I just lost my mother-in-law 2 weeks ago. Now just this past Tuesday I lost my own mother. She went back very quickly. I was her caregiver since last October. She passed away in a hospice unit. I am dealing with overwhelming grief. I loved my mother dearly. She was a very good Christian, and was ready to go, so I don't have to worry about her ever suffering again. She has a brand new body now!

My husband has not yet gotten over the grief of losing his mother. He has taken the death of my mother harder than his own mother. He just got out of the hospital 4 hours before mom's viewing.

Please pray for our whole family, that we might somehow get through this lonely valley.

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May 13, 2014
Sorry for your double losses
by: Pat J.Green Bay,WI

Dear Lisa,
I am so very sorry for the loss of your mom and mother-in-law. You and your husband will be there for each other, totally understanding each others loss. It is a difficult time. I feel moms are the heart of a family. I know from my personal experience, our holidays changed. Being the only daughter with an ummarried brother, I felt it was my obligation to carry on in my moms place. My brother often commented that I reminded him often of our mom. It will be 38 years on June 25th that my mom is gone. She died the day before my 11th wedding anniverary. I still miss her. I was 29 with 5 small children; the youngest 3 months old .My husband was there for me as were my friends. I felt I needed to be strong for my dad or so I thought. Eight years ago my dad died and I grieved more for his death than I did my moms; yet now I look back and feel I was grieving for the loss of both of them.
On June 27,2011, after our 46th wedding anniversary, which was June 26th, I lost my huband to a massive heart attack. I too called 911 and performed CPR, but now realize he was already gone. It will soon be three years and I remember it like it was yesterday. A part of me died the day my husband died. My faith and a good grief support has gotten me this far. You and your husband will make it through this nighmare. Cry as you need; tears are healing and talk about your moms; their bodies died, but their spirits live on forever. I still talk to my parents and husband everyday. Again, my deepest sympathy.

May 13, 2014
by: Doreen UK

Lisa you and your husband are in the most difficult place right now having both lost your mother's. I am sorry for your losses.
Grief is one of the most painful experiences which no one can understand unless going through this. The best way forward is taking ONE DAY AT A TIME. I lost my mother 11yrs. ago and remember well that awful day going out and buying mother's day gifts not realizing she was already dead. I had to take all those gifts back to the shop. A very painful thing to do. I felt my grief more when I lost my husband of 44yrs. 2yrs. ago to cancer. I nursed him for 3yrs.39days. Every day hurts so much without our family unit together. Two of the most important people in one's life lost and a grief hard to bear.
It will take a long time to start to feel you are able to move on. But you will recover in time. This gives one hope, knowing we will survive our loss and won't always feel this awful pain of grief. Believing in God is my comfort and Hope otherwise I couldn't cope. May God Comfort you both and help your recovery from grief.

May 12, 2014
Multiple losses
by: Canada

Hello Lisa,
My deepest sympathies for your losses. In the last 12 years, I have lost both parents, two brothers and a sister. Three months ago, I lost my dear wife to a long bitter fight with cancer. I was her primary care giver for the last 6 months of her life and I saw her take her last breath. The pain is immense and with the pain of the other losses, I have to admit that I feel very overwhelmed. We are a Christian family and I know where my wife, parents and siblings are and the tears that I shed today are for my own pain and loneliness. I am angry with the situation and at times angry with God. However, I also know that it is my faith in God that will see me through this. I will never be the same, especially since the loss of my wife but I just know that I will survive and I will get through this. I will keep you and your family in prayer.

May 12, 2014
loss of mother and mother-in-law
by: Nadine

Lisa, I am so sorry to read of you losing your mother and mother-in-law in such a short period of time. This must be a very stressful time for you and your husband. My motto is one day at a time and rest as much as possible. I lost my mom in 1995 and still miss her a lot. Mother's Day must have been so hard for you both :( While out this weekend a few people wished me a happy Mother's Day. I know they mean well and i usually just say thank you but it isn't a happy day for some (i also lost my son). I do pray you two can find comfort in your time of sorrow. Nadine

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