Letter for first mother's day without you

by Jilly

Dear Mum, I try to keep going without you.

All I can remember is you constantly vomiting and being in pain. Your beautiful face and large brown eyes were still there even when your body became too frail to move.

When I had my operations you prayed for me - little did I realise that weeks later you would be fighting for your own life.

Months before you died you held me and asked me not `to spoil things'. I now realise I am doing that by allowing the last weeks of your pain and suffering overshadow our beautiful bond.

For many my pain is yesterdays' news. You always wished I had a sister to be there apart from you. Maybe you knew how awful my loneliness would be.

Your only daughter and best friend
Thank you to all who read my letter and respond with their kind thoughts and guidance.

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Mar 03, 2013
I know your pain
by: Anonymous

I to lost my mom she went to be with The Lord last may not a day go's by that I don't think of her I miss her so much I know she is at peace now know more pain from bone cancer and later lung . She is breathing ok now walking up right singing dance with joy. I must learn to live without my best friend now and it will one day get better for us both

Mar 03, 2013
So sorry
by: Anonymous

So sorry that you have no one to share your grief with. Thank goodness for places like these. I lost my Dad and Mom in the last few years also my sister and my beloved dog. I lost my house and my job. All you can do is keep putting one foot in front of the other. Eventually your outlook will rise like the sun and you can hold your head high and be happy with your memories.

Mar 03, 2013
Letter for first mother's day without you
by: Doreen U.K.

Jilly I am sorry for your loss of your Mum. We are never going to get over our loss of our Mum who gave us life and brought us up. You had a strong bond with your mother which makes your grief all that more difficult and painful. Because you are an only child you will feel very lonely and lost just now. Just don't suffer in isolation as this makes our grief more intense and unbearable. In time reach out to other's either in a group, church, or friends and other relatives. But it is after the funeral that most of us who do have family left seem to feel they isolate themselves from us. So we have to build up our own new network of friends. Even phone calls get less. Perhaps now the Spring and Summer is coming you may be able to get out more and find yourself in a place of comfort and strength to face the future. None of us like where we are. But we can only encourage and give hope so you will feel less alone with your grief and pain. Mother's Day will be here next Sunday and I am hoping that this day won't leave you feeling depressed. Do something special just for yourself and build on this each day till you are able to feel happy again in time. Best wishes.

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