Kim Paull Guryn
8 months ago my sister died, 3 weeks before that my dad died and my mom was diagnosed with breast cancer plus she has dementia . Needless to say this was the worst year of my family's life. We are a super close family . My sister had 3 son's who were her world , 4 grand-daughters and her amazing boyfriend Tim who was with her for her entire sickness . Some people think it's creepy that I wear her clothes, some people think it's weird that we made a pillow out of one of her shirts and that we still cry over certain songs and I am starting to feel crazy because losing my dad and sister 3 weeks apart 8 months ago , I am not ready to give their belongings . I wear her clothes because it makes me feel better , is that nuts ? What is this time frame of grief ? According to certain people because I am 47 yrs old I am suppose to grow-up move on , get rid of their stuff , get over the crying , what are these rules for grief, my daughter made me a pillow from my sister shirt, I got a remark from a certain person that "This needs to stop , it's weird" , yesterday was our 1st Christmas without them , today was harder for me more then yesterday but again I am being told I am acting crazy I need professional help , I am not depressed , However , I am very sad that my dad & sister are gone . I go to work , I eat , I function , but I cry sometimes so I am wondering if I really am crazy ? I just want my dad & sister to know that I live them both sooo much & miss them to pieces .
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