by Lawrence

Thank you for your sympathetic and helpful letters,they were a great comfort to me.
The only good thing to come out of this nightmare was that my wife died in our bed in an instant,one minute she was talking and the next her heart gave up.
I called an ambulance and they were here in minutes and tried so hard to get her heart beating again,we rushed to the hospital at frightening speed as the medic in the back tried CPR on her but without success.
The Specialist told me if he gets her heart beating again she will be brain dead so I told him to let her die which she did in minutes.I saw her take her last breath,I kissed her and closed her eyes said "Goodbye Sweetheart" and that's what we were sweethearts from the day we met until she passed away. I never saw her again.
She was surrounded by her family who all kissed her goodbye.Mothers day this coming Sunday will be a hurdle to cross for my lovely daughters.
At the funeral I wanted to lie down beside her because we had done everything together,however I had to make do with reserving the next plot to hers so at least we will be together in death and for eternity.
With no hand to hold and no lips to kiss I ask myself is it worth going on but I know I must for my children and grandchildrens sake.

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Mar 05, 2013
by: Doreen U.K.

Lawrence Thank You for writing back. Good to hear from you. Sorry for your loss and the difficulties of Mother's Day next Sunday.
YES!! It is imperitive that you LIVE and your focus is on your daughter's and any grandchildren you may have. I am in the same place as you. Lost my beloved husband 10 months ago to cancer. We were married 44yrs. Would have been 45yrs. this months 24th March will be a painful day remembering our anniversary. I live in the U.K. also and where I am the grave plots are running out. Plus they want to pull down the graveyard where my husband's parents are buried so they can extend the airport. I then was able to find a graveyard close by in the same area my husband worked and in an area dear to our hearts. Only problem is there were no more grave plots so I had to purchase a burial chamber made of concrete and finished off with the usual Concrete Headstone with a black granite inset for the script and also the cover is of black granite. It is very attractive. I got a double plot so I will be buried on top of my husband's coffin. It worked out well for us. My husband's Script for the gravestone was installed last week and so I will get to see it on Sunday. Still black granite with 8 lines of verse. His photo and a guitar he loved. No room for the cowboy boots.

God saw you getting tired when a cure was not to be
He closed his arms around you and whispered "Come to Me."
So keep your arms around him Lord and give him all your care.
Make up for all he suffered and all that seemed unfair.
He suffered much in silence, his spirit did not bend.
He faced his pain with courage until the very end.
He tried so hard to stay with us, but his fight was not in vain.
God took him to his loving Home and freed him from his pain.

This verse was edited a little and added with another verse from the website but appropriate. It will take us a long time to come to terms with our loss of our beloved. Life will never be the same. But we have to go on each day for the ones we have left. Again I wish you better less pain filled grief days ahead and the Comfort of God be with you always.

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