Just feeling Lost

by Lisa

Never married Rocky relationship for 18 years. 3 kids. I have had a stable Job the whole time. Been with him 1/2 my life. Very Dysfunctional. Was what i thought at the time LOVE of my life, I was so in love with him. I wanted him to just love me, I was very naive. He had a drug/alcohol problem, still does.I really wanted it to work. A lot of broken promises. A lot of cheating on his part. Trying to be strong, move forward unsure of life & scared to move on. Feeling lonely. Wishing it was easy & wondering after so many hurtful things, why it isn't easy to shut the door on the past that brought me so much pain...The great thing is My kids are happier!, I have a lot to work on. I just keep pushing forward, pray everyday to keep going. Something good has to come out of all this. My kids are amazing,& yet I feel I have failed them.

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Aug 22, 2014
Just feeling lost
by: Doreen UK

Lisa life has let you down and you are hurt and confused. You went through some difficult periods in your life and come through them. You will come through this again. It is so easy to wonder where it all went wrong and look for reasons and causes to hold on to what you had even if it was all wrong. Your partner used drugs and alcohol, and not a good role model for 3 kids. You define your kids are being great all rounder and happy. So you must have done something right. When a relationship ends or a death. It is so easy to look inside for failings. You brought up 3 kids in difficult circumstances and you say they are happy. What is there to be guilty about?
Grief can assault us. Don't let it. Instead find this time building yourself up and nurturing yourself back into life. Take one day at a time and don't look too far ahead otherwise it can be a scary place to be. You have a lot going for you including 3 kids who will be a Blessing. FOCUS is the key. Focusing on your priorities first. Then prioritise your life to include what you want and then try your best to make it happen. Put life in your days and not guilt or misery. WE all feel LOST for a while when we lose someone whether to life or death. This is just an aspect of loss.

Aug 19, 2014
Feel Found
by: Judith in California

Lisa, you have made one very important telling point and that is your kids are happier. Please eep that in mind as you move forward. Sometimes we become addicted to the drama and have to relearn how to have peace in our lives. The quiet sounds are deafening because we aren't used to it. We have to learn to welcome it. Be happy with your kids because they are your main focus and should always be. Now you can begin to let them know that certain behavioir is not acceptable and thay should not mimic what they have seen in hte past. They need a stable life with a peaceful environment. They need to know their mom will not be emotionally abused as well as themselves.

I also want to stress that you deserve better for yourself than a man who cheats on you and abuses drugs and booze. Never allow yourself to let your high standrards go because of a man.

I pray for good things for you and your kids going forward.

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