I lost my mother she had an unexpected massive heart attack

by Karen Saini

On the evening of Dec.09/12 the tragedy happened my mother of 38 years died of a massive heart attack. She died in the arms of my sisters. She was fine in the morning she bathed my two young boys one in grade 2 and the other one in grade 4. They went to my sister in laws parents home to play with their kids. I was at work my husband had the cell phone. She went grocery shopping with my dad that same day and picked up some items. And was complaining about chest pain my father said leave the grocery I will drive you to the hospital she was reluctant to go to the hospital as she normally gets sick this time of year. She has diabetes type 2, cholestral and high blood pressure. She had a heart attack prior 10 years ago. She is 64 years old and was going to turn 65 years old next month. I do not recall what time this tragedy happened I was at work and got a call from my work to come to the hospital asap that my mother had a heart attack my husband did not tell me the rest of the detail he was in tears. Than I sensed this was not a good sign. By the time I got to hospital all my family members were gathered together and they pronounced her dead I was wery devasted and was hoping this was a nightmare and that I would wake up the next morning and they would tell me that this was all a nightmare. Unfortuntely it is reality her funeral was the following Saturday. Dec.15/12

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Jan 10, 2013
My mom died of unexpectd heart attack too
by: Sandy

I am 44 years old. I feel like an orphaned child, and feel everything else you and everyone else said here. I just wanted to let you know you are not the only one, and my mom died December 7, and was buried on the 19th. (They revived her and she lasted on a ventilator for 6 days, but never regained consciousness so we took her off it. CRAZY HARD TO DO. NOT SURE HOW I MADE IT THROUGH. It's like I remember that entire time as though it happened to someone else, or I saw it on TV. It was brutal. I hate it. Thanks for posting your story, though. It helps to know I'm not the only one, because I too feel like I am slowly going crazy with this and living in a dream world.

Dec 30, 2012
by: Anonymous

I lost my mom unexpectedly as well due to heart disease. My mom was 53. She had previous heart attacks and congestive heart failure. I was talking on the phone with her about my daughters birthday party and the presents she was going to get her when it happened. I heard it happen. She did not know what happened and wasn't in pain. I got in my car while calling 911. I got there before the paramedics and did CPR. The paramedics were not able to revive her. I felt the same way that none of it was real. I still feel like that at times and it has been over 2 months. Things are so crazy and it is so hard without her.

Dec 21, 2012
Prayers for You
by: Elle

Dear Karen,

I am so very sorry about the recent devastating loss of your dear mother.

When my mom died, it was like a nightmare that couldn't possibly be real. At times I felt sick, as if I had the flu. My emotions were at times irrational and all over the place. I couldn't talk about her, even to tell people that she had passed away, because surly she hadn't. I remember my jaw locking up and being unable to swallow as the grief rolled over me in breathtaking waves. At times, I really did feel as if I was going insane, but I wasn't. The unrenting, intense pain made it seem so.

Even though it doesn't seem like it now, slowly, imperceptively, you will one day begin to feel a little bit better.

Lean into your family and be there for them, as they are for you. It will help to share your grief, as you have done here.

Know that you and your family are thought of and prayed for.

Sending you love, and prayng that you and your family will be comforted.



Dec 20, 2012
I too lost my mom unexpectedly to a massive heart attack.
by: Anonymous

I received a call from my brother telling me that my mother passed . I couldn't be believe it. I just spoke to her last night and she told me she loved me. This was almost 2 months ago. The pain is still unbearable. I don't know where the time went. It is like I sleep walked through the weeks. I still cry and find myself calling for her. I was in the store and they were playing Christmas songs and Auld Lang Syne. I felt so bad and started crying in the store. I didn't expect it, I feel guilty because I did not spend enough time with her. I realize now that I was doing other things when I should have spent time with her. It is such a cruel lesson to learn. Now I live with my regrets. I miss her so. I hope that you can begin to move on when you are ready, I hope the same thing for myself. May God Bless you! Take all the time you need.

Dec 20, 2012
I lost my mother she had an unexpected massive heart attack
by: Doreen U.K.

Karen I am sorry for your loss of your mother so suddenly from a heart attack. You are feeling the initial symptoms of loss. It does feel like you are in a nightmare and wake up in a state of de ja vue and wonder if you dreamt this. It has been 7 months for me since I lost my husband of 44yrs. and I still feel the same way.
I am 64yrs. the same age as your mom and I have the same illness's. On medication for cholestorol, high blood pressure, and blood thinners. My mother died of a heart attack 9 years ago so it is hereditary. I don't know how long I will live with this condition. I don't think of it. But I am scared of having a heart attack. We are all vulnerable during illness and never know when we will die but we have to go on each day and just do our best to live for our families. This is all we can do. Loss is so very painfull. It will take us a long long time to be Healed from this loss. I hope that you have a supportive family and friends as this is so very helpfull to have this support. This is the most horrible time of the year to lose a loved one as Christmas is a family celebration and our families are BROKEN now. If you find yourself struggling in your grief you may benefit from grief counselling to help you cope with these initial stages of your loss. May you be comforted in your grief and sorrow.

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