I'm lost, don't know what to do?
I've been engaged for a year after a realtionship that lasted two years before ... We were in love, happy and planning for our wedding, and two months before our happy day, My mother in Law passed a way.
It was a shock for all of us specially that me and my fiance lives in a different country. We all went home, and me and my family stood by my Fiance's family and helped them through the funeral and all the arrangements, I was really sad for losing her, she never had a daughter and she use to call me her daughter and was very happy that I joined their family.
It's been six months now, and my fiance is not doing well at all, he is sad all the time, he is barely talking to me, ignoring me and recently been very rude to me, he is even blaming me for taking him away from his family, although I never took him away, and since we got engaged we went to our home country more than what we usualy do, which means we saw his family about seven times more in 2011 before his mom passed away in January.
He is barely talking to me, and when I say anything he screams at me and say all bad things ! I saw him yesterday with some other friends, he talkes to them fine, laugh, tell them stories but not to me! and everybody was asking if there was something wrong between us, because he wasn't talking to me at all and when I do he gives me this strange look .. when I asked him later he said everytime I see you I remember how you took me away from my family, I can't help it.
I understand that he is grieving and I understand from the grief stages that he is at the blame stage .. but I still thought that we should get closer to each other! I would want him by my side if I lose one of my parents.
I'm really Sad and feel useless, I want to stand by his side, support him and be with him, but he is not letting me and now trying to push me away, I'm a very patient person, and I would wait for him forever if I could understand why is he doing this ... I've been under loads of stress lately that started effecting my health, been in a very bad car accident too, but he dosn't seem to care.
My family is telling me that I shouldn't be with him anymore, but I love him and we were really happy before ... Would this change ! is this grief? I'm very lost, anybody been in a similar situation before!