love you so very much Momma and Grandma! My wish is the two of you are together, and someday I will see you both again.

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Mar 28, 2013
Looked for someone who lost her mom when I did
by: Baby

My mom was/ is my best friend. I was the youngest of 3 and the only girl. I made her life a challenge as I grew up and as an adult we became friends. In March of 2011 she felt bloated. We thought it was a stomach virus that was "going around". It wasn't she had acyties. We went to every doc and she had every work up. Finally we found a GYN oncologist who was noted in his field. He told us she had cancer but there were 100 different kinds and that hers was treatable. He lied and knew he lied. He told us what was happening using a magic rope trick. We believed him. I get needing to give the patient hope but he gave me hope and I believed him. On 6/25/11 she was dead. I was left to see her confused in pain and barely treated for her cancer. I hate him for that and feel that I failed her. I live with deplorable guilt/ sadness/ dispare and pain. I failed the woman who would have and did do everything she could for her kids. She loved us and I failed her by believing a liar. I miss her everyday and her absence is felt by many. She would hate that I feel this way but it is what it is. I miss my mommy almost 2 years later and I need to know when it stops.

Nov 15, 2011
I understand
by: Anonymous

My mom passed on 10/09/11 from stage IV lung cancer and she was 54 yrs old. I'm 30 yrs old, I understand how you feel!

Nov 10, 2011
My mother died of Ovarian Cancer too!
by: Ilana

My mother was only 68 when she became ill (like the flu). A month later she was diagnosed with stage 3 Ovarian Cancer and five months later after her third chemo, she developed an infection, which took over her entire body and we lost her. I know exactly what you are going through. It has now been a year and a half and I am still grieving. I learned that I was in shock when she died and didn't give myself time to grieve. Please take the time to grieve so after a year and a half, you will be ready to move on. I know how hard it is. I miss my mom every day. We just have to take it one day at a time. If you feel like talking privately email me at mom2jared@netzero.com.

Take care!

Nov 09, 2011
I know how you feel!
by: Ilana

I lost my mother to Ovarian Cancer a year and a half ago. She was 68. The only symptom she had was continuous vomiting. Since it started in December, we thought she had the flu. It wasn't until she got dehydrated and her doctor ran tests, that the tumor was detected. My mother was a nurse and was shocked when the Doctor told her she had Stage 3 Ovarian Cancer. She had the cancer for five months and died after her third round of chemo after she developed an infection that took over her entire body. Since I'm 41, I am taking all the precautions I can to make sure I do not inherit this from my mother. It's hard to see our mothers suffering, knowing that somehow this could have been prevented. After a year and a half, I am still not over her death. It's a long road and perhaps we can go through this together. If you would like to talk privately, feel free to email me at mom2jared@netzero.com.

Nov 09, 2011
Faith Hope and Love
by: Anonymous

I have no wonderful words to comfort, but I understand your unbearable pain. I also lost my 64 year old mom to ovarian cancer 09/2011, her mom (my grandma), my aunt, and my only sibling (my sister) unexpectedly died in the last 7 months of this year also. And now at 44 I'm the oldest women in my family, it is a lonesome place to be. My only comfort is knowing we will see them again and I hope you find comfort in knowing you will see your mom and grandma again also. Even in knowing that it is still very devastating and with unbearable pain. I know my story is not uplifting but it is of total understanding, compassion and love. May God bless you as he leads you. Have Faith, Hope and Love and remember the greatest of these is Love.

Nov 08, 2011
Your not alone
by: FoundhopeinChrist

I'm sorry to hear about your Mom and Grandmother.
I pray that you know God is with you,
and how much He loves you.
Share with Him your grief and daily cares.
He cares for you.
Hope is found in Jesus.
(Do you have a Bible?)
Life here on earth is like a blink of an eye.
But, that's not the end...
We have ETERNITY in either Heaven or Hell.

"Jesus answered,
"I am the way and the truth and the life.
No one comes to the Father except through me."
John 14:6

(I'm praying for you.)

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