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I found this site a few yr's back and it was very much
my only lifeline at that time. I had lost my daughter the previous year from an accident. I felt I was hanging on by a thread just going through the motions of life. When you lose a loved one, in my case a child, there are NO instructions on what to do next. It is ALL such a nightmare that you first don't believe it. The pain and anguish is imaginable. You tell yourself there is NO way you can survive this but you do. You want to die, you think you will die, but you don't.
You will probably turn to your faith, God, and ask him for the strength to survive the Hell you are in.
I believe even those who have doubt will search out for a Divine intervention. There are hundreds if not thousands of books out there to help walk you through the stages of grief. Some will offer you biblical verses/passages to help bring you comfort and hope. I think people are afraid to tell you just how HARD the road ahead of you is going to be. Afraid it may be more than you can bear- those who have been on this journey before you. Thinking what could they POSSIBLY say that would help? I am a believer that knowledge is power and as HARD as this ALL is-knowing that you will SURVIVE can be a FIRST step. Knowing you aren't ALONE with the emotions you are feeling can HELP. Having REAL people share their REAL experiences even if they are filled with pain, can give you the help you will need. We are all only human and come here for the same thing I believe, to find HOPE.