ITS BEEN ALMOST 10 YEARS NOW!
by Roberta Mmaria Hyde
10 years ago a lot of things where happening all at once for me good and bad.
We are going to New Zealand to see your mother who was on a holiday for her own sister's funeral who had also died from cancer when she fell sicker than she was over here in Australia unknown to her loving family waiting in Australia for her to return.
RING-RING-answer phone to be told that she wont be returning as she only had half her thyroid left from previous operation now had had it all removed then was placed on A BREATHING MACHINE in her sisters home surrounded by family who also loved her but she hadn't told her own family who were waiting for there mother's return. Finally she made the call she dreaded-IM DYING AND I CANT GET BACK TO YOU ALL in tears to her husband/sons&daughter. We packed up and went over after my father had to pay for everyone she loved to show there last respect to the most beautiful woman in the world.
It was sad to see her so sick from her operation and exhausted from all the noise from her sister's family made as she was used to a quiet place where she loved to be alone doing her own thing.But she was in her sister's house who she hadn't really been close to for 20 something years she lived in Australia with her own family.
Then her then 25 year old daughter/me had put her through hell for so many years without even knowing about much about my mother to start with but as she knew she didn't have long left told us to only come for 3 weeks over the Christmas holidays those 3 weeks became 3 months and before I knew I finally had the best/greatest relationship with my mother ever.
She asked me to return to Australia to be with my father then 1 month after leaving she passed away.
knowing my passport had expired and i couldn't get back in time for her funeral doesn't mean I wasn't there in heart and soul.
Ringing her twice a day became ritual after she passed away I'd still call then remember she had passed away but it was the closest we had ever been as she has been through a lot herself so I don't blame her for other mistakes/I blame them!
But that's the 1 thing I'd love to do as often as possible-ring her to say-I LOVE YOU MUM,ALWAYS AND FOREVER YOUR BABY BOBBI.xxx