I lost the three most powerful women in my life in 7 months.

I lost my grandmother in 2010 April after suffering from several diseases for several years. Four months later my mom followed in August, and my favourite aunt in November. And it all happened the same here. These three women were my role models and the strongest support system I've ever had in my life. They played both a mother and a father figure/role in my life since my father abandoned me. I'm now doing my degree at a very competitive college and I'm struggling. I cannot concentrate on schoolwork, I'm not myself anymore (I don't have the motivation to work hard anymore and I'm losing interests in my school work and all the subjects that I like). Sometimes, I even fail to do the most simple things in class and I'm always depressed.

I am a happy person and I've always liked living a positive life, but now I struggle with a lot of things. For the past two years I haven't been satisfied by any of the things that I do and I don't even remember the last time I was happy. I procrastinate, forget a lot of things that I'm suppose to do and I give up easily on tasks that needs effort. I do not know what to do from here but all I have now is look after my self, my younger brother, and my family. My shoulders are so heavy right now and I'm so broken and falling apart.

Please help. Thank you.

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Oct 05, 2012
I lost the three most powerful women in my life in 7 months.
by: Doreen U.K.

Dear Lost and Broken. I am sorry for all your losses in these 7 months that has knocked you sideways. I understand where you are at. You have too heavy a load to carry. STOP!!!!!!!!!!
We have boundaries and were not meant to carry such heavy loads. I did this and I broke down emotionally. I couldn't function. You URGENTLY need to find a grief counsellor for SUPPORT. Once you are in a more stable place with a counsellor supporting you. You will be able to better handle your school, and studies. I feel a lot of what you are feeling with lack of motivation and not wanting to do anything. I lost my husband 5 months ago today. I still can't believe he is not coming back. I sat at the bus stop for one hour in the cold and I cried for my Steve. Heartbroken is what we will all be for some time. You need to follow through with the counselling support. See this as being URGENT. Otherwise you are heading for a breakdown. Do what you are able to support your family. But don't take on the full load, with all the pressure. Keep a journal and write out all your feelings. This will also help to get them out of your system. Death takes away a lot from us. We lose our joy, our positivity, our laughter, our happiness. everything. this is all part of our grief. Don't think that something strange is happening to you. This is common feelings we are all struggling with. You will struggle to find the person you used to be. We all change to a degree and I don't think we ever will get back to the person we were before we lost our loved ones. Don't look too far ahead otherwise anxiety will swallow you up. Write back and let us know if this helps you at all, and how you are coping.

Oct 05, 2012
Happy - smiling picture of mom
by: Ammalu

I also keeps a happy - smiling picture of her with me all the time. I printed a color paper copy and take it with me to work, meetings, next to me in the passenger seat while I drive. When I am doing good on my day to day work, when I look at the picture, I feel that she is happy for me and blessing me.

Oct 05, 2012
Be strong
by: Ammalu

I lost my mom on August, 20th 2012. I know it is very very hard to continue. The way I am coping up with this is keeping myself very busy, keeping aside more time to pray and above all keeping in mind that I want to live the way my mom always liked me to live. So you have to do well in school and support your family. I am sure your mom is watching you and she will be happy.

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