I never knew this type of pain existed. From reading other posts on this site, I know no further explanation is necessary. My 24 year old son came home from work Friday afternoon, grabbed some clothes and rushed out the door saying he was going to visit a friend in a neighboring state and would be back early Sunday morning. About 4 hours later, three police officers were at my door informing my wife and me that my son had been in an auto accident and was killed on impact.
My wife and I are only about a week into the grieving process. I know that you can never recover from a catastrophic loss of this type – almost everything that means anything to you seems ruined. However, I also know you only have two choices: Let the grief destroy you, or find a way to rebuild by incorporating the grief into your everyday life.
Our situation is further complicated by the fact that our 26 year old son will be married in a few months, and my wife and I do not want our younger son’s death to diminish the happiness of our older son’s wedding – wishful thinking I guess.
I’m not one that usually reaches out, but I know most reading this have been in the exact same place my wife and I are now. I’m hoping that some of you who are farther down the road in dealing with this can share ways to cope.