I lost my Mom

by Jennifer
(Vancouver Canada)

It has been ten years since my Mother died and it is only lately that I realized that I was angry at her for dying. Again I find myself thinking about calling her and she's not there and there is that heavy feeling that I cannot do anything about it. But I must be moving forward with it because I can finally cry over the loss. My older brother reminds me of her, they were/are so understanding, patient and very loving. It looks like I am fortunate.

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Sep 20, 2012
I lost my Mom
by: Doreen U.K.

Hi Jennifer. My sister lives in Vancouver. I am sorry for your loss of your mother 10 years ago. I just lost my husband 4 1/2 months ago to cancer. I certainly hope that I can cope better in the days ahead. My sister tells me that it does get better. I hope so. I don't want to feel this bad for years to come. My mother died 9 years ago. I couldn't put her picture up on the wall till now. I got through these 9 years without any problems but now I am feeling her loss more. I don't know if this has any association with losing my husband. It just seems that some deaths will afect us more because of the nature of the relationship. These are the ones that will probably take longer to Heal from. I can't be Angry that my husband died and left me because he didn't want to die. He wanted to enjoy his retirement but got a deadly cancer from his work. He died of an Industrial disease by working with asbestos. Steve was angry at the cancer. Steve was angry at the government for not honouring people who got this disease. If they got any form of compensation the government took back all the social benefits they paid out from claiming against this disease. Steve got Industrial Injuries benefit for life. they took back all of this money from the little compensation he got. They also failed to pay him his 2yrs. wages because the solicitor said that Steve may not have got a job because he was made redundant from his work when he was diagnosed with cancer. He was promised work but did not take it up due to his illness. but he lost a lot of money. He was bitter about this. I am sad for STeve and how he lost his life, working for his family. My heart hurts that he lost his life this way caring for his family. The little compensation Steve got allowed me to pay for a decent funeral. Otherwise I would have been in debt to pay for this as we have had a struggle all our lives. All Steve did was work. he had no time to enjoy life then when he retires HE DIES. I feel angry about this. I feel sad for all the men who work for their families, retire, and then die of some disease. This is a cruelty of life.

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