by Judi
(Biloxi, MS USA)

I was married to a man for 30 years ..I did not know at first that he was gay. I tried to do what I thought was best at the time, and stay married and cover it up for the sake of the children.

Once they were grown I filed for divorce. It took four long years for him to hide the money... finally it was over. But my family, mother, father, sisters, and brothers became his new family. I cried to them and begged for understanding, but they had him over for 4th of July, Thanksgiving and Christmas. My children and i were excluded, no explanations. I said I guessed they had lost a daughter and gained a son. No apologies. I have asked all friends etc., if i had done something wrong... they can not figure it out either. I have cried and cried over this for four years. I am sad to say for my own sanity I must x them from my life..how sad is that?

HE HAS REMARRIED AND THEY HAVE WELCOMED THEM INTO THEIR HOMES. I was always the good reliable sister that everyone turned to in time of need ...now I am nothing to them, my heart is broken, I am now an orphan.

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Mar 07, 2010
Family by Choice
by: Peg Fisher

I know it hurts when the family you are born to turns away. And yet we do not have to go through life alone. Families can be formed by choice, with like hearted friends.

Find a group that you share a common interest with. Mine are two science fiction clubs, but it could be any kind of social group. Begin attending group activities and helping out with projects. Talk to people. Chances are good you will find friends, as I did. I now have people in my life from these groups who are my family of choice, who help me in times of need, as I help them in return.

I hope that you will find friends like this too.

Bless you and your children very much, Peg

Jan 18, 2010
Keep Smiling
by: Down Under

Judi, I'm at a loss at what to say. Your family should have stuck by you and your children. Form a close bond with your children & show them all the love they deserve and grow within yourselves. Your family will one day see that what they have done was wrong and hopefully, that time will not be too late for you & your children.

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