sick little boy...RIP 10/25/2009

by Dave
(Cape Coral, FL USA)

Josh was my second son. He was born a very happy baby. But, at the age of 15 months, Josh was diagnosed with a severe, rare kidney disease. Josh was taken directly to a local children's hospital. While there, I was able to do shifts with my ex wife so that someone could be awake at all times. I was in the room and at 2:03AM, he stopped breathing. Luckily, they were able to revive him. As the years passed, Josh was told that he would have to go for chemo, dialysis and blood transfusions (bone marrow) to keep him going. In 2007, Josh had a kidney transplant and was very sick from rejection and other body ailments. Then, in October of 2009 while sitting at home at the dinner table, he fell down and was bleeding from all parts of his body. Josh was diagnosed at the home with a Severe massive brain hemorrhage. He was pronounced dead at the scene by EMT's. So, as you can see I am dealing with severe depression from that and I am dealing with PTSD and my family added the extra twist in the back of my body. They told me 10 days after he passed that he was deceased. No one called me except my youngest brother. Does this give anyone a sense of how I feel now. Been to a hospital with no help. Taking anti depressants now and they don't work. No life lines. Can anyone talk with me on the phone?

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Aug 13, 2013
Death hurts
by: Kate

Death hurts so bad and only those who know can really understand. I was stunned when they said my son died.
His friends knew 3 hours before I did,Facebook knew too.
It is insane that parents are not notified right away. It is near 9 months for me now. All our stories on here are different yet all the same because we are dying inside over death. This site has helped so many be able to express. Keep trying,know that others are on this hard path and ask for divine help. What can we do on our own?! My heart feels your sorrow.
Understanding loss of a son....... :(

Aug 13, 2013
There is help...
by: SoSadDad

Dave, I am truly sorry for the loss of your son Josh. Under the best family situation, it is nearly unbearable to lose a child. But without family support, you absolutely feel alone. My wife and I have lost both of our children, our two adult daughters. We have each other, and that was our life saver. Dave, you need to contact this group:

The Compassionate Friends
Naples/Fort Myers
Southwest Florida Chapter

Chapter#: 1209
Chapter Phone Line (239) 465-6662
Meeting Info: 1st & 3rd Wednesday of each month 7:30 pm
Meeting Address: Greater Naples YMCA, 5450 Ymca Rd, Naples, FL 34109-5944

Notes: Chapter also offers a sibling support subgroup and Spanish speaking support

The Compassionate Friends is a group of parents who have lost children. They know how it hurts. They don't judge or blame. They just let you talk if you want, or sit and cry, or whatever you need. They have all been there. You should email and find out more about their chapter. They meet tonight, so don't wait. You can also go to for other resources that will help console you and let you know you are not alone. Please don't hesitate. Others might sympathize with you, but only another bereaved parent can really understand. God bless you!


Aug 13, 2013
Help is on the way!!
by: Michelle


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God bless and keep you!


Aug 13, 2013
by: Anonymous

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Aug 13, 2013 sick little boy...RIP 10/25/2009
by: Doreen U.K.

Dave I am sorry for your loss of Joshua and for your loss of family support.
Often when someone dies I hear the same story of how families become unsupportive and even downright disrespectful. But I guess you know your family and have an idea of what is going on for them to suddenly blank you out at a time you really need them.
Of course this behaviour will make you feel isolated and very alone with your grief. If you say anti-depressants are not working try and take yourself off and find a good counsellor who will give you the space and time to talk out your feelings. You will in time start to feel better. I did this counselling for myself in my 40's and this was the best thing I ever did. I got my life back and in a healthier place. You will build up your self esteem and also show your family a different and stronger YOU. You will then be stronger and better able to build up your own network of friends who will be there when you need someone. I know it hurts when you have family and they don't treat you right. But this is not unique. We all have families like this and we find ways of coping with this in time. Every person has their day and there will come a day when they will be calling out to you for support. You will eventually get your life back. It is a great sadness to lose Joshua and the pain of this loss will be felt for some time. But remember grief does not last forever. Joshua had so many health problems that would have given him a poor quality of life and made his life intolerable if he ever needed dialysis.

Aug 13, 2013
Walking in some shoes
by: Fabio

My friend i m sorry for your loss , me to just lost my only child to a motorbike accident that could have been avoided if the organizer new what they were doing my life is shattered and my wife wants kill her self we too are on the antidpress pills there s no medicine can cure our pain i v been now locked inside my house for 3 month almost just go to doctors so belive me the pain will be with us forever i m sorry that u found out 10day s later me too i found out after the afternoon new was on sad world hope this help you also read a book made by Alison dobouis great help and meditation for biginners on you tube feel your pain brother :(

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