Life where does it start again

by Cindy

My husband passed away 09/19/12. I am told by many time to let go. Phone calls for Terry and then I expline. So many dark nights filled with tears. Days are dark and void of life. My mask is on tight so no one sees. I am trapped in this life and how I long for my life to end tell I can join him.

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Dec 18, 2012
Take Your Time to Grieve
by: Elle

Cindy, I am so very sorry for the intense pain you are feeling. Nobody can tell you when it's time to get over the loss of a loved one, and for someone to do so is inappropriate. Your beloved husband and life as you knew it have been gone for such a short time.

I lost my husband in January 2012, and I am still struggling with a lack of identify, motivation, and energy, as well as feelings of hopelessness and despair.

Doreen's comment is so good. In our own time and way as we walk this path of grief together, we will somehow gradually find our way.

You are in my thoughts and prayers. You are not alone.

Wishing you peace and comfort,


Dec 08, 2012
Life where does it start again?
by: Doreen U.K.

Cindy I am sorry for your loss of your husband on 19th September 2012. I know how you feel! I lost my husband of 44yrs. 7 months ago and I am feeling so lost and lonely without him. The winter days are cold and lonely as are the nights longer. We just carry on each new day where nothing changes. We find ourselves in the same place. ALONE, SAD, LONELY, with our GRIEF.
What we need to do is to do whatever we want when we are able to do it. If we can't do anything then we just sit where we are until we can get our motivation back. When the winter is over and Spring arrives is the time all us widows can go out and find something we can do to occupy our time and give meaning and value again to our days. Don't think too far ahead. The time will swallow you up and you won't be able to cope. Just take one day at a time. Or one Season. Winter over. Spring Comes.
I say this with Pain in my heart because I know only too well how difficult this is for all of us widows who have lost a life partner. My arthritis in my knee prevents me from going out and I feel housebound now and today I feel like getting out of the house but walking is hard. Being housebound makes me feel as if I can't breathe. Our loss and Pain, and Grief is something that will take time to get over. Even though I have much to be thankful for I still feel my Sorrow and Pain. it is just there like yours is. None of us wants to start life over again. We were content with the life we had. This is where our difficulty starts. Take small steps in doing one thing for yourself that you enjoy and build on this. Before you know it you will have like us all CREATED a Life that will bring meaning to you and that you can change and enjoy parts of it and change others when you want.
Write again if you are still hurt by your loss and we all can encourage you in your grief. We are all in this together, but still apart by distance only. May God comfort you in your loss and lonliness and bring you peace.

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