live like you are dying

by Audrey
(Omaha ne)

I lost my husband and best friend, the love of my life. He made me laugh and cry and I didn't tell him enough how much I loved him.
He had heart disease in his family, and did not take very good care of himself in his younger years. He had a heart attack 12 years ago. It left him with alot of damage but did not take his spirit.
He went through many difficult situations, but always smiled, had a kind word for everyone and still played in a band even though he only had 25% of his heart working. He learned the song "live like you are dying" by Tim McGraw, and lived by it. He always encouraged others to do the same. I miss this man with all my heart, but I can smile becuase I know that is what he wanted. The reality is in my head, but not my heart. I have a long journey ahead of me, learning how to deal with the grief is a part of it, that I sometimes hate. I believe everyone has a unique story but the pain is universal. It has been 8 months, not a long time but it seems like a life time. The first are hard, thanksgiving, christmas, new years. so many that carry lots of tears

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Nov 28, 2012
Live like you are dying
by: Anonymous

Hi Audrey,

Your story really struck a chord with me. I'm living with a husband who is, no-one knows when, dying. He had a catastrophic stroke back in February this year and I think that, somehow, he and your husband must have crossed paths at some point in time.

Your husband sounds like a real hero. Mine is too. He knows that he isn't going anywhere beyond his long-term care home, but still manages to make this last stage of his journey bearable and even, at some times, fun.

I do feel for you. I understand your agonizing loneliness and sense of loss. Karl is still here, but not really. He will never be back with me, and is quite brain-damaged, so that he's more like my son than my husband. But I cherish the hours I spend with him, never knowing how long he'll be here. When he does go, I hope it's like your husband, surrounded by love and care.

Take good care of yourself now. And cherish those memories. I'm starting to stockpile mine!


Nov 28, 2012
Live like you are dying.
by: Doreen U.K.

Audrey I am sorry for your loss of your husband. You are in the throes of raw grief. You will be like this for some time as grief is so very hard and difficult to bear.
I lost my husband of 44yrs. 6 months ago to cancer and I know how you feel when your loved one has died and part of you is pining for him. I feel the same way as you do. I would like to know this song live like you are dying. I am dying while I am living as are others through a loss of a loved one.
We somehow get the strength to fight another day.
Grief is Universal and it has the same language and expression from the soul.
I hope you are comforted in your sorrow and grief and that Life will be kind to you.

Nov 28, 2012
Live like your dying
by: Cindy

Your story of your husband and mine sound a like. He had 10% blood flow due to his damaged heart. He played drums in a Christain band. He loved and always had kind words. He was a fighter and when he slipped from this life he did it on his terms "in my arms at home." We as family were able to hold him and talk with him from 10:50 PM to 9:49 AM. They came for him and I did what I had always done stood watch to make sure he was taken very good care of. Each of our stories are very different yet they meet. We each are on a journey. Please know I will think of you often.
Blessings Cindy

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