i miss them...and i don't know what to do

Hi I'm 15 and I think that i might have something wrong with me .........
my great grand parents were very close to me, loved me when i had no one else when i was in sixth grade my great grand father passed away and i was emotionally crushed i was depressed for months it was like i lost my father i stayed strong for my great grand mother. i stayed with her as much as i could and always called her then about a year and a half ago she became ill and passed away with her family around her, as you could imagine i was devastated and so was the rest of my family. then everyone started moving on and i tried to but i still found myself crying at night and when i went to talk to family members they would tell me to move on now a year and a half later i find my self still crying at night i know i should move on but i just cant i miss them everyday and i cant talk to anybody about it they all think I'm crazy for still being in grief after so long and I'm begging to believe them in the past i would have talked to them about it but i have nobody and i know i should move on but i cant.....

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Mar 31, 2014
I miss them
by: Anonymous

I can't say i know how you feel because everybody is different in you own time it will get better but you still will have a scar on your heart I know that I lost my mom when I was 4 I still miss her and I am now 77 it does get better your in my prayers

Mar 31, 2014
I miss them... and I don't know what to do
by: Doreen UK

There is nothing wrong with you. You are hurting deeply from losing those closest to you. You are still young enough to need the nurturing of your parents and if they are telling you to move on then there is something wrong with them. NOT YOU. WE all handle grief differently. Some people in our family bond so much with us that it hurts to our core when they die and leave us. Perhaps you are the caring one in your family who feels the loss due to the level of love you had for them. There is nothing wrong with this.
What is terribly sad is that you have no one who is listening to you and understanding your pain and supporting you.
Best thing you can do is find yourself a grief counsellor, or a grief group where you can go and talk to people who care and understand what you are going through and will support you till you can cope with your loss. There is no shame in what you are feeling. I am 65yrs. of age and still crying because I lost my husband to cancer. WE may go on crying for a long time. This is normal. Crying is GOOD GRIEF. It will wash away the pain inside of you. You won't always cry. But for now it is O.K. Do not let anyone tell you that you should be over it. This is not a true statement. This comes from the heart of someone who does not feel real grief. WE DO on this site so you can write back as often as you need to for someone here to listen to you, understand and at least try to point you in the right direction. Best not share how you feel with anyone who doesn't understand otherwise they will just add to your sorrow and grief and make it heavier. There are good counsellors out there who can help you. Because you say you are 15yrs. you must still be at school. If you have school counsellors talk to someone there. But don't bottle up your feelings it will only get worse. I did this and I know how painful it is when you deal with your hurt and grief later on. Best wishes.

Mar 29, 2014
I miss them..and I don't know what to do
by: Leti

Your pain is understand able. I loss my first born in a car accident from a heart attack and he was a single father of 5. It will be 2 years this Sept 14,. I still grieve for my son. You need to allow yourself to cry and allow yourself to grieve. I struggle everyday as the world continues. I'm in a grief group that has helped me a lot. None of us want to have that pain we carry everyday. You'll move forward but you'll never forget. Don't allow people to tell you your crazy, it's all about trying to more forward. We have to take baby steps. Your in my prayers.

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