by Niki
(Sri Lanka)

I lost my father on 28th January 2011 and my only sister on 30th January 2011, just 2 days apart. My father suddenly fell ill and was taken to the ICU where he passed away after 4 days. My sister's death was so sudden, she passed away at our parents place, where our father's funeral was being held. She suddenly collapsed on the 2nd day,just as our father's casket was being closed to be transported to the cemetery. She died of coronary thrombosis - she had a son of 6 years and a daughter just 6 weeks old when she passed away. The memories are unbearable, and when it comes to my sister, we were together almost all the time at our father's funeral up to the very last moment that it's very hard for me to accept what really happened to her. Although it's been 16 months I still cry for them both because I miss them so much - words can't express how I still feel. I can't even look at their photos or their belongings. I still keep their contact numbers in my phone - I don't want to erase them from my life.


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May 22, 2012
Thankyou, Marky

My dearest Marky,

My heartfelt thanks to you for taking your valuable time in contributing to ease my distressed and grieving mind - I was relieved to know that someone out there felt and understood exactly how I feel. I really appreciate everything you have mentioned as well as sharing your story with me, and I too understand how devastating it must be for you too, to lose your own loved ones. I'm trying my best now to be strong and cope with the loss - I hope you'd do the same, Marky. Take care and may God bless you.


May 18, 2012
my heart goes out to you
by: marky pars s/ wales

my dearest niki,
words are a poor substitute ,they cant express feelings ,of sadness i did reading your heart breaking letter. life must be a relentless nightmare with no guiding path or light
to help you move forward. i lost my dad to cancer, last july and my uncle in april last year, so i can understand the pain you feel with losing two people very close to you in such a short space or time. niki it going to take along time for you to try and come to terms with what has happened you dont recover, just adapt to survive in this world,i can understand why personal effects can upset you .
mum has still got clothes of dad and personal effects, which upset me when i see them . his last car is mothballed in the garage cant bear to drive it , just burst into tears cant help it to many memories to much pain to cope with .

so theres no written book on how to recover from some one you have lost, it may take forever , all i can say live one day at a time you can only live one day at a time, dont worry about next day month ,year or years even when you feel and think you can move forward , take it easy nikki , as ive found theres allways some thing to make you remember and knock you down to earth with a bang
take care nikki hope you can find peace in your heart and mind ,your in my prayers

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