Just starting the process

by Cheri Murphy
(Prescott, az)

My father just passed away on May 5th 2012 after being in CCU for 4 weeks. The surgeons made a mistake 1 year prior and they went back to reverse what they did wrong and he ended up going through so much and than passing.
My father in law passed away on Nov. 1 2011 and my brother of 53 years died on Dec. 21 2011.
My life has been so crazy, as I sold my business and my daughter was in a 28 day rehab, (thank the lord she is doing great)I have not had time to grief until now and I really feel that I can't stop crying. One small thing someone will say and I start to cry.
My step dad has just been diagnosed with cancer and we should have the results this week on where the cancer is. I don't know what or how I would handle it if something happened to my step dad.... He is such an amazing man!
I have also just moved back to Az from northern Idaho to be support for my mom and dad.
I don't even know where to start?


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Jun 05, 2012
just starting the process
by: by Doreen England U.K.

Cheri Your father passed away the same day as my husband on 5th May 2012.
You have also faced 3 deaths prior to this and now your beloved step father facing cancer and you don't know as yet how serious this is.
It is no wonder you are crying. You have grief piled on top of grief and you have not had time to grieve each loss well enough before another one hits you. You also have to take into consideration all the other things life throws at you in between and you can't catch your breath. You must process each loss differently and give yourself some time to do this otherwise you will crumble. I hope you have supportive people around you to help carry the load and you are not doing this all by yourself.
Keep a journal and write down your feelings and how each loss has affected you and work through each loss till you are able to move forward. You will find the crying is only a release for what you feel inside and you need to get this out of your system and on paper in your private journal.
I hope this helps you move forward and feel in a happier place

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