life will never b the same

by kara waite
(Moncton NB Canada)

my Mom passed away Tuesday the 26th of June 2012. she fought cancer since the first surgery in 2009. she had a second one in March 2012 and never got out of the hospital. it is terrible seeing your Mom suffer more everyday for months and i am an only child so it was just my father and i to support her. we shared the same birthday which is July 4th, i will be 40 this year and she would have been 76. we always celebrated our birthday together so this year is going to be sooo hard to get through. i cry all the time and am so depressed. i dont know what to do anymore, we were very close. love u Mom xos

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Jul 26, 2012
Im sorry
by: Lourdes

Kara, I lost my mom on June 26th as well. Unlike your mom, her death was sudden and unexpected. She was 79. Nothing is the same, and though I tell myself she would want us to be happy, it's so hard to find real joy in anything. BUT I do feel that we have "survived" this first month without her. Every night is a small, and exhausting, victory that we've made it through another day. All I hope for is that each day that passes is one step closer to finding peace with our loss.

Jul 02, 2012
life will never be the same
by: Doreen U.K.

Dear Kara
I am sorry for the loss of your mother. My mother died at 77years 9 years ago and we never get used to the loss no matter the age.
It will be especially difficult for you this birthday without your mother. There will be a lot more crying. But it will get easier. One just doesn't know when the crying will start, where will they be when they have an attack of grief. and how will they cope with it. The death of a loved one is so very painfull. It is like nothing we will every go through in life that is so painfull. It is very crushing. We don't know how to go on in life without our loved one. WE can only do it one day at a time. The emptiness and lonliness is like being in a bottomless pit all by ourselves and we can't get out.
I hope you will have a lovely 40th Birthday. Still celebrate it with your mother in mind even though she isn't there. She will be honoured by you. My husband Steve died 7 weeks ago from cancer and it was his 66th birthday 16 days after he died and we took balloons down to the grave and tied them up and we put new flowers down and it was our best way of honouring him. But it hurt that he couldn't be alive for this. We can't change anything. We have to live with this the best way we know how. HAPPY 40TH BIRTHDAY FOR 4TH JULY 2012.

Jul 02, 2012
Thinking of you
by: Tutti

Hi Kara, Just wanted to let you know I'm thinking of you as July 4th nears - it's my birthday too on that day and I keep wondering if that is the day my mom will leave us. Somehow we will get through this. But just wanted to let you know I'm sending up prayers for both you and your dad at this very sad and difficult time.

Jul 02, 2012
So very sorry
by: Tutti

Hi Kara, I'm so very sorry that you have lost your mom. She sounds like she meant the world to you and can only imagine how you must feel. I'm in the process of losing my mom too - she's 96 and has just started to not eat well at all. I dread that day coming and wonder how I will be able to deal with it because I love her so much. I'll keep you and your dad in my prayers Kara and I'll be especially thinking of you on the 4th of July because that's my birthday too. God bless you with His peace and comfort. I care.

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