I want you here

by Nicole

My Dad was taken from me over the weekend in a tragic accident at the Jersey shore. He was swept out into the ocean while walking along with his buddy and their 7 year old daughters while on vacation there together with all of their families. My parents divorced when I was young, I have a 26 year old brother while I myself am 32. He remarried and had two more children with my stepmom and they have a 11 year old son and a 7 year old daughter. So my brother and I were back home while he and his family were on vacation. They were walking in knee high water and took a step out into nothingness and were suddenly in water up to their necks. The current was so strong that it pulled my dad and sister out so quick while his friend and his daughter were able to fight their way back to shore. My dads last effort was to push my sister away from him into calmer water because he knew the current would take both of them if he held onto her. She was shortly picked up by someone on a personal watercraft but as soon as they got her, they looked and he was gone. It took 2 days for him to resurface and come ashore. My father and I couldn't have been closer. He had me at a young age but was always there. He worked so hard for his family, he was so dedicated to his work and built his mechanic business up from the bottom. He worked with my brother in the shop. I don't know what to do, I am lost and angry and beside myself with pain, and I still have to get through the funeral. I am scared to go to sleep because the mornings are the hardest time because i have to wake up and realize this is really happening. I am just waiting for him to come back from vacation. I can't understand why he was taken from me, from us. I want him with me so much, I want him to come through to me, I need my father. We had such a fun relationship, always joking with each other, busting each other up. He was respected and loved by so many people. We knew he knew a lot of people but over the last 3 days, we are seeing the overwhelming support and respect he had of our community. He is a man that is going to be missed by more people then I can imagine. I feel my dad and I had a special connection and he always made me feel so special and so loved. I cannot stress enough through words how awesome he was, it just doesn't sum it up. Words are just not enough. I will miss my dad and think of him every single day. I really hope that there is a afterlife and that he is with me and comes through because I don't know what to think right now about death and the afterlife. I am so confused and scared and lonely.

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Aug 03, 2012
I want you here
by: Doreen U.K.

Nicole I am sorry for your loss of your father in a drowning accident. A sudden loss can make us feel a ton of emotions that rush in and cause us problems to process this death as having happened. Part of us will be in DENIAL. Did this really happen? Then reality kicks in and then we overflow with grief. We start to wonder about the future life and if there is one? or was this the end? For the Christian they have HOPE, in the afterlife as promised by God. Jesus says. in the Bible John:14:1-3. "Let not your heart be troubled: Ye believe in God, Believe also in me:(Jesus). In my Father's House are many mansions: If it were not so, I would have told you. I go to prepare a place for YOU, and if I go to prepare a place for YOU, I will come again, and receive YOU to myself that where I AM there you may be also. This is OUR HOPE. ETERNAL LIFE. no more suffering, no more sorrow. If we did not have this HOPE death would be the end, and we would be of all men most miserable. I buried my husband 12 weeks ago from cancer. We were married 44yrs. I am not confused. I am sad and unhappy Steve is not here with me to comfort each other in our old age. Steve was 65yrs. when he died. I am 64yrs. I have to live alone now without the Love of my life. God says we will Grieve but not to grieve as those who have NO HOPE. We have to live in FAITH that if we life in Christ. We will have eternal life. And this Life is in His Son Jesus Christ. I have the Blessed Hope that I will see Steve again. We were never meant to make ourselves so comfortable on earth that we wanted to stay here. We are just passing through this life. Our Life is to come and this will be Eternal. No more death, no more tears, no more sorrow, no more pain, or heartache. for all these former things will passed away. I know you asked the question is there an aferlife? you are so confused. I have attempted to answer you and hope that you are at least comforted in your sorrow.

Aug 02, 2012
I want you here
by: Carolyn

I feel the hurt and longing for your father. It is a terrible pain that is beyond humanly description. I too am going through the pain of loss, the love of my life died 5 weeks ago, the numbness is gone, but not the pain. You will get through the next few days of the funeral, you just do it, by pure adrenalin. Somehow, you make it through. Reality sets in, and you once again realize your loss. I know that everyone says it takes time, but its true time is the healer. Also never forget how much your Dad loved you, and how much you loved him. Love never dies, it stays with you, and he took your love with him. He will always be with you in your heart and memories, and his loving spirit will be no further than a thought away. He has left this earthly life, and started a new journey. You will see him again, he will be your guide for the rest of your life, and when your time on earth is through, he will be there waiting to guide you into the next. Hold on to that hope, hold on....don't ever forget.

Aug 02, 2012
So unfair!
by: Phyllis

I am in tears of you, I know every feeling you have I lost my youngest son 8 mths ago & I am still,feeling all these things, sometimes I just can't believe my boy is really gone from this life forever, you are so young, I got to keep my Dad til he was old, still I miss hm everyday. I pray I will get to be with my parents & my son & baby brother when I die to be with Jesus for ever together happy with our Lord. Please go on line & read about Jesus & what he promised us, type in any question you want, Jesus is here for all of us, I know life will never be the same without my son just as you & your Dad, hold tight to the memories, you will be with him again just pray & ask Jesus to take you in his arms you want to belong to him. I pray so hard but the pain of not having here with me know is almost unbearable I will be praying for you, if you want to chant my address is kansasratlady65@hotmail.com, I have one grandchild, she is the daughter of my son I lost, her Mom did not want her so we adopted her since my son was only 16 then she moved out 50 miles away a bit before he passed, now we are here all alone, my son was always here helping & hanging out, I miss them both. Hugs Sweetie may God bless you!

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