Losing Mom

by Jane
(North Carolina)

It has been a year since I lost my mom and I think of her every day. She was such a profound influence and part of my life. Everything reminds me of her. I was lucky to have her as my mother as she was the ideal in so many ways. She was kind, patient, loving and wise. She was a great friend to me as well. I regret that I was not a better friend to her. I did not want to acknowledge or discuss the day she died because that is not how I want to remember her. I will always recognize her birthday. Despite my thoughts on this,I can't seem to not think of it, which I guess is normal. Thanksgiving and Christmas were terrible times this past year and I fear they will continue to be for some time. I struggled to get through these times and days. My mom loved traditions for family and instilled this in all of her children. It is hard now without her. I wish I could run away and hide sometimes but I am the one that carries on her traditions for the family or tries to. It is the most difficult loss I have ever had to deal with.

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Aug 30, 2013
Losing Mom
by: Doreen U.K.

Jane losing a mom is such a difficult time in any son or daughters life. We enjoy all the family traditions and when the main person who made it all happen is not there it leaves such an emptiness in our life. You may lose the motivation to keep up these traditions for a while. don't despair this is just a moment thing. Try and rope in some other family members to help you. don't feel you have to do it all by yourself. But it is important to keep up the traditions for those who are left in our life. These are the traditions that create good family harmony and memories. Your mother would be happy that these traditions are kept up. She established them for a purpose. I like family traditions. They seem to form a contract for the foundation of the family.
My husband loved Christmas. He died 15 months ago of cancer and so I won't be looking forward to Christmas from now on. I have to maintain some type of celebration in cooking traditionally. But all the trimmings will not be there. Family gatherings are gone now as the two eldest Adult Children are married now and will form their own traditions. This is understandable. It can also be a fun experience planning and doing something different. I am sorry for your loss of your Mom.

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