by Kathy

My son who is 35 years old is going to prison next week for a drug charge. He will have to serve 19 months before he can possibly be paroled. He has joint custody of a 3 1/2 year old son. His son stays with me and my husband half of the time (which is next door to his daddy) and he stays in another state with his mother half of the time. His daddy actually is a very good and very loving daddy to him in spite of his personal addiction. I don't know how to tell this wonderful little boy what his daddy is going to jail for and help him understand everything in a way a 3 year old can grasp it all. He adores his daddy. I am grieving so badly that he is going to lose some of his innocence this week. I also worry about what his mother is going to be telling him about his daddy when he is with her.

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Jul 02, 2012
I Am Sorry Kathy
by: Michigan Sister

I am sorry for your loss. I too have dealt with a similar situation. My sister was sent to prison for 20 months back in 2009. She lost her children and everything else. I adopted her oldest son because his father has never wanted a relationship with him and did not want him as sad as that is to say. All I can tell you is that what you are feeling is completely normal. When the judge sentenced my sister I went home and curled up into a ball and cried for hours. During this time try to visit him and send him letters as they will help both of you get through it much easier. Make sure he has money in his account to purchase things he may need and so that he can call home. Many prayers for you and your family.

Feb 19, 2012
Too Delicate
by: Judith

Kathy, Ask his mother what she is going to tell him. That way you will be both on the same page and he won't be confused in his delicate little mind. Maybe you can tell him that his Daddy has a problem and he's just going away for a while and will be back and help him count the days. He just won't undersand all the drug stuff. Nor should he hear about it in my opinion.

Feb 19, 2012
My heart to you
by: Anonymous

Hi Kathy,

Just tell him the truth like you would about any question he asks but just make it simple. Don't add anything more,just answer the direct questions.

Love from Nanny Char
Brisbane Australia xxx

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