ITS OVER 3 YEARS

by IRWIN DRESNER
(PALM CITY, FLORIDA,USA)

MY WIFE DIED OCT.05, 2009. I BEEN ALONE EVER SINCE LIVING IN THE HOME THAT I BOUGHT AFTER WE GOT MARRIED. MY CHILDREN LIVED IN OTHER STATES. AFTER MY WIFE’S DEATH MY NEIGHBORS DID NOT EVEN LOOK AT ME.
I WOULD TAKE CARE OF MYSELF BY COOKING HEALTHY MEALS, EXERCISING, GOING TO THE DOCTOR TO GET CHECKED OUT AND DATING A LITTLE. I ALSO WENT TO MY VETERANS MEETINGS, PAYING MY BILLS, SHOPPING.
ON DECEMBER 2012 MY CHILDREN CAME TO VISIT ME. THEY SORT OF FORCED ME TO PUT MY HOME UP FOR SALE IN NEW YORK AND COME TO FLORIDA. I STOPPED MY MAIL FOR 30 DAY THEY FLEW ME TO FLORIDA, WHERE I SLEEP IN ONE SMALL HOT ROOM. MY CAR IS IN NEW YORK SO I CAN ONLY WALK TO PLACES, I HAVE NOT GOTTEN MY MAIL AND I DO NOT FEEL GREAT.
I FEEL THAT MY CHILDREN ONLY CARED ABOUT ONE THING AND THAT WAS GETTING MY MONEY. MY HEALTH HAS BEEN GOING DOWNHILL SINCE. I TRULY FEEL LIKE ENDING MY LIFE THEN LIVING IN THIS HELL. I SEE NOTHING IN MY LIFE. I JUST WANTED ANOTHER LADY THAT I CAN GO OUT WITH AND BUY HER THINGS THAT SHE LIKED. MY CHILDREN ARE TRYING TO STOP THAT FROM HAPPENING. COMBAT WAS EASIER. I TRULY SEE NOTHING GOOD LEFT IN MY LIFE.
HAVE A GREAT WEEKEND EVERYONE, I KNOW THAT I WILL NOT.
IRWIN
IRWINHAM@VERIZON.NET

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Jan 27, 2014
IRWI
by: Anonymous

I hope you are okay. You have went thru a lot.
Do your children know you have been thru a war
and you have the right to be where you want to be.
You just need assistance. God bless you and
good luck

Jun 17, 2013
IT'S WAY OVER 3 YEARS
by: IRWIN

HI EVERYONE, ITs way over 3 YEARS AND I AM BACK WITH MY DAUGHTERS IN FLORIDA. THEY TELL ME THEY WANT TO HELP ME. MY HOME IS UP FOR SALE AND THEY WANT ME TO BUY SOMETHING IN FLORIDA. THEY SEEM SINCERE IN TRYING TO HELP ME. THEY TAKE ME TO DOCTORS. MY SEVERE DEPRESSION IS STILL WITH ME AND I CANNOT SHAKE IT OFF. WE WENT TO THE MO VIES THE OTHER DAY. HAVE A GOOD WEEK. IRWIN D

May 10, 2013
its over 3 yrs
by: silver

Dear Irwin,I'm so glad things are beginning to turn around for you.It has been 2yrs for me this month and I find I'm having some bad days.It's a 4x threat for me in May.My best friend died on May 29th,2010 then my husband on the same day 2011.Our 35th wedding anniversary would've been May 22 and Mother's day is this month. He always got me a beautiful card,+ my mom died in Oct 2010.Most days I can cope.Some days a little crying,and some days so lonely and crying.I am finally beginning to get out some.Some friends say I should find someone to be with.I tell them that I don't know what GOD has planned for me but,for now,I'm still too much in love with my husband. I continue to send you prayers and love.GOD will send you peace.Take care of yourself my friend.

Apr 27, 2013
It's over 3 years
by: Irwin Dresner

HI EVERYONE. I AM BACK IN FLORIDA BUT THIS TIME I AM FEELING BETTER. I WAS LIVING BY MYSELF SINCE MY WIFE DIED ALMOST 4 YEARS AGO. MY DAUGHTERS WANT ME TO LIVE IN FLORIDA TO BE NEAR THEM INCASE I NEED HELP. SO FAR WE ARE GETTING ALONG
OK. I WILL KEEP ALL INFORMED. THE LAST YEAR WAS LIKE MY. COMBAT DAYS BUT I WANT TO GET BACK TO A HAPPY LIFE. I WANT TO THANK EVERYONE FOR HELPING ME. I WISH EVERYONE THE
BEST IN EVERYONE THE BST IN EVERYWAY
POSSIBLE. LOVE TO ALL. IRWIN

Mar 16, 2013
ITS OVER 3 YEARS
by: IRWIN DRESNER

YES I AM HOME BUT MY CHILDREN HAVE ME STILL LIVING IN HELL. THEY ARE PUTING FALSE THINGS ON FACEBOOK ABOUT ME. I STILL FEEL VERY DRUGED LIKE I DID IN FLORIDA, I DO NOT KNOW WHAT THEY DID. MY CHILDREN HAVE CONTINUED TO POISON THE MINDS OF MY FRIENDS ABOUT ME. AT THE MOMENT I TRULY DO NOT KNOW WHAT TO DO. I WOULD GIVE THEM ANYTHING TO STOP. IT IS DESTROYING ME. I TRULY SHOULD HAVE LEFT A LONG TIME AGO. I DO NOT KNOW HOW LONG I CAN TAKE THIS. THEY STILL HAVE MY STOLEN COMPUTER. IF I OFFER THEM ALL MY MONEY THEN THEY WILL STOP BUT MY RETIREMENT MONEY IS GOING FAST. I TRULY DO NOT KNOW WHAT TO DO OR DO I EVEN HAVE A CHANCE TO GET OUT OF THIS. I WISH I WAS IN COMBAT IT WAS EASIER. GOD PLEASE HELP ME. IRWIN

Mar 12, 2013
its over 3 years
by: Irwin dresner

I AM HOME NOW BUT IT WAS A STRUGGLE. FROM MY EXPERIENCE SINCE NEW YEARS I DO NOT FEEL LIKE THE SAME PERSON. THIS TRIP HAS TAKEN A LARGE TOLL ON ME AND I FEEL THAT I HAD AGED 10 YEARS OVER THIS 2 MONTHS. IF I DID NOT LEAVE I TRULY DID NOT KNOW IF I COULD LIVE THIS LIFE ANY LONGER. MY CHILDREN HAD TRULY DONE ME A LOT OF HARM. THE TRIP BACK WAS A NIGHTMARE IN EVERYWAY POSSIBLE THANKS TO MY CHILDREN. I AM HOPING TO GET THIS INTO MY BOOK. YES I AM BACK WITHOUT MY COMPUTER OR IPHONE5.THESE WERE STOLEN BY MY CHILDREN WHO WERE OUT TO DESTROY ME IN EVERYWAY POSSIBLE. THE WAY THAT I FEEL, IT WOULD HAVE BEEN BETTER IF THEY HAD. BEFORE I WAS TAKEN TO FLORIDA, I WAS WRITTING MORE POEM, WRITING MORE OF MY BOOK, RACE WALKING, COOKING GREAT MEALS, GOING ON DATES, HOWEVER ALL THAT IS NOW GONE AND I AM LUCKY TO JUST GET OUT OF BED. IRWIN

Mar 10, 2013
ITS OVER 3 YEARS
by: IRWIN DRESNER

HI EVERYONE, IT WAS GETTING REAL BAD AND I WAS NO LONGER SAFE. I HAD TO LEAVE OR MY LIFE WOULD BE OVER. MY CHILDREN WANTED MY MONEY AND OTHER THINGS EVEN IF IT MEANT TAKING MY LIFE. I PLANNED TO LEAVE. I WENT RACE WALKING AND CALLED DELTA AIRLINES AND MADE RESERVATIONS FOR THE NEXT DAY. I PLANNED ON HAVING SOMEONE PICK ME UP THE NEXT MORNING A LITTLE AWAY FROM THE HOUSE. I DROPPED MY BAGGAGE OUT THE SIDE WINDOW, MY COMPUTER IN MY LUGGAGE. I THE MORNING I FOUND MY SHOES MISSING. THEN MY IPHONE WAS MISSING. MY RIDE ARRIVED AND MY 2 DAUGHTERS TO HIS THE WOULD CALL POLICE. HE FOUND BAggage AND PUT IT INTO TRUNK WHILE MY DAUGHTER GRABBED MY CELL PHONE. I GOT INTO THE CAR WITHOUT MY COMPUTER OR CELL PHONE. HE STARTED TO DRIVE. I THEN FOUND OUT THAT MY DELTA FLIGHT RES WERE CANCELLED. THE DRIVER SAID THE POLICE WERE AFTER US. WE OBTAINED A LAWYER AND DROVE TO THE DELTA TERMINAL WHERE THE POLICE, DELTA OFFICALS AND LAWYER MET US OUTSIDE THE DELTA TERMINAL. THEY ASKED ME A NUMBER OF QUESTION AND ITOLD THEM THAT MY CHILDREN WERE TRYING TO GET ALL MY MONEY AND WOULD DO ANYTHING TO ME TO GET IT. THEY SEEN MY KOREA WAR VET HAT AND MY CLEAR MIND ON WHAT IS HAPPENING. THEY SAID THAT I WAS CLEAR TO GO HOME. DELTA MADE ME RESERVATIONS ON A FLIGHT. I PAID THE LAWYER. I HAD NO CELL PHONE OR COMPUTER. MY CHILDREN ARE CRIMINALS. I AM 84 AND I FELT GREAT BEFORE GOING TO FLORIDA BUT NOW I FEEL BAD. I HAD GRIEF FROM MY WIFES PASSING BUT THIS HAD REALLY DONE ME IN. GOD I WONDER WHAT TO DO NEXT. I AM HOME NOW FEELING BAD, NO CELL PHONE. BY NOW MY CHILDREN HAVE GOTTEN EVERYTHING OUT OF MY COMPUTER INCLUDING MY IRA ETC INFORMATION. MY DAUGHTERS LOOK LIKE THE DEVIL THAT DAY. I TRULY DO NOT KNOW WHAT TO DO BUT I WILL NOT GIVE UP MY LIFE LIKE MY CHILDREN WANT ME TO DO. I AM GLAD THAT I BROUGHT ALL MY NEWSPAPER ARTICLE THAT WERE DONE ON ME FOR THEM TO SEE AND ALL MY POEMS. GOOGLE IRWIN DRESNER TO SEE ABOUT ME. I AM HOME BUT FEELING REALLY DEPRESSED WHILE GOING THRU THIS. HAVE A GREAT DAY. IRWIN

Mar 08, 2013
ITS OVER 3 YEARS
by: IRWIN DRESNER

I HAVE PLANED TO LEAVE TOMORROW BUT THEY ARE FOLLOWING ME LIKE YOU WOULD NOT BELIEVE. I AM TRULY GOING DOWNHILL AND THAT IS WHAT THEY WANT. THEY WILL DO ANYTHING TO GET MY MONEY. SINCE I LEFT NEW YORK TO BE TAKEN DOWN TO FLORIDA I BEEN GOING DOWN HILL IN EVERYWAY POSSIBLE. THEY CAN HAVE MY MONEY I JUST WANT MY LIFE. I DOES NOT LOOK GOOD FOR ME AT ALL. IRWIN

Feb 28, 2013
Its over 3 yrs
by: silver

Dear Irwin, I agree with the others LEAVE NOW. Do not take the abuse. ESCAPE NOW The longer you stay the harder it will be able to leave. I know!! The abuser begins to get control over you and you feel you will leave but will be afraid to.Let your son help you if he is not one of the abusers.GOD be with you and help you.I keep you in my prayers.May GOD give you the strength to go.When I left my ex,I took only a few clothes,medicine,and pictures.Leave what is not important.
Lovingly Silver

Feb 26, 2013
go home
by: Anonymous

get a plane ticket and fly home.. Get out of there

Feb 25, 2013
ITS OVER 3 YEARS
by: IRWIN DRESNER

I CANNOT TAKE THIS FROM MY CHILDREN ANY MORE. MY OLDER DAUGHTER IS SAYING EVERYTHING ABOUT ME THAT I AM CRAZY AND EVERYTHING ELSE. I TRULY FEEL LIKE ENDING IT INSTEAD OF BEING TREATED LIKE THIS. I DO NOT KNOW WHAT TO DO. MY DAUGHTER IS KILLING ME. SHE IS SAYING EVERYTHING FALSE ABOUT ME. MY DAUGHTER IS SAYING EVERYTHING BAD ABOUT ME. I SHOULD OF LEFT BACK SOME TIME AGO BUT THEY SAID THEY WILL CALL THE POLICE AND HAVE ME COMMITTED. BEFORE I LEFT FOR FLORIDA I WAS FEELING GREAT AND NOW I TRY TO FUNCTION. I TRULY DO NOT KNOW WHAT TO DO. MY OWN DAUGHTER IS ABUSING ME AND HER SISTER IS SMILING. GOD WHAT CAN I DO. MY SON IN BOSTON SAID HE WILL FLY OUT TOMORROW NIGHT BUT CAN I WAIT THAT LONG. MY DAUGHTER MAKES ME AFRAID OF HER.I TRYED THAT ABUSE NUMBER THAT SOMEONE POSTED BUT THEY COULD NOT HELP ME. INEED MY WIFE BACK TO HELP ME. A GOOD WEEK TO ALL. IRWIN

Feb 18, 2013
It's over 3 YEARS
by: IRWIN DRESNER

I THINK WILL CALL THE HOT LINE NUMBER
AS SOON AS I GET OUT TO RACEWALK.

MY CHILDREN CONTINUE TO TRY TO TAKE CONTROL OF ME. THEY TELL THE DOCTOR THAT I AM MENTALLY
I'LL. I FUNCTION COMPLETELY. IF YOU GOOGLE
IRWIN DRESNER. POET-----YOU WILL SEE A NUMBER OF MY POEM , YOU WILL SEE THAT I HAD WRITTEN A BOOK
IF YOU GO TO MY FACEBOOK PAGE AND LOOK AT ALL MY ARTICLES YOU WILL SEE A PICTURE OF ME IN MY CAR. THE TITLE IS.
HIGH FI CAR STARTS WITH A WORD

THIS IS A NEWSPAPER PICTURE OF ME. I COULD START MYCAR UP TO 3 MILES AWAY.
I WAS AN ENGINEERING. MANAGER FOR A HIGH TECH COMPANY.

I WRITTEN A BOOK OF MY LIFE AND HAD IT COPY RIGHTED. MY MIND FUNCTIONS VERY WELL BUT ALL MY CHILDREN DO NOT WANT ME TO FUNCTION.
FOR OVER 3 YEAR I DID NOT BOTHER THEM, AND I DID
EVERYTHING BY MYSELF. I WORKED HARD FOR MY MONEY. THEY HAVE TOLD DOCTORS THAT I AM ACTING CRAZY. THE DOCTORS ARE BELIEVING. THEM. ThEY ARE TRYING TO PUT ME AWAY.

THE DOCTORS HAVE GIVEN ME MEDICINE THAT MAKES
ME FEEL VERY FUNNY AND MY DAUGHTER IS PUTTING IT INTO MY FOOD. I HAVE NOT SEEN MY HOME SINCE
NEW YEARS. I KNOW THAT HE GOES THERE TO LOOK
AT ALL MY PAPERS. I TRULY FEEL THAT MY LIFE IS OVER. I FEEL THAT MY LIFE IS OVER
UNLESS I GET SAVED. I TRULY DO NOT KNOW HOW
MUCH LONGER I CAN STAY SAFE. EVERYWHERE
I GO THEY FOLLOW. I TRULY AM GROWING WEAKER.
MY E-MAIL
IRWINHAM@VERIZON.NET

COMBAT WAS EASIER

A GREAT DAY TO ALL

PS/. MY OLDER DAUGHTER JUST ORDERED A NEW
BMW
I WILL TRY TO GET OUT FOR A RACE WALK

MY DAUGHTER JUST GOT ME A GIANT MC DONALD
COFFEE BUT I AM AFRAID IT'S DRUGGED./ HAVE A GREAT DAY, Irwin


Feb 17, 2013
In Florida there is an elder abuse hotline
by: Anonymous

By Phone: Call Florida Abuse Hotline at 1-800-96-ABUSE (1-800-962-2873). Press 2 to report suspected abuse, neglect or exploitation of the elderly or a vulnerable adult. This toll free number is available 24/7.

To report online: Go to DCF Web site at www.dcf.state.fl.us/programs/abuse/report.shtml

The DCF operates the Florida Abuse Hotline, to which calls alleging abuse, neglect or exploitation of vulnerable adults can be made 24 hours a day. DCF’s Protective Investigators visit each person to determine the need for and provision of on-going protective supervision and provision or arrangement of services.

Feb 12, 2013
ITS OVER 3 YEARS
by: IRWIN DRESNER

THIS MAY BE MY LAST POSTING. I AM STILL IN FLORIDA AND MY DAUGHTERS ARE STILL TRYING TO DESTROY ME. THEY CALLED THE POLICE AND SAID I WAS HITTING EVERYONE. I WAS TAKEN TO A MENTAL HOSPITAL AND LATER RELEASED AFTER I EXPLAINED THAT MY DAUGHTERS ARE DOING THIS TO GET MY MONEY. THEY DID IT AGAIN TODAY. NOW BOTH MY DAUGHTER ARE DOING THE SAME. I DO NOT HAVE ENOUGH STRENGTH TO DO ANYTHING. THEY ARE STILL MAD THAT I WOULD NOT SIGN PAPERS TO SELL MY HOME. COMBAT WAS EASIER. I FEEL MY LIFE IS OVER BECAUSE I CANNOT CONTINUE TO HANG ON ANY LONGER LIKE THIS. I TOLD THEM TO TAKE MY MONEY BUT LET ME ALONE BUT THEY STILL CONTINUED DOING THIS TO ME. HAVE A GREAT WEEK. IRWIN

Feb 08, 2013
Its over 3 yrs
by: silver

Dear Irwin,I am sorry to say this and if it is wrong please allow me to say I'm sorry in advance.I know you love your children, but you need to stay away from the ones who treat you like you're totally unable to handle yourself.If you nee help..get it,but don't allow anyone to bully you.Take it from a survivor of abuse..you can't change them and they will only treat you worse as time goes on. It has been almost 2 yrs for me and believe me when I say that those who haven't been there don't understand. I know this for sure because I couldn't understand when my father died why my mother didn't go on until it happened to me. I pray for you always. I send you love and prayers for peace and strength.

Feb 07, 2013
ITS OVER 3 YEARS
by: IRWIN DRESNER

IN DECEMBER MY DAUGHTERS CAME FROM FLORIDA TO VISIT. MY SON ALSO CAME DOWN. I HAD NOT SEEN THEM ABOUT A YEAR. I WAS HAPPY AND MY DEPRESSION WAS MILD, WHILE HERE THEY SAID I SHOULD SELL MY HOUSE. I SAID NO AND THEY KEPT AFTER ME. I WAS GROWING MORE DEPRESSED BY THE MOMENT. I STOPPED MY MAIL AND WE FLEW DOWN TO FLORIDA. I TOLD THEM I WOULD THINK ABOUT IT WHILE IN FLORIDA. A SHORT TIME AFTER I ARRIED IN FLORIDA THEY STARTED AGAIN,I SAID I WILL NOT,THEY WERE GROWING VIOLENT AND I WAS GETTING WORRIED. THEY TRIED TO WEAR ME DOWN BUT I KEPT SAYING NO. ONE DAY I HEARD MY OLDER DAUGHTER TELL A MAN THAT WAS FIXING SOMETHING IN THE HOUSE THAT MY DAD HITS PEOPLE. I NEVER HIT ANYONE.MY DAUGHTER THEN CALLED THE POLICE AND TOLD THEM THAT MY FATHER HAS GONE CRAZY AND IS HITTING PEOPLE. THIS DAUGHTER HAD BEEN MARRIED TO A CRIMINAL AND SHE HAS GOTTEN LIKE HIM. POLICE CAME,PUT ME IN HANDCUFFS AND TOOK ME TO A MENTAL HOSPITAL. I WAS CRYING ALL THE WAY. AT THIS PLACE THEY WERE ASKING ME QUESTIONS.I TOLD THEM EVERYTHING,SHOW THEM A FOLDER WITH ALL MY NEWSPAPER ARTICLE.THEY WERE VERY IMPRESSED WITH MY ARTICLES AND AGAIN THEY SAID HOW COULD THEY HAVE DONE THIS TO YOU. IT WAS ALL ABOUT MONEY. AM STILL IN FLORIDA TRYING TO PLAN WHAT TO DO NEXT.WAITING FOR MY MAIL. HOW COULD THEY HAVE DONE THIS? HAVE A GOOD WEEK. IRWIN

Feb 04, 2013
ITS OVER 3 YEARS
by: IRWIN DRESNER

I CANNOT BELIEVE WHAT IS HAPPENING TO ME. IN DECEMBER MY DAUGHTERS CAME IN FROM FLORIDA TO LONG ISLAND, NEW YORK TO VISIT ME. WE WERE HAVING A GREAT TIME. I WAS LIVING BY MYSELF FOR ALMOST 4 YEARS SINCE MY WIFE DIED, BUT I WAS HANDLING EVERYTHING OK. I AM AN OLD COMBAT VETERAN. WHILE HERE THEY WERE FORCING ME TO SELL MY HOUSE. I TOLD THEM I MOVED INTO THIS HOUSE WHEN I GOT MARRIED AND WANTED TO STAY HERE. WE WENT TO FLORIDA AND I AM IN A SMALL ROOM WITH NO AIR. WHEN WE EAT OUT I PAY EVERYTIME. ONE DAY THERE WAS A REPAIRMAN IN THE HOUSE AND MY CHILDREN WAS TELLING HIM THAT MY DAD IS VIOLENT AND HITS PEOPLE. I NEVER HIT ANYONE IN MY LIFE. MY OLDER DAUGHTER WAS MARRIED TO A CRIMINAL. I FOUND OUT LATER. HE WAS ALSO USING MY WIFES NAME FOR FALSE COMPANIES. SHE IS A LOT LIKE HIM. MY DAUGHTERS CALLED THE POLICE AND SAID THAT I WAS VIOLENT. THE POLICE CAME AND PUT ME INTO THE BACK OF THEIR CAR. IT WAS SO TIGHT IT WAS HURTING ME. THEY DROVE ME TO A MENTAL HOSPITAL. I WAS CRYING THE WHOLE TRIP. WHEN I ARRIVED THERE I TOLD MY STORY AND THEY SAID THAT THEY COULD NOT BELIEVE CHILDREN WOULD DO THIS TO THEIR OLD DAD. BUT MONEY IS THE ROUTE OF ALL EVIL.
THEY CHECKED ME OUT AND SAID THEY COULD NOT FIND ANYTHING WRONG WITH ME EXCEPT MY BLOOD PRESSURE WAS VERY HIGH AND I KNEW THAT IT WAS FROM THIS. I GOT RELEASED A FEW HOURS LATER. MY DAUGHTER PICKED ME UP. NOW THEY ARE STILL ON MY BACK ABOUT SEELLING MY HOME. THEY WANT THE MONEY WITHOUT GIVING UP NO MATTER HOW THEY DESTROY ME. COMBAT WAS EASIER. THIS IS KILLING ME, I DO NOT SLEEP AND MY DEPRESSION IS THE WORSE THAT I HAD SUFFERED IN MY ENTIRE LIFETIME. IT LOOKS LIKE THE END FOR ME. I WOULD LEAVE BUT WITH WHAT WAS DONE TO ME, I WOULD NEED SOMEONE TO HELP. I TRULY FEEL THAT IT IS THE END FOR ME.

Jan 30, 2013
ITS OVER 3 YEARS
by: IRWIN DRESNER

I AM STILL IN FLORIDA BUT LIVING A NIGHTMARE.
MY CHILDREN CAME TO ME BEFORE THE HOLIDAYS. WE WENT INTO NEW YORK CITY TO SEE THE TREE. I HAD BEEN LIVING BY MYSELF FOR OVER 3 YEARS SINCE MY WIFE DIED. I WAS DOING MOST OF THE COMPUTER WORK AT OUR VETERANS GROUPS. I WAS A COMBAT VETERAN DURING THE KOREA WAR. AT THE END OF DECEMBER THEY HAD ME FLY BACK WITH THEM. FOR THE LAST MONTH I SLEPT IN A HOT ROOM, COOK IF I WANT TO EAT. HAVE DONE NOTHING AS FAR AS PLEASURE. MY DEPRESSION HAS BEEN MUCH WORSE. I BEEN RACE WALKING 4 MILES EVERYDAY TO KEEP FIT. I HAVE NOT GOTTRN MY MAIL IN A MONTH, MY COMPUTER IS THERE, A FEW DAYS AGO MY DAUGHTER CAME TO ME AND WANTED ME TO SIGN PAPERS SELLING MY HOME. I REFUSED TO AND SHE BLEW UP. THIS WAS MY HOME SINCE I GOT MARRIED. I KNEW WHERE THE MONEY WOULD GO IF I SELL IT. I AM LOOKING FOR SOMEONE THAT I CAN CONTINUE TO ENJOY BY TAKING HER EVERYPLACE, EATING OUT, GOING TO DISNEY ETC. MY KIDS HEARD THAT AND THEY GREW VERY MAD. I HAVE HAD DEPRESSION MY ENTIRE LIFE AND IT WAS VERY BAD NOW. I AM VERY CREATIVE AND BEEN IN THE NEWSPAPERS A NUMBER OF TIMES. I AM AN INVENTOR, POET, I WRITTEN A BOOK. IF YOU GOOGLE
IRWIN DRESNER POET YOU WILL SEE A NUMBER OF MY POEMS. MY CHILDREN ONLY WANT THE MONEY FROM MY HOME AND DO NOT CARE ABOUT ME. I MISS MY WIFE SO MUCH. I HELPED PEOPLE MY WHOLE LIFE BUT CANNOT HELP MYSELF. THANKS FOR READING. IRWIN

Jan 23, 2013
ITS OVER 3 YEARS
by: IRWIN DRESNER

I WANT TO THANK ALAN, VERONICA, SILVER, ANONYMOUS,AND JUDITH FOR THE NICE REPLY TO MY POST.
I AM STILL IN FLORIDA IN A VERY DEPRESSED STATE OF MIND. COMBAT WAS EASIER. ITS OVER 3 YEARS AND I AM LOOKING FOR A MATE THAT I CAN GO PLACES WITH, BUY HER THINGS THAT SHE NEED, TAKE HER ALL OVER AND ABOVE ALL MAKE MY SELF HAPPY AND WANTING TO LIVE BUT MY CHILDREN (ALL GROWNUP) DO NOT WANT THAT TO HAPPEN. ARE THEY AFRAID THAT THEY WILL NOT GET ALL MY MONEY. WHEN I TRY TO SLEEP IN THIS HOT ROOM,I FIND MYSELF LYING AWAKE A GOOD PART OF THE NIGHT. I HAVE BEEN TO DOCTORS FOR MY SEVERE DEPRESSION BUT NOTHING HAS HELPED. I GO RACE WALKING ABOUT 3 MILES EACH DAY BUT NOT EVEN THIS HELPS. TOMORROW I WILL CONTINUE TO LOOK FOR SOMEONE THAT I CAN MAKE HAPPY AND I KNOW THAT IT WILL MAKE ME HAPPY. P WILL CONTINUE TO WRITE MORE POEMS AND CONTINUE TO WRITE MORE OF MY BOOK OF MY LIFE THAT I HAD COPY RIGHTED AND HOLIWOOD WAS INTERESTED IN. IF YOU GOOGLE MY NAME YOU WILL SEE MORE ABOUT THIS AND MORE OF MY POEMS, A GREAT THURSDAY TO ALL.
IRWIN DRESNER

Jan 19, 2013
Take care of Irwin first
by: Alan

Hi Irwin, my heartfelt condolences on your loss. I would like to believe that all children have their parents' best interest at heart, especially in your case. I lost my sweet wife a little over a year ago and sometimes I swear it doesn't get any easier. I'm still in the " take care of myself first " mode, I'm sure folks in here know what I mean. If I'm not in the mood, I won't do it, if I'm having a tough day, I won't go, you get the idea. In their wishes to do what's best for Dad I wonder if your children have lost sight of what your true needs are, kids can do this without realizing it. I have no words of wisdom for you, Irwin, just realize you are not alone.

Thank You very much for your service.

Jan 19, 2013
tell the kids to *iss off
by: Veronica

Irwin,

Don't give up your independence. If you haven't sold the house go back to it and the memories that are there. It sounds to me like your kids are trying to ease their guilt of not spending time with you and that they want the convenience of having you close. Who's to say if that is right or not but in your home you have your peace. Go to the senior center in your town; there are many activities and people that you could get involved with. You have to make the effort if you want to get the change. I have read your postings. You have fought many battles dear Irwin, this one you can definitely win.

Best to you.

Jan 19, 2013
over 3 yrs
by: silver

Dear Irwin: It's a good sign that you are wanting to get out and live again.I know this sounds awful but ignore your kids on this subject. Two of my children want me to get out and get involved somewhere but two of them look at me as if I was crazy. I am so lonely at times. I don't go to bars so that's out. I am planning to start going to the senior center next week.They also opened a senior advocacy center and I think I will look into seeing if I can help. I don't know if I told you but I'm a retired nurse and I spent the last 8 and 1/2 yrs of it in a nursing home.Please go out even if it is to a restaurant.During this cold winter weather it seems bleak at times. I barely made it through the holidays but I'm feeling better now.I see light in the distance. I know there will still be troubled times.I know I will still cry sometimes.I know there will always be something missing,but I go on for my darling husband and my grandkids. I never expected to be a widow before I was old enough to retire but my faith in GOD has given me strength.I pray for you and send you love and extra hugs.

Jan 19, 2013
your life
by: Anonymous

I am so sorry. My husband died four months ago; I am deep in grief. this horrible journey is different for each person, but i understand somewhat how you feel.

I think you need to get a social worker who specializes in helping seniors -- you need an advocate who cares only about YOU, not about your kids. Maybe your local senior center could help you with that, or you could search online. I hope this helps.

Jan 19, 2013
Don't give up
by: Anonymous

Dear Irwin:
This makes me so angry that your adult children would treat you this way. You were doing really well in taking care of yourself after your wife's death and as far as your neighbor's went,that is pretty typical of some because they just don't know what to say to you.
Why don't you have your car in Florida with you? You need a way to get around. If you still have the money from the sale of your house, use some of it to get your car shipped down (if the car has some value). Or, I am assuming the "children" do not have your money yet. Let them send it or drive it down to you. They are being heartless and you should not have to live this way.
I know it is really hard for you but you were very brave in taking care of your health etc at that bad time so try to keep up exercising and start living your life again. You are worth it and your dear wife would not want you to be living this way.
Be firm with your family and let them know your needs.
I have had many losses and am trying my best to connect with people and take care of myself.
God bless you and I will have you in my thoughts and know that things can improve for you.
If you can afford a counsellor, go and see one or I am sure your community has free help through a local church.
Hang in there. Don't give up. Life will get better for you.
You can receive a lot of support on this website too. People can be wonderful.
God bless you.

Jan 19, 2013
Get Tuff Irwin
by: Judith in California

Irwin, I have written you before when you posted about your loss. I'm so sorry that you are still having such a hard time. You do realize you have a big roll in how your life is going.
If you sit and play the heartbrken , helpless Dad then that's how your kids will treat you. AND you won't find a loving woman that way.

Irwin, please get tuff and take your life back from your adult children. You tell them what you are going to do. Do not let them take advntage of you again. YOU tell them to get your car sent to you and to stay out of your business. You have to show them you are strong. Take back your life. Your wife would not hve wanted this to happen to you. If you can't get your adult children to co-operate then get an Elder Law Attorney and have him write a letter to them stating just what they are to do.

You can not just let yourself go downhill. You have a choice in how your life goes. Get back that fight you once had and show those selfish kids you won't be taken advantage of again. You tell them , they don't tell you.

I lost my husband 2 years ago and still have my sad moments but no one will take advntage of me becasue I'm strong and know that God wants me to go on with my life. He has plans for me and he has them for you too. Join a church to meet people or volunteer to help others. That's when we are at our best.

Please let us know how you are doing from time to time. GET tuff and get going.

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