Is this normal?
I feel very guilty since my mum died five months ago.Guilty over the things I didn't do, not getting the chance to say goodbye, not being with her the days prior to her death.i was on a family holiday with my husband and kids and she died a few days after I came home. Her health had declined in the previous five months and although doctors said that she would not recover they didn't put a time frame on it. Maybe I was in denial about how ill she was but I didn't think she was going to die suddenly.Now I feel so bad over what happened and I feel like a bad daughter.We had a normal mother and daughter relationship we spoke daily on the phone and were close even though I lived a 2 hour drive from her.We had normal disagreements but always made up and neither of us held grudges.I have two brothers who lived nearer her either one of them called in to her daily.The hospital recommended she go in to a Nursing home last April but she didn't want to go so we didn't force her. Now I am questioning that decision.She had carers who came in to her three times a day.
Now I feel that I let her down by not getting full time care for her. This guilt is eating me up.i miss her so much. everyone tells,e to move one with my life. I have a career and three kids a husband and lots of friends but my mum dominates my thoughts.
Has anyone else experienced this crippling grief? How did they get over it? Therese