It came out of nowhere

by Joe

I am 21, and a senior in college. My dad had dropped me off at school about 3 weeks ago, and I gave him a hug, and told him that I loved him and that I would see him around Thanksgiving. I called him every day. There was one day a week and a half ago that I did not call him, as I had to go to the store to get some things that my fraternity needed for a BBQ we were having. I was grilling burgers when I got a text from my mom that said: "Call Home 911."

I instantly called her, and she answered the phone in tears, and said that I needed to come home. I asked why and she said that "Dad is gone."

"What do you mean, gone?"

"To Heaven."

The next thing I remember is being picked up off of the concrete by a couple of my brothers. Within 15 minutes, someone had let me borrow their car, and someone was coming with me and I was driving the 200 miles to go home.

My dad had a heart attack at the age of 52, and had no warning to anyone. He was not the most healthy guy in the world, but he had just lost over 100 pounds and was starting to get healthier. He wasn't sick, or dieing, and I had no idea that this could happen. My mom just came home from work and found him on the floor.

I find it hard to get through the day now, and I miss him terribly. He was like my best friend, and always knew how to make me feel better. He was my dad, and I feel cheated that he was taken away from me while I am still so young.

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Sep 21, 2012
Sudden Cardiac Arrest
by: Kim

My dad passed away suddenly and unexpectedly on Feb. 27 2012 at the ripe age of 62. He had a sudden cardiac arrest while returning from a walk, and my mom found him in the driveway. I was at work when I got this devastating news. I am 25 and live at home still, so I miss his presence everyday. It has gotten easier but man.... Losing a dad when you're in your 20s with so much left to prove... . Oo

Sep 18, 2012
I feel your pain!
by: Kelli

I lost my dad 12 days ago (9-5-12) I feel cheated also. I am 34, he died two days before I turned 34. I hope you have found some peace, some how , some way. If so, any pointers? Good luck to you. Know that you are loved by him and nothing can take that away!

Sep 11, 2012
It came out of nowhere
by: Doreen U.K.

Joe I am sorry for your loss of your dad. Life is so cruel. Just when we are enjoying life as we should, we are suddenly plunged into sorrow and grief. My mother died 9 years ago of a heart attack. It was sudden. It was more acceptable for us because she was 77yrs. But we still grieved and had sorrow for a long time. When one is younger it is harder to accept. My husband died almost 5 months ago of a deadly cancer and I won't get over this loss. My husband was 65yrs. and I feel this is still too young to die. I have heart trouble like my mother so this is what I will die of. I don't think any of us on planet earth will get used to DEATH. LOSS. SORROW. GRIEF. It comes as a package of LIFE. but it HURTS SO MUCH. It is a pain that can't be imagined. I hope that you have good supportive family and friends at this time as it does help us with our grief. 3 weeks is still very early days and you will feel the loss of your Dad for a good while longer. Give yourself the time and the space to grieve don't become so busy and postpone grief as it happens automatically and you will feel it twice as hard to bear. Days ahead will get easier and this is how we get through this one day at a time. May you be comforted and have Peace in the days ahead.

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