Just lost my brother

My brother was 53 years old. He passed away December 29th shortly after midnight. He had a massive heart attack that was totally unexpected.

I am in a daze. I keep thinking this is a bad dream and it will end soon. I am 4 years older than him and always thought we would grow old and then I'd go first.

I just don't know how to handle this.

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Jan 07, 2011
hole in my heart
by: Anonymous

my brother Pete, 61 died very suddenly on June 11th. he had volunteered to build a pergola in his new community. the purpose of the pergola was so that folks that lost a loved one would have a special place to go and sit and reflect about their loss. he told the other men he was going to walk back to his house, he didn't feel well. 8 minutes later his spouse found him in his chair. he was dead. he was cremated the next day. we, his family from NY were not given the opportunity to see him or say goodbye. some ashes were left for us down south and through a triangle of hoops, we were able to get them and he is now buried in the Nat'l Cemetary. some families pull together in times like this, ours did not. so many unanswered questions, so many dysfunctional players.

Jan 05, 2011
my brother
by: Anonymous

Our family buried my brother last week. He was missing for three weeks and found dead. It looks as if he took his own life. I'm afraid his reasons for doing so died with him and we will never know why. I can't stop crying, it's hard to function and I can't remember anything. I feel heartbroken and devastated and I'm angry too.

Jan 05, 2011
Lost My Brother Too
by: Pat J

I lost my brother and absolute best friend, Tom, 20 years ago. He was only 33. I am still not over his death. It never goes away. Time does really help us to be able to remember to good times we had together.

I just lost my husband on December 3, 2010. The pain is still raw as yours is. I'm trying to just take one day at a time. That's all I can do. I can't tell you how many times I reached for the phone after my brother passed to call him. It took me two months before I could really wrap my mind around the fact that he was gone. That was the first death of someone close to me I ever experienced and it hit me hard.

My husband's death is far worse than my brother's for me. I know with Tom's death I eventually came to a place where I could be happy again but the pain never really leaves us. I'm hoping I can arrive at that happy place with my husband's death but so far I haven't made much progress. It's hard work but it can be done.

There is a lot of support on this web site and it really helps to write your thoughts and feelings. Nobody understands like another person who has experienced the same thing. Hoping for a little happiness in your day.

Jan 05, 2011
just lost my brother
by: Donna

Please put this site in your favorites, it is a lifesaver. You can come here anytime and express your true feelings. We all have been there and are going through the same rollercoaster ride called grief. I am sooo sorry for your loss. one step, one breath at a time is my motto at least for now.

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