I lost my older sister and my best friend.

My sister died of a blood clot after a meniscus orthoscopic surgery.Unheard of. That is what everyone tells us. She was my backbone and my rock.I knew I could go to her for anything we shared memories no one else knew .She was alone when she called me to tell me she was in trouble.How could I reach here 20 minutes away.I need her so bad it is sometimes unbearable.It was her 2 nd anniversary in January and still I grieve.I miss what we had and the memories we shared.The things only we could laugh at.The support we shared in caring for our aging parents.

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Aug 24, 2014
Loss of my beloved sister 49 years
by: Doreen UK

Anna I am so sorry for your loss of your beloved sister. I have had an angiogram and although uncomfortable it can carry risks, but one never thinks that a routine examination will result in loss of life.
Doctors are becoming less and less able to deal with many medical issues. I myself am having an allergic reaction to 2 types of antibiotics with severe breathing difficulties. I have had to stop both and riding it out but hoping it doesn't claim my life. I had a rough night with breathing. Not the type of breathing that shows up on a stethoscope as O.K. and dismissed.
One of the antibiotics according to the British Medical Association online says it carries a 76% risk of cardiac arrest especially in women on this 7 days treatment. This is what I was given and stopped within 2 days when my throat started closing up and I couldn't breathe. Doctors then determine this result as a bit of anxiety which is an insult to a patient. Having your throat close and finding it difficult to breathe would cause anyone some anxiety. I am on a strong dose for an ear infection. My body reacts badly to any strong dose of medication. I have to have it broken down. But doctors don't hear what a patient is saying and almost makes the patient feel as if it is their fault they cannot tolerate many antibiotics. I guess a lot of people will identify with this. Many of the treatments today are altered and cause reactions and can also claim lives. Sad when anyone dies of medical negligence that needn't of happened. May God draw close to you and cover you now with His comfort and Peace and Love and help you through your grief and loss of your sister.

Aug 22, 2014
loss of my beloved sister 49 years
by: anna

I lost my darling sister after a routine angiogram just over a month ago...unheard of as well although she had cteph the test were not meant to kill her but hours later she struggled to breathe and arrested within an hour..hospital was a bit slow to treat her but they reckon she would have died anyway.. so no family was was with her as she was 2 hours away in a private hospital for 2 days of tests.I'm heartbroken and don't know if I will ever get over this..we were so close and i was unwell at the time too..xx

Mar 20, 2014
I lost my older sister and my best friend.
by: Doreen UK

I am sorry for your loss of your sister, best friend, and support. I have 5 sisters and couldn't bear to go what you are going through at the moment. I worry for them and wonder if I will lose any one of them. We lost our mother 11yrs. ago today and I lost my husband to cancer 22 months ago and it leaves me wondering who I will lose next. I don't want to pre-empt this but it does make one feel anxious.
To lose a good support structure and close family member is one of the hardest grief's to bear. I am the middle of 5 girls and I was the one that my mother trained to look out for them and so they used to come to me as second Mum. But I would still feel blown away if I lost any one of them as they are still my siblings.
Isn't life so very fragile when we start to lose loved one's? Each day is such a struggle and we need to reach out to them and they are not there. I feel this way about losing my husband. The only way to cope is ONE DAY AT A TIME. Try and build yourself up by doing all the good things for yourself that you can do. This will help you feel stronger and a good healing experience as a foundation for going through bereavement. The EMPTINESS and LONELINESS are the worst battles to overcome. We can never replace the one's we have lost even by putting new people in our lives. But we still have to try and expand our world to include other people otherwise we will be isolated and make our grief that much harder to bear. This is the hard part of our upward struggle to get back on our feet and continue our life. But try we must in time when we are able to do this for ourselves.

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