I Miss You So Much Dad

by Avivah

My Dad was a real blokey outdoor guy. But he also was very wise and listened and cared very much for our family. He had a heart condition which he managed very bravely. He managed to outlive a difficult operation by 15 years, and died when he was 81. For that I know we were lucky and I am grateful. He died over a year ago but i still struggle every day. We would have coffee together every Monday, he would come into my work. He was great to talk to, really interesting. I'm having counselling because I just can't seem to accept he's gone and move on without him. I'm making progress but as you all know its so painful and difficult. All his grandkids miss him so much and it breaks my heart as well.

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Nov 23, 2012
I Miss You So Much Dad
by: Doreen U.K.

Avivah I am sorry for your loss of your Dad. Even though it has been over a year you will still feel sorrow over this loss.
For some of us it can take years to get over a loss. When I lost my mum 9 years ago I still had my husband and children. Now I have lost my husband 6 months ago to cancer life will never be the same again.
You said you were in counselling and it is so painful. You are in the best place. Sometimes people are stuck in grief and can't move forward so their grief is prolonged. Counselling will address this issue and help you move forward. Yes counselling is very painfull as counsellors work at a deep level. When you come out of counselling you feel disoriented and then go back for another session. Counselling made me feel as if I was punch drunk and in a daze most of the time. I was skeptical and cynical of counselling but thought I had nothing to lose. It was so very painfull I was tempted to give up. I am so glad I didn't. I woke up one day and started to feel different and better. I got my life back in a new way. For the first time in my life I could actually feel how good life could be. I could weather most of the storms that came my way. I had a new perspective on life and didn't look back. I was even able to put some of the wrongs of the past right. I saw how emotionally damaged I had become. I was a new person. I felt great for the first time in my life. I could have danced on air. I felt as if I was Cleansed deep from within. It is a great feeling. I hope everyone comes out of counselling and feels the way I did.
Don't give up!! I am glad I went back for more counselling and didn't give up. You will reap rich rewards when you start to feel in a healthier and happier place. You will rise from the ashes and feel good again.

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