In Memory of My Sparkling Gem.

by Cynthia Tuller-Paulos
(Brunswick, Ga.)

I waited a life time for the perfect man. Never been married, never engaged. I new what I wanted and was not going to settle for anything but the best.

1998 living in Atlanta, Ga. in chiropractic school. Not looking for love, but not opposed to it.
February 18th, 1998 7pm. This man comes through my girlfriends door, I thought he was an energizer bunny. He had so much life and energy to him. Little did I know that was my future husband. A bunch of us went out to dinner to celebrate my friends birthday. Tom and I hit it off right away. Days went by and he called me to let me know what a nice time we had. At the time I was seeing somebody, but nothing serious, so Tom and I really never went out until months later. Our first date was to a missionary conference with our church and then dinner and a movie. Wow-what a Godly man. He was everything I was looking for. Our our third date I knew I was going to marry him. It took many years, but we got there. Tom was my "Sparkling Gem". He loved me as Christ loved the church. He was the spiritual man that I always wanted. He was everything a wife could only hope for. We were a great team.

We finally married March 16th, 2010, after all the years of waiting, breaking up several times, but never really stopped talking. We were destined to be together. March 16th we got married by the Justice of the Peace. We were going to get married on a cruise in May, but my mother passed away suddenly and I could not plan a wedding without mom. After all, mother's are supposed to help you plan your wedding. I was crushed, so we just got married. Our wedding night, we spent in the emergency room. My healthy, husband had a severe stroke. Tom was a jock. He ran, ate healthy, great blood pressure, ....HEALTHY!!!

HOW COULD THIS HAPPEN-I WAITED FOREVER TO MARRY HIM AND THIS HAPPENS!!!! Talking about trusting God. I had to because nothing made sense.

Tom was out of work for two months and then went back. He was recovering well and we were moving forward with our life and plans. We are both chiropractors and were going to open our own practice up. He was practicing but I was not. Our life was great. We were both so much in love and so happy. I had my dream man that I waited a life time for.

In December 2012 of this year, Tom was dx. with stomach and colon cancer. We spent months in and out of hospital. He never lost his faith in God or complained about anything. People left him feeling uplifted. He was a man of God who praised God through the storm.

Our marriage was short, but what we had will never be forgotten. Tom taught me how to love and showed me what love truly is.

I miss you my Sparkling Gem. Tom always said goodbye with "God Bless You."

God Bless and thanks for allowing me to share my love with you.

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Oct 06, 2012
My friend Tom
by: Renee

Dear Cynthia,

I hope this reaches you. Thank you for your wonderful story.
I know you don't know me but I worked with Tom at Loyola Marymount University in Los Angeles. It was in 1986, (I think). I had a wonderful relationship with Tom. We loved the Lord, I gave him an NIV bible.
I loved this man and your discription of him is exactly as I knew him. All that energy. I used to tease him that he should use Papodapaulos!
(spelling?) Im so sorry I wasn't able to keep up our relationship, but I didn't know how to reach him. Finally I looked on Google and found him, only too late.
I wanted you to know how special he was to me, and how I loved him. I called my daughter to tell her about his death, I was crying. She knew him through me.
Thank you for writing your letter. Your story of how you two met, your love and now I know how he died.
I don't think he knew that my husband, Ken died two years after we moved to Fallbrook. Even though we were married longer than you and Tom, I understand your grief.
I know you'll always have your memories, your love and laughter together.
Love, Renee Scott

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