I love you Mom

by SeekingPeace
(Rockville, MD)

My whole life has changed in a blink of an eye. On May 26th, 2012, also known as my 21st birthday, my mother passed away. My mom had been diagnosed with breast cancer and the doctors had no treatment to offer her. My mother played both roles- father & mother. My parents were separated and my dad has another family. I now no longer have a home since my mother passed away and I'm staying at my cousin's house. I'm currently waiting for a flight attendant job that will provide me with accommodation and I'm depending so much on this job. I feel as though I'm helpless and I'm isolating myself from everything. My aunts and uncles are all overseas and I'm at my cousin's house alone as she is out of the country. Sometimes I want to be with family and other times I want to be alone. Please help me I don'tknow what to do with my life anymore. :'( Thank you xx

- A lost daughter without her mother.

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May 19, 2013
To: I love you Mom
by: Sherry

Gosh I feel your pain as though it were my own. I lost my Mom on August 12, 2012 and although she was 85 years old and I had her for so long it hurts so bad. It does feel like it is the worst thing that you will ever go thru. There is time I just don't want anyone around but I feel like I need someone, and there are times I feel just the opposite. No one can tell you how to handle it but if you can seek out a good Therapist it will surely help you. I will tell you that Hospice has great counselors and great people so reach out where you can. I know from the bottom of my heart what you are going through as I am there myself. I will tell you that it gets a little better each day but I pray a lot, and I am not a really religious person but it has made such a difference as I have seen the help from God. And I will also tell you that your Mom is always there with you, talk to her as much as you want, because she is definitely right there with you all the time. I feel my Mom's presence and you will too, JUST BELIEVE. I hope you do well in all your endeavors and I know you will get your job and your Mom is so proud of you. Lots of Love to you Sweetie, and hang in there, I promise it gets a little easier every day.

Jul 29, 2012
Talking is good
by: Netty

I lost my mum on 29th may 2012 I don't really know how to help other than to say please do not isolate yourself it's very hard I know but you need to speak to people and not bottle things up it's ok to sometimes want to be on your own however you also need to talk you said your relatives are overseas but phone them and talk to them or maybe talk to friends and try to remember your mum will always be with you. Good luck on the job hope you get it.

Jul 29, 2012
I Love you Mom
by: Doreen U.K

Dear SeekingPeace, I am so sorry for your loss of your Mom. You are grieving and if you haven't had this experience before I can tell you It hurts so bad. You will be numb to start with. Then in shock and disbelief that this has happened. You will at times want people near and other times keep them at a distance as you will value your own space. This is normal. If you have no support. Please find a grief counsellor who will be able to support you. You say you don't know what to do. that is because grief dictates how you are feeling. At this time it will be hard to make decisions. this is normal and different for each person in grief. Your state of mind is all over the place and this doesn't mean it will always be this way. Having a grief counsellor will enable you to pour out your feelings and pain without judgement and you will be able to move forward better. Try and find someone within you own family either on your mother's or father's side who you can trust and will be able to be a mentor and good support structure for you. If not and you believe in God. Find a church or pastor to encourage you. Look for outlets that will encourage you in this difficult time which can last a long time. Grief will come in stages. Grief does not come all at once. If your father is in your life let him know you miss your mom deeply and it is affecting you. This may be the start of a bond that will be ongoing. It is difficult when families are fractured and we will feel our grief that much worse at this time. I wish you all the best with the new job and hope that you will be successful in your new job opportunity and that your accommodation will also work out in your favour. Best wishes

Jul 29, 2012

i'm so sorry to hear about the lost of your mom, mine passed June 8, 2012. Just let the tears flow, cry out loud, it makes me feel better. I know you are feeling lost, isolated and alone; the truth is, you mother is with you in Spirt. She feels your pain and she will guide you through life. Be still, get in a qiet place, hold something that was dear to your mother, a robe, a piece of jewerly, etc... That often makes me feel better.

I will pray for you, make it in honor of your mother....

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