losing 2 brothers too soon

by sonya
(batesville, arkansas,united states)

3 years ago I lost my brother jay. he was 31 years old. My son found him laying on the back deck of his dads house . He had layed there all night struggling with his breathing and finally about 3 am his heart gave out and he died. no one knew what he was going thru or that he was even laying there dying.
now I have lost my youngest brother, David. He was 32 and was in a car wreck last friday,and killed. He had just left my house and was headed to pick up his buddy , so they could go to work. He came over that morning and hung out with me and our other brother, john. He was there for a good 3 hours, which was very odd, but it was nice. He hadnt been to my house in quite awhile. Now I am so very glad I got those 3 hours with him. I just dont understand how this could be happening again. We just burried him ystrdy. Am I supose to just be fine now? I cant seem to accept this. it's just not fair in any way at all!

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Sep 27, 2013
losing 2 brothers too soon
by: Doreen UK

Sonya I am sorry for your loss of brothers Jay and David. You will be feeling this loss of both brothers for some time as grief is a slow process to heal from. Time is all we have.
You aren't expected to get over this loss any time soon, so don't let anyone tell you that you should be over it. One never gets over a loss. WE just learn to live with our loss in time. Time can be anything from months to years. It depends on the bond one has with those individuals we lost. If you find yourself struggling at all you can have a few sessions with a grief counsellor. This can help the grief experience. I found that the most helpful way was TAKING ONE DAY AT A TIME. It works. I don't look too far ahead. It is tempting to, but I bring myself back to the day I have and just try to get through this. I then slowly put things in my life just for that day. None of us knows what each day will bring with new challenges so I do only what I can. If this be nothing then I give myself the day off and do something that will nurture me back from my grief. Being good to one's self is so HEALING.

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