I watched my Precious Dad pass onto Heaven

by Anna
(Bloomville, Ohio)

My Precious Dad passed away on July 7, 2013 @ 11:27 a.m.He was 75 yrs old. I was by his bedside and held his hand. He had Adenocarcinoma, lung cancer. Before he slipped into a coma, he had a tear in his left eye and he was looking at me, he could not talk or move, he knew he was leaving this old world. I am Anna, his first child. I am 55 years old and had the greatest Dad in this world.

Even as I write I am crying. he taught me how to do cartwheels when I tried out for cheerleading. He taught me how to sew. He made quilts and loved to do canning. He taught me to do the same. He was a Navy man and he taught me how to swab the decks the right way...I love mopping...words cannot tell how much I miss this man. he loved to feed the birds outside his window. He got to see his roses bloom for the last time this year.

He put his skinny little fingers around my waist and told me he was sorry for all the things I had to help him with, I told him , you took care of me, and now i will take care of you. I had to drain the chest tube in his back...and he congratulated me because I did not hurt him like some of the others did, I was very proud of that, he trusted me. There are six of us kids, and some of them did not make it back in time to see him before he passed into Glory Land, but I am thankful I was there and had the honor of not saying good-bye, but saying, "I will see you in the morning Pops"...

He would stop by in the mornings and ask if I wanted to go eat breakfast, and now I will never see that big old GMC truck, with the whining belt, pull in my driveway again....Lord I miss that man...

I love you Pops!!!! Always, and I will see you in the morning, Love, Annie

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Aug 12, 2013
Thank you Deb
by: Anonymous

Dear Deb, your kind words make me smile. I am so sorry for the loss of your Dad. It hurts so bad to lose someone who made a difference in your life. My Dad was exposed to asbestos when he worked on the his Navy Ship...he would sandblast, and he also worked in a factory where they did not use respirators and he inhaled black soot all the time, and he also smoked non-filter cigarettes for years. It was all just a bad situation... He and I got along like friends, not like Father / Daughter and I liked that. He can never be replaced.....I will also pray for you, the holidays are coming up and that is gonna hurt...But we will get through it with all the memories we have. Love you too!! May God give you His Sweetest Peace on your journey in this world....

Aug 12, 2013
Your Dad
by: Deb from Illinois


I also lost my dad last November. He was my everything as well. I was the baby girl and spoiled rotten by him. I was a handful, yet he never gave up on me. He was also a soldier. He developed lung cancer due to exposure of Agent Orange in Vietnam. We found out the end of July and he was gone by mid November. I helped take care of him as well, considering it an honor. It was bittersweet. It has been a difficult process and I'm still healing. I had a grief burst just last night, hearing the Lt Dan Band play God Bless the USA at a Disabled Veterans Convention. In fact, the whole weekend has been emotionally draining. I pray you will find comfort and strength along your way to recovery. Little girls and their heroes! 😢

Aug 10, 2013
I'm so sorry
by: Alyssa

I'm so sorry for your loss as I read your page I felt like I was in your shoes I will pray for you Anna and even though he may not be here I will and so will your family I love you and god bless you

Aug 09, 2013
Thank you Doreen
by: Anna

Thank you so much Doreen, I am so sorry about your husband. Cancer is a horrible disease and it doesn't help when the places that are supposed to help, don't sometimes.
My dad came to my house on April 11th ,my birthday, little did I know it would be the last time he would come to my house. He gave me a hug and a card and then told me, he hurt in his side and that it would not stop. I gave him my heating pad. April 19th he fell and almost cut his earlobe off, I raced to the hospital and he was crying in pain...the dr. told me there was a cyst in his lower lung and it should be looked at. His dr. made him wait 2 more weeks before ex-rays....by then it was too late. My poor dad suffered for 2 months.The morning he was dying, he had foam coming out his nose and out of his mouth. I stayed by his bedside and watched him take his last breath, that of course, went back to God, and the Angels took him on home. My mom was in the living room, she said she smelled the sweetest scent of roses go through, that was an Angel, they sometimes smell like flowers, is what I heard. The sad part of my dad's life, was; unfortunately, my mom. She was mean to him for the 55 yrs they were married...he and I talked about it sometimes, he would tell me, "don't tell your mom I told you that" cause she would have yelled at him and kicked him out. My dad was the best man I ever knew.. he loved all of us kids the same.
Your Precious Husband will see you again. I know it had to be hard to watch him go through that torment for 3 years, but you stuck by him and loved him with all your heart and he knows that and so does God..Just know that the Lord has him safely with him and that he would not want you to worry about anything.. He loved you and you have wonderful memories and that is what gets me through... my dad died 1 month ago, but God's Grace helps me. God Bless you Doreen, and thank you for your beautiful words.

Aug 09, 2013
Look for signs
by: Anonymous

I lost my dad the very next day after your father past away I am so sorry for your loss and pain. I have always thought when I have read about the tragedy of others, what perhaps, was I doing that day when they were going through one the worst days of their lives. I too, was holding my fathers hand, crying and knowing this was the moment we all knew would eventually come, not just for him, but for all of us. There too, will be a day for me and others that I love. We just don't know when. It definitely doesn't make it easier to experience these moments, but know as you grieve, somebody, somewhere is grieving as well. This is life. The facts, the joy, the pain and challenges we all go through before it is our moment to leave our loved ones crying, holding our own hands. It is only the end of this life. As you remember your dad, continue to cherish all the time you had and be blessed in the knowledge of what a time you had. All my prayers to you and others of your family.

Aug 09, 2013
I watched my Precious Dad pass onto Heaven
by: Doreen U.K.

Anna I am sorry for your loss of your Dad. It doesn't matter how old our father's are when they leave this world it leaves us with an emptiness and a broken heart forever.
When a father has had a very strong influence and interaction in one's life it hurts more. Every day you will look out for him and feel sorrow that he is not in your world continuing day to day stuff that added meaning and value to your life.
I lost my husband of 44yrs. to lung cancer 15 months ago. I nursed him for over 3yrs. and it was such a horrendous cancer journey of pain and being let down by the medical profession in his care. It was hard looking into the face of the man I loved and watch him die a slow death, knowing he would never see his family again. If one has a belief in God and in the afterlife then it makes life easier because we know where our loved one has gone and know that you will be reunited with your father again as I will with my beloved husband. Death is the harshness of life we all have to deal with and the pain from this loss is so difficult and painful to cope with. It takes a long time to heal from this loss.

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