Losing Eric

by Trina
(MI.)

I lost my son on July 28, 2011. He was crushed to death in a car accident, the result of a driver who was intoxicated and high on drugs. Eric had no idea that his 'friend' was impaired the night he got into that car. I find it totally ironic that Eric's death happened this way because he was a recovering substance user himself. He was enjoying life clean and sober for the first time in years, spending time with his family and reconnecting with cousins and friends. He was so proud of himself that God had given him the strength to fight his demons. He would call or text me every morning on my way to work to say 'Good morning mom. It's good to be alive and feeling this good'. I yearn now to hear those words, to hear his voice,to hug him and tell him how very much I love him.

This is a pain worse than anything I've ever known, and something that God does not prepare you for. I had hoped that after a year I would be back to 'normal', but that doesn't fit into my vocabulary now. Life will never be 'back to normal'. There are days and weeks when I feel like I'm getting back to life, but then out of the clear blue I hit bottom. Sometimes I can feel the grief coming on, other times it just slaps me in the face and I'm out of sync for a few days. I have a lot of well-meaning girlfriends and they have been a good support system for me, along with my church, but unless you've been thru this kind of grieving you have no clue how to help. Most of the time all I want is someone to listen to me, to let me cry, to comfort me and walk with me thru this pain.

Nothing can ever replace my beautiful son, but I know that one day I will see him again. For now I have beautiful memories to hold onto.

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Dec 03, 2012
I know how you feel
by: Carol, Seans Mom

Trina, I lost my beautiful son on November 15,2011. This year has been absolutely devastating to my life. Life can never be the same with such an important part of our lives gone. I still have no idea how to live. I have changed into someone I don't know. I am so sad and full of pain , I just like to be alone. I want to die everyday but my daughters here need there mom. They have been through so much I try to hang in there for them. I hope for peace for anyone suffering this awful loss..

Dec 03, 2012
I know how you feel
by: Anonymous

Trina, I lost my beautiful son on November 15,2011. This year has been absolutely devastating to my life. Life can never be the same with such an important part of our lives gone. I still have no idea how to live. I have changed into someone I don't know. I am so sad and full of pain , I just like to be alone. I want to die everyday but my daughters here need there mom. They have been through so much I try to hang in there for them. I hope for peace for anyone suffering this awful loss..

Dec 02, 2012
Losing Eric
by: Doreen U.K.

Trina I am sorry for your loss of your son Eric.
I know what you mean. The pain is like nothing you have ever experienced and God hasn't prepared us for death. All God says to us is. SORROW. "But don't Sorrow as those who have no HOPE." Hard as it is God is in Control and knows when we will all die.
Many family members and friend can be supportive, but feel helpless to be supportive as they don't know what to say to us. Often many feel that they must say SOMETHING to benefit us. But often they can say nothing that will console us. My sister is spot on. She is supportive in the way I need it. Yet my other sister is clueless but tries her best but often makes things worse by saying the wrong thing. And there is the odd occassion when she does say the right thing at the time. People that have personalities that lends itself to being a people pleaser rarely can be supportive or comfort us in the way we need. It is not their fault. It is just that they are not gifted in that way. You are right often all we need is someone to listen to us and let us off load ourselves as often as we need to and to let us cry. I lost my husband to cancer 7 months ago and life is so very difficult and LONELY. To lose a child is the very worst thing you could go through nearly all who lose a child/Adult child need the support of a grief counsellor. This may be the best route for you. I Hope that God will Comfort you in your sorrow and grief from losing Eric.

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