Life as I have it today!

by Altheia B. DeAraujo
(New Bedford, MA)

Hello all!
My name is Altheia, in the last 7 months I have lost 7 significant lives. My mom passed away on my Birthday in November. My best friend of 37 years, my brother, who I have good and bad feelings for ( he was my abuser for many ears) he put me through hell, 2 cousins, my other best friend for over 30 years, my beloved Chow of 10 years the best dog ever, last week my baby sister died of a heart attack. I have felt lost since November but, right at this moment I don’ t think I have the strength to go on. My faith has been shattered my will to live is slipping away daily. Some days I live minute by minute some hour by hour. I have no idea what to do or how to manage. My spouse is very ill, she has MS, Lyme disease of the brain, dementia and Kidney Disease. The old saying waiting for the other shoe to drop drops.

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Jul 07, 2012
Keep your say you have not lost it yet
by: Nancy

The bible says we only need the faith the size of a mustard seed. ...It sounds that there may be a lot of grief in your life right now. For you this may be a time of grieving but your time will change and your grieve my become joy. You have a song that we sing of joy to a way that only you can because of the journey you are now walking. I can not imagine for even one moment that it is easy. but in my life and I hope in yours too you can honestly say...that in every mess you find yourself in there is a viable message...something that you can share with others...While I am sorry for your many losses I am excited for the loves prints that you can plaster across this great wonderful world because you of the many memories of those who have moved on and how have loved you...Nancy

Jul 07, 2012
Life as I have it today!!
by: Doreen England

Altheia, I am sorry for the 7 losses in your family. It is no wonder you are feeling so desperate. You have had a lot to cope with for some time. Also because of all the abuse you have suffered and what you are going through with your spouse suffering MS amongst other medical issues. There is no other way for you to cope. You must urgently see a counsellor. If you don't find the right one. Find another so you get the right one. It will be a very painfull experience. but worth it in the end. You will come through this. You will be given your life back. You will feel in a more solid and calming place. It is very important you do this for yourself otherwise there is disaster on the horizon. You are not coping. You are in deep distress. You are crying out for help but sadly you have to put this in place for yourself. Don't suffer alone. If you need more support you can email me at
I am sorry for what you are going through. It has just all piled up. You have not had time to deal with each grief when it has happened. You have it all at once. No one can function like this. Please do this for yourself. I want you to be supported. I want you to be able to cope with the pain you are in. life isn't fair. Some people have too much to cope with and it makes you feel you are sinking. You have to swim now and you will recover. it will take support. hard work in counselling. You need to make the first step to do this. Best wishes email me if you need to.

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