Just Lost My Dad

I just can't accept the fact that my dad is now not with us anymore. Just a mere eight years ago he walked me down the aisle in my mom's wedding dress (oh, how proud was he!).

There are five children, we don't communicate, there is no support. I feel all alone. But dad was always so proud of each and every one of us.

To me, it feels like dad has just passed when it's already been a week, everything so fresh. I know in mind he's where he needs to be, but I miss him so...

And there is just nothing that can describe the hurt....

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Nov 15, 2014
My father died
by: Elham

Hè died.he was great, kind,lovely.can't sleep.can't heal. Hard.

Aug 01, 2014
Just lost my Dad this morning
by: Lisa

My Dad has been sick for awhile but I never thought I would have lost him this morning! I am heartbroken. I was with him every day and even called the nurses during the night to find out how he was. I am lost now. What do I do?

Jul 31, 2014
Me too.
by: Anonymous

I am thirteen. My dad died in February, after being diagnosed with some kind of disease a year or two ago. He was so strong... And I sat and watched as his muscles faded away. He needed help standing, and sitting, and eventually breathing. And there was nothing I could do. I feel like just yesterday my mom sat me down and told me he was dead. And it still doesn't feel real. Like I'll come home one day and he'll be swimming in the pool or putting on his surfing gear. I miss his toothy grin, and the silly way he looked at you when you did something weird. I miss all the sports, the skiing, surfing, frisbee golf, basketball, even the endless hours of attempting to hit a golf ball. Sometimes I will sit down and think, "All these people see me as a happy, optimistic, fun-loving kid, with a smile on her face." when every moment, my heart is being ripped to shreds and thrown into the blender. Every now and then I just want to shout at anyone who mistreats their dad. I want to say, "Stop it! Treasure that man in front of you because you only have one father, and eventually he'll just go away! My advice to you is that you love him while you have him because I DIDN'T GET THAT CHANCE!" God, I miss him so much. And I'll never see him again. He won't even be able to walk me down the aisle. We are in the same boat, my friend. I will tell you now, I feel for you. My heart aches for anyone in this situation. I've found that writing helps. I'm in the middle of three or four different books and several more short stories. They may not ever be finished, or published, or shown to the light of day, but it feels like I'm honoring Dad in some way. Like I'm saying, "Alright, Dad, this one's for you!" Good luck in your struggles. Write him a letter. Find an object- I wear a ring- that will let him know, wherever he is, that you still remember and love him. Because you do. And so do I. All that is left to say is "Love you, Dad."

Jul 15, 2014
I Lost My Dad
by: Anonymous

Yesterday made it (2) weeks since my Dad passed and the pain and sadness has not eased. He was an important of my every day life, as I spent a lot of time with him and my Mom. My Dad was sick, he had heart surgery two years ago, then his kidneys failed last year and he was on a dialysis. He was also diabetic. I was mainly the one taking him to his doctors, picking/dropping him off to dialysis, taking them to do their errands..it was hard on me but I did it even when I complained. Now my life seems so empty, all this time and not much to do. I was very close to my Dad, we would sit and talk, poke fun at people, at life,gossip and sometimes argue...oh how I miss these conversations, his smile, his smart remarks, his sarcastic looks...what I wouldn't do to have those moments back. My Dad meant the world to me and I am not sure if people in my life comprehend that. My heart is heavy, it is crying for my Daddy...I miss you so much Dad! I am sorry for the pain, the sadness that he had, I am sorry that I could not do more for him....I am sorry that I did not get a chance to tell him how much I loved him and how much he meant to me!!!

Jun 10, 2014
Reply to It's not fair! Posted 18 May 2014
by: Anonymous

Hi April

First and foremost, my sincerest condolences for your loss. By all means, what you are going through is a horrifying tragedy.

I have bared loss of close ones since I was young and it made my childhood very difficult growing up. It however also made me stronger over time. Let the police do their job to sort out this crime and stay with your mother for the endless support you both need. (Your mother may have disliked your father for whatever personal reasons but no one ever wishes another dead). Despite your mothers opinions, she obviously cared for him enough to have you.

Talk to friends, speak to family, take a vacation to find yourself. Read a book. Start a new hobby. This all helps and please let us know how you are doing.

My best to you & your mom.

Jun 10, 2014
Just Lost My Dad
by: Anonymous

I lost my father on May 28th 2014. I still think he is at home. Never in my life have I encountered a situation whereby my brain refuses to accept it. Even after his funeral last Friday.

My father was my best friend. Over time, like you, our family drifted apart and never spoke to my siblings. I have a sister & brother. I had a sister I lost back in 92 due to a car accident. She was my equal and losing her made me lose sight in communicating with my living siblings. It wasn't just till recently. It was always like that.

My father was a wonderful man and a great father. I am so proud to call him that because his whole life was spent caring for his family.

Our weekly visits consisted chatting, moaning (About the usual good things) & playing Backgammon.

Although I am grateful for having this amazing person in my life, I just do not understand how to proceed without him. So much that my mind cannot process his absence.

Jun 10, 2014
Can't believe...
by: Ogi

I lost my dad.
Can't believe...
He was my hero...

Jun 09, 2014
Just lost my dad
by: Maria

My dad passed away two weeks ago he was 72 I never expected it and his funeral was just the other day,yet I havnt slept since the day he passed away or when I do grab a quick nap I always wake up with dreams waking me ,I feel so numb and I don't know why I'm not crying ,I cried on his funeral but that was all ,when I wake every night through dreams I come downstairs to make a drink and I always feel scared as if someone is there ,none if it feels real to me ,I feel so lost without my dad I loved him so much .

Jun 07, 2014
loss of my father
by: Ronda

I lost my father May 18,2014. He had suffered a Massive Heart Attack Jan 10,2014 that they diagnosed as a widow maker. He had heart block for 4 days. Almost lost him. All his organs were failing. He spent a month in hospital and 20 days after in a nursing rehab home.. After he spent the 20 days he was able to go home. With home health care.. not even home for 3 days and his kidneys started failing again.. so back to hospital.. back and forth over past 5 months. We spoke frequently every single day and I spent alot of quality time with him . He was my best friend, my daddy, and most important person my whole life! When I couldn't get a hold of him before work that day I called 911...I waited for an hr until a cop showed up at my work to tell me my father had passed away! I screamed, I fell to the ground crying! He had been gone for hrs and they felt he didn't suffer long and it was quick! I'm not getting thru this at all.. I'm angry!

May 26, 2014
I too lost my dad
by: Anonymous

I lost my dad on 23 may 2014, he was my best friend. He got septic in the urine and infection was spread so speedily that he was on wantilater for two days and suddenly his both the kidneys got failure and BLood pressure became to low. I miss them so much. Love u dad.

May 18, 2014
It's not fair!
by: April

I'm crying wile I type this. Today was....horrible. I lost my dad. I was at a friends house and suddenly, the police came out side. I opened the front door and ran to see (because I'm a curios person). My mum rushed out of the car and hugged me (even tho she hated my dad). Then she said "your father was murdered by someone."

What am I going to do! Someone pleas help me. We're I am it's 12:37pm. I'm 12 and this unfairness. Some one help me!!!!

Feb 16, 2014
Dad
by: Anonymous

It's nearly a year since I lost my dad, and I have been really strong in coping with it, but recently I 've started to feel really down, burst into tears if anyone talks to me. Everytime I close my eyes I see him on the nite he died, I have actually been feeling physically sick and the anxiety I have is only adding to it, is this normal after a year, could I be just starting to properly grieve now . X

Jan 23, 2014
losing my dad
by: sally-ann

My dad died on the 27/9/13.it is the hardest thing i have ever had to deal with.
i just never see my parents getting older. I have such a fear of death.
dad had prostate cancer.unfortunately it wasn't spoke about. I just can't seem to get over the grief.i went to see dad with my daughter.in the chapel of rest.he looked so peaceful.all i wanted to do was to get a pillow for his head.
i feel very selfish as i want my dad back.but he was in so much pain.

Oct 01, 2013
Just numb and in pain at the same time
by: Andy

It was my Dads funeral yesterday, and tomorrow he will have been gone two weeks. I and my Mum, brother and sister were with Dad when he passed but still it doesn't seem real. I've just now been looking at some pictures of him, and he is still so very much alive. He was such a deeply loved and respected man by me and so many people, and it kills me that I'll never see him again. I'm 48 so not a young man any more, and I've felt grief in my life, but never anything like this. We knew it was coming, he was given only 3 months ofter a cancer diagnosis. I had never hugged him and kissed him and told him I loved him ever before the cancer, we were never that kind of family, but I tried to make up for it in the last 3 months. He was my Dad my friend and my mentor. and it hurts so so much. The last 2 weeks have just been a blur, and although I've cryed a few tears, for some reason tonight it's just hit me big time and I can't stop sobbing. He was just such a good bloke.

Aug 27, 2013
Can time help?
by: Anonymous

I lost my dad on may 1st suddenly after a heart attack. The phone call in the middle of the night didn't seem real at all. I don't even remember crying. I called my sister and told her, I spoke at his funeral, i picked songs and organised things and somehow found myself being the strong one even though I'm the youngest of three. I struggled in the following months and now can hardly talk about it. It seems everyone else is moving on fine and i just can't deal with it. I loved my dad more than anything and I am so much like him. I just want to know if after time it will be easier? Because it just gets harder for me.

May 21, 2013
Me too
by: Anonymous

To who posted "lost my dad in an accident," my dad dies=d in just the same way in an accident my mom and I were also in. I don't know what to do without him. My mom is totally lost.

Apr 28, 2013
I can relate...
by: Anonymous

I lost my dad two years ago from cancer, one week before I turned eleven, I'm 13 now. I can remember the day as if it was yesterday. My mum was sleeping at the hospital with him and my auntie came to sleep over at my house to take care of us, that morning before we went to see him, my auntie said to me 'do you think dad will be there for your birthday?' And I replied 'I hope so'. When we got to the hospital my uncle said that he's breathing patterns had changed, then a few hours later I watched him die. I was devastated as I was 'daddy's little girl' I miss him so much and it still hurts!
Any advise to how to get through it? The only thing that I have done for the past two years is cry myself to sleep :(
I understand your pain guys, I'm going through it as well.

Apr 11, 2013
lost my dad in an accident
by: Anonymous

I lost my papa on 24th march 2013 in a brutal accident. I am so angry at God, my papa was crushed to death. Putting up a brave face for my mummy is so painful. It's like I am gonna collapse, drown.. that sinking feeling is not going. I just want him back. I can't deal with this. I can't. Papa come back please.. Your fragrance from your clothes is fading away. Where should I look for you. You fixed my wedding, how on earth can I start a new life without you. Your death is a mistake. All this is a mistake. come back papayi, come home.

Apr 11, 2013
I just lost my Dad too !
by: Anonymous

And it hurts sooo much, He was so loving and caring, The wife left for 5 days to go see her mother and my 18 year old daughter is at school, So its grieving time. It's been 3 weeks now, wow how time flies anymore. See, I live in Japan now, Married to a Japanese alcoholic wife, Dad always hated drinkers. I want to leave now, I am soo sad right now. Soon there is going to be a big change around here, Dad's going to Hawaii to cook on the tug boats. Aloha to my daughter, I did my best at raising her. Drinking is more important to my wife than me. I have to go soon. Sayonara. Please come and visit me anytime my beautiful little girl.

Apr 05, 2013
i lost my dad
by: Anonymous

i lost my dad when was 2 but its been 12 years and i cant get over his death i cant cope i need some advice plz if any one could give me some advice i would help alot thanks

Mar 28, 2013
my heart is breaking
by: Anonymous

My dad died 2 weeks and 2 days ago. He had some health problems but it was sudden and unexpected. He was only 62. I can't believe he's gone, he was such a good kind man. I love you dad.

Dec 26, 2012
Losing great dad
by: Anonymous

I just lost my dad on dec 13 2012. He was just recently diagnosed with cancer on dec 4th. I spent almost everyday with him. Telling him how much I love him. Thanking him for being a great dad. It has been hard for me accept that he is not with us anymore. I miss him dearly. I cry everyday. Think about him all the time. I feel empty. I know I will see him again. I still feel sad. Our first Christmas without him was hard. I wish this pain will go away soon.

Dec 11, 2012
figuring it out daily
by: Anonymous

I lost my dad on 6-12-12....I lost my pastor and best friend when my dad passed. I have never had to deal with anything like this in my life. I knew I would have to one day, but did not expect it so soon. It is hardest when everyone goes back to their normal life and they think it has got easier on you when in reality it has not. Only those friends that have lost their parent will keep calling and checking in. Sometimes they do not. I just wish that my friends would talk to me about my dad. Everyone loved him so much and now its like they do not want to bring him up thinking it will bother me. I love talking about him and remembering all the great times. It is hardest when I slow down after work or before bed and I just imagine all the different things he would say or do. Even how he would sit or stand or laugh or hug me. My dad told me the night he died he was proud of me like he knew something was going to happen. I want to help other people that are going through this one day, but I have to figure out for myself first how to cope with it.

Nov 24, 2012
He meant everything to us....
by: Jim

What can a person, a parent mean in your life? My Dad meant everything. He was the wisest, kindest, most hardworking man I ever knew. He'd give you the shirt off his back to warm you, to give you comfort because he believed in sacrifice for those he loved. But not only that, for anyone he met that needed help. They just don't make them like my Dad now. My Dad's grasp of the human spirit was a beloved thing. He did what he did because he loved people and he loved helping people. He gave more than he ever took. Respect? I had more respect for him than anyone I've ever met. I loved him with all my heart and I still do, till I die. He's just not with me anymore, nor ever will be. I'm having a hard time dealing with that. He passed away only last night. I can't help but believe that his reward is paradise. If anyone deserved it, he did. If ever someone deserved it, my Dad did. He's there...

Sep 11, 2012
i know the hurt
by: julie t

Dont cry and do not punish yourself, in the whole of my life on this earth I didn't think anything could hurt more than loosing a parent, you kind of think when you were a child that they would be there forever, then when you grow up things start to happen, they grow older they get ill or or poorly, you put it down to "life" to "age" and then you have to accept they will some day go, but it is heartbreaking and as much as we want them here with us there comes that time when they do in fact "go", it is horrendous it is the without doubt the worst time in my whole life, when my dad died I felt the most awful i have ever felt in my entire life i had never felt so sad, so depressed, so tearful so sad so grief stricken, at one point i thought i was going mad but I have got through it,.. it is pure grief, it is the grief and that is what we do to heal the missing, the memories and the road to carry on, we never forget, we dream of that person and in my belief if they are in our dreams then they are never gone x

Mar 31, 2012
im 13
by: Anonymous

my dad died 12/23/11 i miss him he wasnt even 36. i just wonder why it happend but i know that hes in a better place and that he doesnt have to suffer. my mom said that right now the nombness of the loss is whering off and its becominng harder.i just think writing will help and i can relate.

Jan 03, 2012
loss of a dad
by: Anonymous

I just lost my dad suddenly two weeks ago at his h(12/16/11) and can't understand it all. My dad was 84 yrs old. I talked to him at 9:00 the evening prior and at 2:00 the next day I was picking out his casket. I have so much guilt and am so angry because I didn't have one more minute with him.
I am at such a loss that no one understands what I am going through...I am an only child and even though my mom (who is 88) still alive, I miss my dad so much.
I can't get past the image I have of seeing him lying in bed

Apr 27, 2011
I so understand
by: Anonymous

So sorry for the loss of your Dad. Though I feel
there is probably a difference in losing a Mom
and a Dad the grief is the same. I lost my
Mom in January, 2010 and it devastated me.
I am doing some better but still feel alot
of the time like I'm in another world. Sometimes
its still hard to believe. Nothing is the same
and I don't expect it ever will be. I do still
have Dad for now and I am so thankful. The
thoughts of losing him too scares me to death.
He's been such a wonderful Dad and I know just
like with Mom I would be lost without him.
Some advice which no doubt you have already been
told: don't fight or shut off the grief. Let
yourself go through the stages of it. It is
really hard but you will be better for it down
the road. You are in my prayers.

Apr 27, 2011
not sure how to grieve
by: Anonymous

My mother passed away on April 15, 2011 from lung cancer. I am set to wed on June 10, 2011. She was diagnosed on January 31st of this year. Everything happened so fast and now with the wedding less than two months away I find myself having a hard time "finding time" to grieve. It is comforting to know that I am not the only one to have gone through this, but it doesn't make it any easier. I have an amazing fiance who has been there for me every step of the way, and an incredible support system of friends and family-but I still feel so terribly alone. I don't always wear my heart on my sleeve like most of my family. I am the supportive one who always has a smile on her face. I know that at this time it is okay to get emotional, but I feel like a robot.

Feb 03, 2010
Lost Father
by: Anonymous

My condolences on the loss of your father. I too lost my father in Aug 09, 2 months before my wedding; I had my sister walk me down the aisle. 6 months on and the emptiness is still there, the crazy mixed emotions are still there, and I honestly don't know if it ever gets any better. It is such a strange feeling losing a parent, I think we just assume they will always be there.

My advice is cry, scream, laugh, do whatever you are feeling at that moment, don't try and be strong for everyone else, you need to grieve and that is natural. if you feel you just can't do it alone, seek help and talk to an external party, someone who has no connection. I wish you all the very best.

Feb 02, 2010
I totally understand
by: Anonymous

Yes, I totally understand how you are feeling
about losing your Dad, though it was my Mom I lost
three weeks ago today. And yes, it's just like
yesterday. I cannot believe what a hole I have
inside me now and I am sure you do too. Like you,
I know she is with the Lord, and I am so glad
for that, but I miss her terribly and that doesn't
make the pain go away. Just know there is someone
else out there that is going through it too and
totally understands.

Feb 01, 2010
JUST LOST MY DAD
by: Anonymous

DEAR FRIEND,
PLEASE ACCEPT MY DEEPEST SYMPATHY IN THE LOSS OF YOUR FATHER. I, TOO, LOST MY DAD SEVERAL YEARS BACK AND I STILL MISS HIM AND ALWAYS WILL. HE LIVED IN ANOTHER STATE AND IT'S TOO FAR AWAY FOR ME TO VISIT HIS RESTING PLACE.

IT'S ONLY BEEN A WEEK SINCE YOU LOST YOUR DAD, AND YOU WILL GO THROUGH MANY DIFFERENT STAGES OF GRIEF. I KNOW RIGHT NOW YOU STILL FEEL NUMB AND
MAYBE DISBELIEF. YOU'LL ALWAYS HAVE HIM IN YOUR HEART FOREVER. GOD BLESS YOU. MAY GOD GIVE YOU THE PEACE AND STRENGTH YOU NEED NOW.

Jan 30, 2010
I know exactly what you mean
by: Anonymous

My father died on 4th December and I know exactly what you mean about feeling that it has only just happened. I had that feeling up until recently. Thank you for sharing that.

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