by Julie

Lost my grandmother (nanny) 10 years ago and still struggle with the loss, I didn't visit her enough in hospital due to miscommunication with my dad and sub consciously not liking seeing her in a hospital bed. What's worse is she asked one of my siblings why I hadn't been back to see her. I loved her more than anything in the world, I really miss her. I hate to think that she wanted me there, and I never came. I honestly don't think I will ever get over that. I have 2 children now and am planning my wedding. I feel grief stricken knowing she won't be there.

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Aug 15, 2012
by: Doreen U.K.

Julie, Sorry for the loss of your grandmother. In time you will get over not going back to visit your grandmother. It is only you who know this. Your grandmother won't be aware of your suffering now. She would forgive you for whatever reason you didn't visit her again. At least you DID VISIT. You will in time FORGIVE yourself for not going to see her again. Your grandmother will be aware of your relationship with her which is why she asked for you. This is what she remembered. She can't be hurt by life anymore. It us left who will hurt over different things relating to the loss.
Go Ahead and have your wedding. Be Happy and drink a Toast at your wedding in honour of your grandmother. This will help you recover. It is Grief that is making you feel this way. It just takes time for grief to do its work of loss in our lives. If after 10 years this is still affecting you, it may be worth seeing a grief counsellor. It can't hurt. You need to FREE yourself of your guilt before the wedding as you will take this guilt into marriage and it will sour a new relationship.
Best wishes for your wedding and BE HAPPY !!

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